Tag: Relationships

Categories
Anatomy and physiology of life Business mind. Self-help life truths. Stories to ponder. The free mind of a human god!

The Kindness Given.

 

A woman did help a desperate friend to cope with life and mental anxiety right after a sudden divorce, after her friend was left by her husband and two grown up kids.

She was also helped with a new job and moral support.  The woman helping her friend was a very nice and kind person, morally upright, and saw herself as doing kindness in helping her friend without expecting anything in return.

But at the same she carried a little resentment after she had helped her friend for almost a year, because as nice as she was she had subconsciously been expecting a thank you and a heartfelt speech of gratitude from her friend who was now traveling to live with her mother and doing much better.  

images

 

Now, this can be misunderstood by people when you are not truly awakened and aware of your ego.  Expecting a thanks or some kind of recognition or gratitude is actually doing business, and doing business is a trade for your own benefit, your own profit–i.e., I help you, you give me psychological and emotional rewards by giving me gratitude and by owing me one if I ever need your help.

This business, which you might carry out unconsciously, is not doing something out of your kindness, no matter what society says or teaches about this.  If you do help somebody, you do it ENTIRELY out of your heart and without ANY expectation of benefit whatsoever.

If you expect something, even small, in return for your kindness, isn’t that turning into business…??  So, when you do something, you do it right because you feel morally guided to do right, and not because you seek some emotional benefit for the building of your ego.

Study yourself in this.  Do not allow yourself to be unconscious when it comes to giving; for love only gives, expands outwardly, it does not make business or trades–only the ego trades and expects some sort of reward for kindness given.

54515019_648860888880610_4438677189486968832_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Business mind. Self-help life truths. Stories to ponder. The free mind of a human god!

Coming to terms.

 

img_0088

 

Whatever you feel is your own making, because whatever you feel has been created by a stream of thoughts you chose, perhaps thoughts you chose out of a bad situation; nevertheless, you chose that thought and you chose how you feel right now.

Quite often people get into certain situations, or accept the behavior of other people, or endure such and such suffering because they expect it or that person to change–i.e., they expect the apple tree to stop giving apples and give oranges instead.

When you are nurturing flowers in your garden you do not expect the weeds around them to just disappear on their own just because you wished it so, right??  If the weeds choke the flowers or if the weeds bring you some form of suffering, then it is your own fault; for you were expecting the weeds nature to change and adjust to your naive wishes.

So, the expectation was the thoughts you followed in your ignorance, and no one can be blamed for that but you; for it all happens in your mind.  Life is about this, about knowing yourself and your psychology, coming to terms with and understanding your own thinking process.  Why…??

Because your thinking process designs how you feel and what you experience–i.e., a “broken heart,” depression, joy, misery, jealousy, happiness, excitement, anger, etc.; it is all your thinking process and the thoughts you entertain daily.

54523570_648335968933102_3124290989296975872_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Anatomy and physiology of life Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

An Eternity of Love.

54358757_645936539173045_6586906108802105344_n

 

Courage is the absence of attachment to fear; for fear is a strong vibration which we must transmute in order to use in our advantage.  Attachment to fear then is what brings any frustration, anxiety, and lack of peace in the mind; therefore, attachment must go.

Due to a life without attachments arises real love, the essence of it all, the profound connection to intelligence, harmony, and true relationship.  True relationship then, being the heart of existing as a human creature, must be true love, which is life without attachments; for any attachment brings fear, and if there exists any fear then love is not.

Love then brings everything good and moral, like courage, integrity, emotional openness, freedom to be, and all harmony in the mind and life of the person.  Now, one must see the difference between love and pleasure, because the mundane world does not know the difference and so infects everyone with this terrible ignorance:

Love brings no fear and anxiety whatsoever to the mind, and in fact if you are experiencing any sort of fear in your life right now then there is lack of love.  And love is not an emotional roller coaster either, so analyze how you feel each moment to know where you stand in life.

Pleasures bring you pleasant experiences as well, but opposite to love they bring you also anxiety, stress, obsessions; for pleasure is limited to your human activities in time–human activities are designed by the ego, whether balanced ego or not it is never perfect.

But one certainly has to watch out for this, because most people today, in total ignorance, expect pleasures to be love; however, love is not limited to an activity of the ego or the mind–and, not being limited, love is perfect, but pleasures are not.

the-greatest-pleasure-of-life-is-love-quote-1

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

The Wealth of Listening.

 

stress

 

There is too much noise in our minds, always chattering in there, wanting to express what we think and feel, trying to liberate how we feel about the world, what we hold dear to us and what we think of others.

But the truth is, no matter how freeing and good expressing ourselves through thoughts and words might be, there is no deeper connection and more direct communication quite often than silence.  The wealth of listening is wealth like no other.

And not just mental silence is needed, but sometimes listening to others, listening for others to express their feelings, to liberate themselves, is allowing for this deeper connection to happen.

Because love and this connection is not found in thoughts or words, as good and noble as these might be; however, we must become silent in our minds and stop our chattering egos to really build a better connection and base of the true essence of what we call love.

And this means not only listening to others, but quite often just being there, sharing our time, allowing our silent hearts to speak through just sitting there with the person or persons we love.  This is true love.


This understanding is paramount to be fully moral in character and so build all our healthy and truthful relationships in life, because indeed life is about relationships with yourself and with another.

1460674132984.jpg

 

So, then, you must learn to listen to yourself and to others properly.  We all must.  Not later, but now.

53303517_644326916000674_6871699089482842112_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Business mind. Self-help life truths. Stories to ponder.

Learning from imperfections.

 

Survival is competition, isn’t it…??  I mean, survival means struggle, it means I will beat you and be better than you, it means I will come up ahead in an argument or in this or that.

And that is why surviving never brings happiness or love to anyone and, of course, not to any relationship. 

When people desire to live together, get along with each other, enjoy life and enjoy themselves together, survival instinct has to be replaced by a mentality of pure love to understand and accept each other.

It is a given that no person is the same as the other, people are different, minds and feelings are diverse.  It doesn’t matter how similar their minds and lifestyles are, they indeed have differences in some aspect of life and living.

So, your mind has to be prepared to accept and love, to understand the meaning of your relationship with another, whether a family member or a romantic partner, whether a friend or a neighbor who just moved. 

This is the pathway towards learning in life.

 

quote-the-true-way-and-the-sure-way-to-friendship-is-through-humility-being-open-to-each-other-mother-teresa-85-39-57

And to learn from one another you must appreciate one another, such being appreciating the differences of one another.  This does not mean absolutely loving every aspect of the other person, but it does mean accepting and respecting the other person entirely, even when you do not agree in something together.

 

No one is perfect, but we can still learn from imperfections.

52937481_640826376350728_6403427876170891264_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

 

 

 

Categories
Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

Intimacy.

 

So, I think that to understand what intimacy really is, one must go to the origins of it.  What is to be intimate…??  Where is this substance of intimacy created…??  Is it part of love, or a creation of society…??

Let’s see, love is deep connection and understanding, and it is dwelling within you; and to experience it in your everyday life you must make it conscious, you must create and bring this love into your mind.

Now, intimacy, being that love is intimacy itself, is also within you.  Intimacy then has nothing to do with sex, or a relationship with another.  Of course, you can bring intimacy into a relationship with another; however, intimacy, being love, must be first cultivated and developed within yourself, consciously in your mind.

Do you know why people have sex, get into relationships, get married, and still have problems which lead to separations, trust broken, and lots of pain…??  No intimacy.  And the problem is that they never developed intimacy within themselves first.

How can you truly love another if you do not know love….??  How can you cherish and respect another if you do not cherish and respect yourself first…??  How can you be truly intimate with another if you do not know intimacy…??  People fail in creating love within themselves, so they cannot, even if they try, truly love another.

Getting in touch with your emotions, integrity in character, accepting and respecting yourself–this creates intimacy in your mind.  Seeking love and happiness outside yourself because you feel empty and needy inside–this creates lack of intimacy, lack of love, and suffering which you bring to another in a relationship.

 

51261429_639239479842751_5164915404295897088_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

Value in relationships.

 

ec97d462f0321b5361a43ce72b9efd5c

Each one of us, as human creatures in this physical life, seeks to feel acknowledged and valued by the people who surrounds us; for we all have a need for love and happiness in our very personal experiences, and such means we all need to feel respected and cherished by what we think, feel and do.

The core, the great vitality and purpose of life is to develop ourselves in regards to relationships–i.e., relationships with ourselves and with others; friendships, romance, family, acquaintance, and discover the deep connection between each one of us and the world.

This tells us that relationships must be developed strongly, based on a deep love and understanding, that respect towards each other’s different points of views and personalities must be understood and even celebrated.  Because we can all learn from each other–from the good and the bad.

But a human relationship may be fragile if it is not taken seriously, if it is not based on patience and understanding, respect and commitment to growth; therefore, no matter what impulses, what psychological temptations, what outbursts of anxiety we feel at a given moment, honesty and integrity must guide and build our character.

All can be reconciled in a relationship but a deep break of trust, because the first to be kept is your own self-respect and value; but by allowing lies, cheating, disrespect from others, you are certainly disrespecting yourself and devaluing yourself–which sooner or later will take you to self-loathing by adopting feelings of paranoia and confusion, and so a sure self-destruction.

52605288_638736516559714_852711133226729472_n

 

So, know that no matter the situation or the disease (in the case of somebody whose excuse to lie and cheat is some mental one) or the excuse somebody gives you for any reason, your self-worth, the love to yourself comes first; therefore, you must do what you must in order to keep your mental peace and harmony.  Walking away without looking back is often what will give you your peace and harmony back, so do not hesitate on doing this; for it is about your ABSOLUTE happiness and integrity/loyalty towards yourself.

 

82c0ade704ba8ce1025261beb0c0e01a

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Anatomy and physiology of life Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

To make someone else truly happy.

 

51638108_629960460770653_2255353753093799936_n

 

Beyond the laughter this photo can give us, this is actually true as well.  Demodex brevis is a type of mite that lives in the oil glands of human hair follicles; it is actually healthy in moderation, but with accumulation one can develop Rosacea and other diseases.

But still, why feel lonely though…??  Loneliness, in all its concepts and names, is really something which society invented.  The sole fact of comparison taught by society designs the thoughts and feelings of loneliness in you.

You see people on TV forming relationships, you hear of marriage here and there, your family tradition is having a big family perhaps, you have been told growing up that that is what you must do.  So you envy, and compare, and feel without value without another, and suffer this illusion designed by society.

You are slave to all this because there is no self-love active in you.  Until you accept that, you will feel miserable and compare your life to the life of others.  This is not being an individual.

An affair, love, relationship, passion for living, must first be developed in you, with you.  I know that you must read that often, but it is actually the basics in better living, the essence of physical life which is relationship.  But not with another, with yourself; learn to be alone with yourself, accept the way you think and feel, embrace your strengths and weaknesses, thrive in silence.

After that has been assimilated in your mental state, you can actually become love and happiness, then brighten your character and naturally attract others without confusing love with attachment.

And now you can actually love another with wisdom and understanding, and without any desperation, prejudice and attachment.  And because you are experienced and truly understand love now, as you have already become love and mastered relationship within yourself, you are ready to make someone else truly happy.

pablo-9

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Poetry and prose from the heart. Self-help life truths. Stories to ponder.

The Mind of Love.

love-looks-not-with-the-eyes-but-with-the-mind..jpg

 

Love is not man-made or a design of thought, but we must nurture it in our minds as well; and so in order to become understanding and experience its divine essence, its divine origins. To truly love ourselves, and another as well.

The intellect is ruled by concepts, philosophies, beliefs, opinions; therefore, all may form obsessions, stubbornness, goals. This can be good or bad for the evolution of our humanity; but it can certainly never be true love, for the intellect cannot know true love.

So, our minds must see beyond the intellect, beyond personal egos, to actually allow access to true love, to true connection from The Divine into the crudeness of our humanity, into the crudeness of our minds.

From there, it is all a question of keeping the intellect away from love.

 

“The Mind of Love“


O, the Mind of Love is gone from man!
Its divine grace and magic trampled.
How do I fly to the heights of heaven
When the intellect has stolen my wings …??
Just know the Father in God is wisdom,
And know the Mother in God is true love;
Both must be One Soul of Light in me,
As my being becomes freedom’s dove.

To rend a hundred veils and just be,
To do away with society and the world,
To acquire liberation from goals of “I”–
This is The Mind of Love of the lovers.
Within a silent mind, beyond petty time;
Within a simple gaze, the whole universe:
It is how The Mind of Love exists truly,
It is how our lives remain a poetic verse.

 

51327400_624857114614321_3127303694106755072_n

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3

Categories
Anatomy and physiology of life Business mind. Self-help life truths. The free mind of a human god!

The light in the storm.


The heavier and longer the hardship, or the challenging and enduring the suffering, the more strength and wisdom that can be absorbed and learned from it, in my own experience; however, one must remain faithful and positive, or at least have some awareness to see your situations through.

Why do you think one has to suffer, or go through losses, or fall into depressing times or challenges in life…??  We all go through it, rich and poor, educated and uneducated, man and woman, young and old; and it all comes to us for a reason, it all fits a design, which your mind does not have to understand really, you just have to be humble enough to accept what is and learn from it.

Whether you think you deserve it or not, accept what is happening right now; and accept that you have much to learn still, even though all the knowledge you have and your past experiences.  Fools ask themselves “Why??” in the very rain and thunder of the storm, but the intelligent ones know to resist the storm and observe it in order to remember what we lived and so learn from it.


Life is truly the greatest teacher, not Jesus, not Buddha, not any other man or deity you worship or to whom you pray; but life is divine, which means that life, YOUR life, is highly conscious, it knows you and it forges you to be a better human being.  The thing is, that life cannot force you to learn from the challenges and hardships it gives you; but that is up to you, either to choose depression and ego, or to choose resilience and wisdom.

Not easy for anyone, but 100% worth it; because each one of us has greatness inside, to build a great destiny or fate or future, or however you want to call it.  But the direction you take is measured by your response to the challenges you live, and the decisions you make in your mind are everything.

 

50303787_619819651784734_2252082675936395264_n

 

 

Follow me on my Facebook public page: https://www.facebook.com/AsaRodriguez3