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Worthy of love

Love is inherent in us. In all of us. For all of us. One may have the greatest challenges, problems, heartbreaks; however, we are ALL worthy of love, and capable of giving love. As long as you are breathing and not in a comatose state, you can give love and receive it. But, in order to do this, we must become love first. What is that mean…?? It means we must move forward, not remain attached to the past hurt or failure or mistake. Maybe our childhood was tragic. Perhaps someone cheated on us in our past. Or many other terrible things. But, for this reason, moving on, focusing on building a new purpose in us, in our activities and daily habits, is what we must do to create love in our experience.

To open your heart and let yourself be loved by someone, you must stop following the heartbreaks and disappointments your past brings, and stop devaluing yourself and judging yourself based on past mistakes or in the way someone treated you in the past. Love, and your worthiness to be loved, is not measured by your self-pity and ego. Being loved is about moving on and opening yourself to new experiences for yourself without looking back. Love is a manifestation of moving forward with purpose and faith in yourself.

Now, of course, it is easy for us to feel hurt and remain attached to this, pity ourselves and live in hurtful memories. Sometimes, without knowing, we find pleasure in feeling like a victim. But feeling like a victim is letting our minds increase ego, and this increase lowers our chances to truly become better persons and build a better life for ourselves. And life is all about moving forward, is it not…?? We are meant to move on and leave the past where it is, behind us. Whether that past has been good or not, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you become aware that love and happiness resides in the passion and commitment to move forward. You create yourself anew by moving forward. So, never tell yourself that you cannot move forward into better things; because this is what true living is, moving forward, feeling accomplished by creating new purpose in your day to day.


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I ALWAYS LOVED YOU

Love is at the very core of life. No concepts from society. No concepts from our egos. Love is action. And if you feel true love for yourself, for others, for the world, then you become confident, you lose anxiety and drama in your life, you become the lover. A better and kinder lover. A lover of life.

Introducing “I ALWAYS LOVED YOU” now in audiobook. It is a book about becoming a lover in life, in your relationships, in all you go through. It is about becoming an individual, unique, yourself entirely without pretending, and not following or copying how others love in society. It is about learning relaxing your mind and easing you into the very core of the best life: Love.

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU” is now on audiobook form.

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Breaking the rules.

What is love to you…??

Without putting labels and concepts to it, how do you love…??

Can you leave the rules, ways of thinking and believing when it comes to loving…??

How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love. And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.

Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves. People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.

So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.


I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.

Now, this one following is my first YA fantasy/mystery novel. It is similar, as in epic adventure type, as “Harry Potter” and “Lord of The Rings.” See if it is your kind of read.

Goodreads review:

“A story of a young 12 years old orphan boy who get guided by Indian Spiritual Guru Adit Acharya. Being Indian, I got attached with the story easily. Story line is very good. Lot of things to learn. Author Asa Rodriguez has written very good life quotes on True Love. The story is very much inspiring. I recommend this book to youngsters as adults.” ~ Ashish Jain.

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Meaning.

What is the meaning of life…?? Isn’t that personal??

But what is that feeling of belonging naturally born in ourselves??

It is not about others, but about yourself.

To feel in a relationship is vital. Life is relationship, because life is one thing divided into many; however, it is still one thing, the illusion is the division. Relationship is that feeling of belonging. When that feeling of belonging ends, then one contemplates suicide. Life has no meaning without feeling that relationship. And to be truly successful in that relationship is growing as a human being.

If you’re feeling like you’re failing, then you’re losing humanity, until life loses meaning for you. Success is not in anything but you, and relationships are about your inner growth. ALL relationships. If you are in a relationship and not growing, get out of that meaningless void. Seek to be better yourself. Let others worry about themselves. Don’t waste your time and lose meaning yourself.

Nothing is more important than this. We are creatures of relationship. We feel deep. We feel hurt. We feel loneliness. We feel rejection. We feel abandonment. But we also feel love in ourselves. And that love must be nurtured in you daily. And for this nurturing to take place in you, you must watch yourself, take care of yourself, stand up for yourself, seek your own respect and admiration. Do not focus on others. Even though we may love others, the only one who can love you unconditionally and throughout life, the only one who can strengthen you and make you into a successful human being in all aspects, is YOU.


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To stay in love…

Love can be difficult at times. Why??

Why does people turn to suicide??

Why can someone fall into great depression for a long time, even bringing down the immune system??

So, love. Love this. Love that. We can say that it is full of concepts. “Jealousy love.” “Angry love.” “Anxious love.” “Obsession love.” “Frustrated love.” And all the “loves” the mind interprets, right…?? But surely you can understand that these concepts are deviations, corruptions of our minds. Because if love is to be the greatest thing in life, in existence, then love cannot be these aforementioned. And love is the greatest thing in life indeed. Think about it. Love is a connection to life. It must inspire you. It must help you become confident, moral, strong in your own life.

So, if someone is to find true love without deviations and concepts, then this someone must get out from his head. Your mind overthinks everything. Love is distorted in this thinking. So, thinking, as tempting as it can be, to judge, to interpret things, to analyze this and that, doesn’t do much good if you seek to be in love. People kill themselves from overthinking in life. Suicide, depression, OCD, anxiety of all kind. Most mental illnesses exist because people overthinks and allows themselves to make concepts in life and in love. Can you see this?? Because it is extremely important. It’s not about being a doctor or about having lots of experience, but it is about leaving your concepts and think for a second about what I write here.

And I am not talking about the concept of romantic love, friendship, or some philosophy; but I am talking about true love. True love is that sensation of morality and goodness in you. And that feeling of positivity and strength in you. This love is about your everyday living, not relationships. No depression. No overthinking. No anxiety. Just love. Just being. If things don’t go as expected in life, don’t depress yourself, don’t pity yourself; but seek hard in you for some positivity. Stop overthinking and analyzing things to death. Life is to be lived. Do your best. But don’t let your mind bring you down, your immune system and all you are. So, you simply give love to life. Every day. You give your best and move on. Don’t think too much. Let it be.


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What love is.

So, what is love…??

And what is morality??

Are they different??

Are they one and the same??

Think about it.

Love is not about what you think or feel, but about what you do. True love then is 100% morality, not romantic phrases, not passions and desires, and not just acting on what brings you joy and pleasure. Love is moral character, not what everyone around you does. Love starts in yourself, not in your ego which is always seeking comfortable ways to belong to the crowds around you–whether friends, family, society in general. This desire for belonging is a sickness which dulls humankind. Because love is not taught. Experiences can indeed be taught. Traditions can be taught. That which brings acceptance and pleasure can be taught. But true love is an individual who carries, and is not burdened by, no influence from any source at all.

So, how can someone seek love in another?? If love is in you, presented to your conscience as your own moral character, how can love be out there?? So many people seek it out there, as sex, as relationships, as family, as a career, as money, as prestige, as this and that. This is the sickness. The sickness which makes someone frustrated, obsessive, violent, jealous, depressed, etc. In my book titled, I ALWAYS LOVED YOU – Creatutres of Eternal Love” – https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085H8LZQ3 , I talk about how love is not of the mind, not of your beliefs, theories, or any influence from family and friends. We are creatures who easily fall trap of the illusion, of the world; however, love, as happiness, is not of the world, and cannot be found there.

While the world has beliefs about love. People making vows and ceremonies. People protesting human and animal rights. People posting nice pictures and videos on social media. You must become love yourself for it to be true in you. How…?? By adopting healthier eating habits. By seeking information on what they do to animals before you eat them. By not jumping from relationship into relationship yourself while expecting to be given love this way. By seeking to be content and truthful with yourself. By going beyond your ego and understanding why you hold beliefs and opinions, philosophies and anxiety in your mind. Liberation from all this means love. Don’t just agree or disagree with these words, but seek more information, expand your mind, seek to understand what morality is and change yourself.

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What brings happiness

So, what is morality?? And what does it take?? Is anybody really above it??

Some people act like they can cruise through life only pursuing their own pleasures.

So, why do people this?? And what is the connection between a good life and a great moral character??

It took me years of personal struggle, trial and error, many losses and tragedies; but I finally understood that no one is really above morality, specially me… Please check out my article “Critique on Morality.” that I think clarifies many things about it… Morality is the highest expression of love and understanding in the human being, because it is about empathy and doing what is healthy and right. Morality has nothing to do with our minds. Our minds may want to vote for this politician, or eat this or that food, or take revenge on somebody because we believe is just; however, these are just constructs and impulses of our minds, and also ways to please ourselves.

Morality goes with truth. The good life is not a life of money, position in society, a big family, traveling, the best education money can give; but it is moral character. Moral character gives us courage to never doubt our choices. With moral character I just follow what is healthy for myself and for others, and I don’t have to second guess myself because this moral character gives me freedom to be myself, my best self, and this makes me truly happy. Happiness comes when I do what is right. If I smoke, I will eventually get sick, maybe even suffer lung cancer. This is what will happen whether I want it or not. If I do not eat right, as I grow and my body changes I will suffer illnesses, obesity, will have many problems to enjoy my life. If I cheat on my loved ones, or embezzle money, or do illegal deals, or any other greedy action, then I will suffer the consequences one way or another, and I will not be happy with myself.

A happy life and moral character go hand in hand, but too often people try to get away with many immoral things while expecting to be truly happy. This is irrational. This is like jumping into the ocean without knowing how to swim, but at the same time expecting to enjoy yourself in the ocean. I think that people quite often live their lives unaware. Awareness of your mental states. That is crucial to live a good life, specially a life which is not bringing you anxiety. Any morality, if it’s true, is about the harmony in our minds. This harmony in our minds only exists if we do what is moral, not what we want but what is based on truth. Only truth brings happiness. So, remain aware of your choices and of what you do at all times. What are the consequences that this will bring me?? Why do I feel the need to do this?? Is anybody or anything pressuring me to do this?? Inquire, transform yourself; and don’t relay on others to know what is moral. Society does not know morality. Only the individual knows it.


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Potential for happiness.

So, how does one choose what’s important in his life…?? How does one measure happiness?? The essence of happiness. Now, one thing to understand is that pleasure and happiness are two different things. Pleasure is something of the mind and relevant for this society, like money, like the need to form relationships, like a career, like the need to belong to a group. This could be good or bad. Your choice. But a deeper look into happiness tells us that happiness in none of these things. What happens if all these things I have mentioned are taken away…?? How would you feel if there is no money, no relationship with another, no career, no support and validation from a group??

Happiness, on the other hand, is something which exists in you, no matter what you have or do not have. Money cannot give you happiness for example. Money is good, but it can only give you pleasure. The pleasure to buy the food you like. The pleasure to support yourself and your family financially. The pleasure to travel. The pleasure to buy a computer and connect through the internet with millions of people. And all this pleasure is necessary or not in our societies, but it is not relevant to happiness. Just because you have money, a family, a career, or belong to a political or religious group, does not mean you’re happy. Happiness is in you, in your thoughts of inspiration and positivity; however, it has nothing to do with the superficial, even if important to you, achievements in society.

I have written an article which expands on our inner capacity. Please take a read. Hope you find it helpful: Strength. Courage. Passion.

This leads us to Great intelligence. This intelligence is not intellectual. This intelligence is highly moral, of your heart, and it speaks loudly of your inner spirit. Money cannot give you this intelligence. Books, family, religion, politics, cannot give you this intelligence. Because this intelligence is the capacity in you to be happy. Love and happiness. Plain and simple. You may have had a terrible childhood. You may have had a tragic trauma. You may be carrying much distress, loneliness, misery right now; however, the magic to actually be happy despite this still is in you. When you were a child, it was there. But as you grew up, the stress of this society, the stress to make money, the stress to build family life, the stress of disliking other religions and political parties affected you. You, subconsciously, without knowing, allowed it to happen. But you can still recover this if you reach deep within you, but it takes surrendering your anxious mind to your heart.

This one is about a little hope, learning through life, and the strength to do it. Thought it could be relevant as well: Thus Awaken…

Thanks for reading. If interested, read this one about the main characters of my new young adult/fantasy novel titled “BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman.” I am really proud of these characters: BENJAMIN JONES. Fiction characters.

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NONFICTION

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

YOUNG ADULT FICTION

“BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman”: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MBFXSR9?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

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Just love her.

TO MEN. JUST LOVE HER:

If she wants you, don’t worry about the rest. Love her entirely, with passion and honesty; and she will be yours, as long as you do this. The feminine just wants to feel loved, feel her own beauty blooming. This is her sole purpose for existence. This is her nature.

She has been born in a physical body to learn about her own beauty, and to feel the emotional and physical affection her soul’s nature craves. As you love her, she will find safety and comfort, freedom and sweetness in herself and with you. This will inspire her to better herself, to love herself, to keep herself beautiful and passionate.

She will mold to the masculine if she feels truly loved, free to be herself, and without judgment from him. If man can stop trying so hard. If man can stop overthinking. If man can stop trying to control and fix everything, then she becomes his in mind, heart and body.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my books.

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“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

Fiction

BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MBFXSR9?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

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The right one.

It so happens that life is really just a mirror of us. Not a mirror of our desires. Because most of us desire goodness for ourselves and for others. And most of us also desire good lives. But this does not really help. Thoughts and feelings do not create your life, but behaviors do. The right habits daily mold your character, build your life slowly.

1- If a man wants a beautiful and healthy looking woman, he must be that; which means that he must take care of his health, mind and body. Once he becomes that, he can now attract and get the same from a woman.

2- If a woman wants a good and decent man who seeks true love, then she must become opened to meet good and decent men in the right places, but she must be patient and not give herself easily. She must give herself time to fall for such man. She must get to know him deeply and not fall for romantic or lustful words and advances.

These are just two examples out of the many. Point being that in life you must become first. You want love?? Become it first in your daily behaviors towards yourself and others. You want success?? Become that yourself in the same way. You want happiness?? Become that as well. Life will give you what you already are inside yourself. So many people reach wealth status, have big families, great positions in society; however, this is not love and happiness. They must become inside themselves first. Take this to heart and adopt better habits. Take care of your body and mind. Become yourself all you seek in life.

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“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.