If she wants you, don’t worry about the rest. Love her entirely, with passion and honesty; and she will be yours, as long as you do this. The feminine just wants to feel loved, feel her own beauty blooming. This is her sole purpose for existence. This is her nature.
She has been born in a physical body to learn about her own beauty, and to feel the emotional and physical affection her soul’s nature craves. As you love her, she will find safety and comfort, freedom and sweetness in herself and with you. This will inspire her to better herself, to love herself, to keep herself beautiful and passionate.
She will mold to the masculine if she feels truly loved, free to be herself, and without judgment from him. If man can stop trying so hard. If man can stop overthinking. If man can stop trying to control and fix everything, then she becomes his in mind, heart and body.
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The brain is your doorway or bridge to physical life. And this doorway or bridge must be kept strong and healthy. If your brain is allowed to age and become weak, then all sorts of illnesses and immoralities will possess your body while your very life becomes meaningless. One can keep feeling young and strong until the last breath; but most people allow their brains to age, so they cannot understand these words.
In order to keep your brain young and strong, obviously, one must adopt excellent habits.
1-No alcohol. No excess fats. Food must be well watched over. You must put in you all the different nutrients, vitamins, proteins, and all that which your body needs to develop with excellence. Scientific knowledge is what will lead you to health.
2-Now, also have in mind the situations in your life, more specifically the way you react to them. Always try to avoid stress and unnecessary frustration. Train yourself to seek inspiration away from dilemmas or worries. When the mind is filled by anxiety, your brain cells in time start dying. This brain cell death affects your entire nervous system and the immune system.
3-As mentioned, anxiety is terrible for the healthy development of the brain. So, you must seek the opposite of anxiety, which is silence, harmony, peace. I am talking about being with yourself, not always hanging out with others. When your brain frequencies are calm, then your brain begins creating new pathways or nervous tissue. This brings more insight, creativity, intelligence. And it also brings youth, beauty, positivity into you, reflected in your physical body, and seen in the way you respond to life itself.
4-Your brain requires nurture, care, attention, just like a relationship with another requires the same. This means to keep it always fresh and clean of toxins. Exercise does this magic. It doesn’t mean that you should spend hours exercising. If you also take care of the food you eat (#1), then just 10 minutes of exercise a day might be just what is needed. Exercise is like oiling your car, adding all the liquids, rotating the tires, doing the usual maintenance. Your body, as your brain, is your car; and exercise is like all the maintenance which keeps your car running smoothly.
To conclude, you can have all the ambitions, desires, pursuits you want; however, true success is not out there but inside you. How you feel, the quality of your life. This is true success, love, happiness. The quality of your life is the quality of your brain.
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When someone goes through psychological and emotional suffering is a cleanse, is the way life brings change by transmutation, even if the mind cannot see it right away.
All the shame, the disappointment, the frustration, have its purpose; and all in existence blooms at its right time, all it takes is for the mind to allow itself to acknowledge it through patience and a positive consistency.
“Your beauty shines in my tears“
When I look away from you, Far away from a place of love, I lose the beauty that you can be; For you are the muse of the artist in me, And the answers to my very sorrows. And I know you from long before, You are my shadow and you follow me. Why is it that you cling to me as I you…?? Oh, you are a part of me, just tell me?! We are friends and enemies in love, People see us in the street, They sneer at us and my mind rebels; And so we dance our concealed love song, And your beauty shines in my tears, Because it cleanses my soul, my ills. So, I must welcome you into my arms, Naked as you are, under the moon, And under the stars lighting my path.
A woman is the most beautiful and emotional creature in existence, because she is ruled and driven by her strong emotional content, by her powerful intuition and sincere feelings; but, she carries pain, much struggle, unfairness, all of them do, deep inside them.
The world, society, all industries and institutions of men seek to transform women to their standards, entice them and tie them to their views, and turn them into perfect ideals of aesthetical beauty.
But a true woman must rise from this, realize her place and stand up to all injustice; so claiming herself, in the name of herself, to finally be free and embrace the beautiful and intuitive creature she truly is.
“A smile and a gentleness…”
Your deepest thoughts are the treasure kept.
Your deepest feelings make you beautiful.
Oh beloved, raise yourself above the pain,
Quit your masks and surrender your burdens.
There is a smile and a gentleness inside you,
Which others might not be allowed to really see;
But it lifts you high above and it sets you free.
So leave all your anger and misapprehensions
From this corrupted world so beneath you,
Allow the lover in you to see itself as I see it.
Let the world around you crumble down!
The tempestuous skies be torn asunder!
The men who despise you be left in oblivion!
When everything is chaos you will forever glow,
And realize that you do not need the masks,
Nor the million ills and words said against you;
For love is from The Infinite and you are it.
How can the purest love be not embraced within you…??
To be true to yourself is to love who you are,
As you are, here, now, always and forever.
Are you stuck and you feel trapped and frustrated…?? It is all an illusion of your anxious ego; for you might have pressures, but you always have room to breathe and choices to make. It is your ability to see that, what you must have in your mind.
Indecision, overthinking, attachment to your expectations and old habits is the origin of your troubles, isn’t it…?? The prison is your own mind. Life is just evolving naturally. Situations and moments are not to be the leaders of how you think, feel and behave.
The situations and moments you live are there for a reason, but they are not there to either lead you to joy or to misery. You must lead yourself by self-discipline and training your own mind to experience what you desire to experience.
Experiences exist only within you, for what you think is outside you is just really a mirage, a reflection, the way in which physical reality manifests to your senses; but this must not trick you, deceive you, because all you ever experience lives in you and nothing can change that.
Each one of us sees life differently, feels it differently, and chooses differently, just because of that: Because life, as beauty, is in the inner eye of the beholder, which is within you creating itself by the filters of your mind. Filters (voices, images, ego, etc) that you must arrange according to your own desires.
By living one’s moment in full, energetically and with determination, the present and the future may be reconciled, befriended, united in harmony.
Because the problem is that by being worried, stressed, anxious about an outcome or future, we are unknowingly dividing the present from the future–i.e., I ignore my present and imagine a future or possible scenario, and this duality brings some form of disorder and chaos in the mental plane.
This game of mental representation or imagination is truly pointless, because it steals you from the actual origin of the creation of a better future–i.e., the eternal moment you live now. You unawares choose one false scenario and leave aside the real one. How can this help you…??
In just a few instances this imagination, this mental representation can indeed help you prepare for a future or become acquainted with something that may indeed happen; however, most of the time, this is pointless, because the origin of the future is not the future but the present lived thoroughly aware.
Obsession, anxiety, excitement, attachment, expectation for something not yet here can have its poisonous effects on your very biology, not just on your psychological and emotional states but on your immune system as well. All stress in time can turn out to be lethal.
The best thing you can do is to remain aware and planted on your moment, caring about what you do in the Now, working the best you can to build yourself and your life from the origin of Creation itself.
Beauty is in all things, from birth to death, from sunny days to an apocalypse, because beauty is the change which is brought by Natural Law; and this change creates evolution in existence, which goes far beyond the physical, of course.
But for the human mind to respect and see the beauty in everything, the activities of someone’s rigid ego have to be realized, and in order to do this the mind must be clear of confusion, strict rules, dogmas, personal views and opinions, it must expand and reconcile with the whole of existence.
For this, the mind must stay in the moment, reconcile with the Now, remain aware of what is currently happening–the experience whether pleasant or not. 🙏
When God created woman, he was working late on the 6th day… An angel came by and asked, “Why spend so much time on her?” The lord answered, “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her? She must function in all kinds of situations, she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time, have a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart. She must do all this with only two hands, she cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day.” The Angel was impressed. “Just two hands…impossible!” The Angel came closer and touched the woman. “But you have made her so soft, Lord.”
“She is soft,” said the Lord, “But I have made her strong also. You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome.”
“Can she think?” The Angel asked. The Lord answered, “Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate.” The Angel touched her cheeks. “Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her.” “She is not leaking…it is a tear,” The Lord corrected the Angel… “What’s it for?” asked the Angel… The Lord said, “Tears are her way of expressing her grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride, until she awakens and finds the goddess I have created beyond her gentle and beautiful form.”
This made a big impression on the Angel, “Lord, you are a genius! You thought of everything. A woman is indeed marvelous” The Lord said, “Indeed she is. She has strength that amazes a man. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. She holds happiness, love and opinions. She smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying, cries when happy and laughs when afraid. She fights for what she believes in. Her love is unconditional. Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies, but she finds strength to get on with life.”
The Angel then asked, “So she is a perfect being?” The lord replied: “No. She has just one drawback, she often forgets what she is worth. And that is why she must dig deep beyond her gentle and beautiful form. She must embrace her superiority and sacredness in a society which will do everything to tame her and keep her goddess from shinning forth, from surfacing.” And soon after that, woman was raised to the heavens and filled with the light and energy of a thousand stars, and she saw herself and marveled at this; but then she was lowered down to the earth amongst men, and the thick veil covering man also bathed her conscience into a deep oblivion… until she wakes up…
What is beautiful to you…?? Do you judge things, animals, people, on how they look–on your particular definition of beauty…?? Are you open-minded about beauty, or do you follow the standards of beauty set by your mental conditioning and all of society’s…?? Can you truly be honest with yourself about this…??
In many areas of Tajikistan the unibrow is a sign of extreme beauty; people here believe that the single eyebrow on a girl talks about her chosen destiny and luck. In South Korea, I heard, plastic surgery is the norm, and clinics advertising in appearance correction hung everywhere; so, one of the finest features of the image of Koreans is believed to be the person with the face in the form of heart. Residents of some African and New Guinea parts deliberately cover their bodies with numerous scars–in men this procedure is performed during a rite of initiation (a culture thing), and in women it is believed that the scar tattoos add beauty to them… I am talking about the superficial beauty the eyes see and the ego full of beliefs creates as the norm for people. Have you noticed that all this is following a belief, either a program since childhood in your mind or a belief in a culture that separates people…??
That is why it is not reasonable to judge people on looks. It is not reasonable to allow your passions to fall in “love” with looks. It is not reasonable to fear based on looks. All is a belief! And emptying the mind from beliefs and this programming is what one must do to wake up from the dream of “perfect beauty,” and also from the dream of fear. What about animals–spiders, ants, rats, scorpions, snakes, beetles, etc: these are labeled by people as disgusting and dangerous because of the belief programed in them also. It is all their egos, they already have formed their ignorant ideas and labels of them based on fear and on the popular trend in our stupid society.
“All Black people are bad.” “All immigrants come to take our jobs.” “All white men have it easy.” “All skinny girls are conceited.” “All animals that look ugly are disgusting and dangerous.” And the prejudice and the stupid beliefs go on and on… Realize that beauty has been introduced in you as a program, as a belief; hence you are trapped in this selfish creed, and you make divisions–this is good, this is bad, she is beautiful, she is not, etc. If you meditate, ponder deeply and realize this within yourself, then your mind will expand from its conditioned program and you will discover real beauty beyond what your physical eyes show you. Do not take this lightly; for the world is what it is because there are beliefs of love and beauty–all created by a program, a conditioning…
Life itself is the most natural and divine organism, an ongoing process, something which moves forward and brings rich lessons–from pain and joy–always to learn to experience true love and happiness as unique individuals. And we may say that it is all for the sake of physical experiences to have. The human mind is a whole different creature though, conditioned, full of lust, anger, passions, selfish ideas and concepts, bias views and beliefs; so, we may say the human mind is not natural as life in its purity is. The mind in this state of ignorance is always trying to find answers and fix what is not truly broken–“What is the meaning of life?,” “Who or what is God?,” “What lies for me after I die?,” “How do I become Enlightened?,” “Why are women so delicate and emotional?,” “Why are men so stubborn and violent?,” etc. etc.
And exactly all this pointless questioning makes the mind dull, busy, confused, always going on a loop which feeds the ego and brings more questions, more seeking, more opinions, more concepts, more pointless knowledge. All this conditioning creates an abyss, a distance between life itself or its reality and the reality this mind has built out of its own content; so that now life is not beautiful anymore, because this abyss or distance brings frustration and does not allow you to actually enjoy it purely. While the mind is busy fixing moral dilemmas and philosophies, asking questions and arguing answers, while it is trying to understand the complexities of a relationship, while it is seeking God or a meaning of life, you live in your own little world which prevents you from absolutely seeing the beauty of a simple tree on your yard or celebrating the fact that you are breathing.
And so, because the mind is always trying to fix and find solutions, arguing and trying to be superior, then stress and problems cloud judgement and vanish purity. Now life passes you by while you are drowning in your own egoistical activities. So your mind becomes your experience of life now, and your mind is full of confusion and questions. Is this your experience of life…??… So, perhaps your mind must be stopped and emptied from so much questioning, and believing, and conceptualizing; and from ruling your life, so you get to be free from this mental sickness which only stresses you and distances you from experiencing bliss in your own life.
In your daily activities, pursuits, personal thoughts, interactions, do you wonder what life really is…?? Life is more than living daily, isn’t it…?? People are born, expelled from the womb, entering this duality with one foot in the tomb already; consequently, they do not enjoy their lives plenty, they do not explore themselves and really live each second with full awareness, because they focus on the foot that lies in the tomb, they see themselves aging through the years they do not live.
Credit card debts piling up, anxiety about political nonsense, the foolish beliefs of religions clouding their minds, the pressure of getting married and following the path their families have set for them, parents birthing children without actually educating them but leaving that to the school system entirely, etc.–all this is allowed to infect the lives of people and they do not even see it. This is the death of the spirit!
The greatest loss in life is that which you cannot see with your own two eyes, isn’t it….?? A Third Eye must be unleashed in life to actually see life for what it is. The true beauty of art is not a painting. The true attractive of a woman is not her looks. The intelligence of a man is not his accomplishments in society. The poetry of life is not written in books or made by great history. Love is not found in dating or marriage or sex. Bliss is not loads and loads of knowledge spiritual or otherwise. This is IN life, but not life; and if this is seen as life then you are losing the very heart of it.
Life is the celebration of each moment you live, whether that moment is pleasant or not to your mind. Life is beyond all your daily activities, relationships, pursuits, and intellectual understanding; and you must embrace life by deeply immersing yourself meditatively into it. Do not squander your life by just living mechanically, but be expressive, grab opportunities big or small, make your voice heard, start your project now, see through aging and put all your energy into your moment. Forget about loss in life, because if you focus on loss you will miss the riches of life and invite fear to soon bring you death.
Yes, indeed, there is no greater wisdom then awakening yourself to life.