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The Way…

“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”

~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

The key is in observing the pain, not running away from it.

We all struggle, we all carry our burdens; however, one must understand that they are there for a reason.

What is life without this understanding…??

Much more pain, struggle, unhappiness, frustration and anger.

I’ve had much pain growing up. I’ve suffered my own struggles, like I’m sure you’ve suffered yours. We are all still suffering in some aspect. Finances. Relationships. Illnesses. Psychological and emotional burdens. The past. The future. There is always some pain and tragedy in our lives, and quite often we bury these deeply within ourselves so we don’t show weaknesses. It is a subconscious choice to bury the pain and seek to escape it or ignore it through some other distraction or entertainment. Maybe through work. Perhaps through eating. Maybe through seeking relationships. Or through some kind of denial process. But this is really unhealthy. The key is to feel free, confident, powerful, by yourself, in yourself, to create a better life; but with all this pain it becomes impossible sometimes.

But have you ever asked yourself, seriously, why the pain, the hurt, the suffering happens…?? Why do we all go through so much?? What is the point?? Suffering comes out of our choices, even when we don’t know that they will bring suffering. But suffering is meant to teach you something, to awaken you into some aspect of life, to push you to become better. Of course, if we deny this, or if we remain angry and arrogant, then we won’t learn anything; because in order to actually learn from the suffering our minds must be free of any anxiety. If there is anxiety, anger and the rest, then we will pay attention to it while missing the lesson of that struggle or hurt.

I am talking about the choice we unconsciously make of attaching ourselves to our self-pity, to our mental drama, to our depression, to our past memories of pain, and to all those things that create a lot of overthinking in our minds. Overthinking makes the suffering worse. Overthinking does not help, because it brings more pointless questions and drama instead of helping us move on. And, in order to understand your life and your suffering, then you have to calm your mind, observe your own choice to attach your attention to mental drama. You must be aware of your own mind. Awareness is putting attention not on the event that happened, not on the memory; but it is putting attention on your own reactive feelings towards what happened to change them, and it is not choosing to suffer those events. Because in order to move on and be happy creating a better life, then you must leave attachment to the images and words of suffering in your mind. To be happy, you have to free your mind of struggle and pain. You must choose this all the time.


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Creative Dawn

What is the one thing that differentiates humans from other animals…??

What makes us unique…??

What allows for individuality and introspection??

When I think about these questions I can see how important the answer is.

And what is the answer…??

I choose to create because…


What makes possible everything in our lives…??

-In relationships, two persons planning unity and compromise.

-In envisioning a future outcome, a new possibility.

-In the ideas and insight to create, to innovate.

-In the intelligence to persevere and create a new path in life.

What is it that makes this possible…?? It is ‘imagination’: This wonderful phenomena is what betters our lives. Because this phenomena is what brings you the light of psychological expansion and freedom. Imagination goes hand in hand with great creativity, or it should; because all of us have great imagination, but not many of us great creativity. So, what’s the difference?? Why do some people have great creativity and others do not?? It is all starting with imagination. And like everything in life, imagination must be used, practiced, worked. Here’s a simple, but very direct example. What happens if you stay in bed or sitting and you don’t use your legs for a long time??

What happens is that your leg muscles lose strength, stamina; and so, it becomes truly difficult, and painful, whenever you get up to walk after such a long time. The same is with imagination. For it to be powerful, insightful, to bring intelligence and vision in your day-to-day life, it must be crafted and practiced to become great creativity. You must focus on something truly important and interesting to you, and craft, create, build your creativity. And this is not only reserved for artists, but it is reserved for anyone who seeks a better life, a better career, a better relationship, great lovemaking, great personality development, better mood and attitude, superb ideas and solutions for any stressful or serious problem you get in your life.

Everything becomes better, easier, more enjoyable with great creativity. This is because great creativity means an expansion of mind. Great creativity makes you more intuitive, more in touch with your fun side. Great creativity helps you become more easygoing, relaxed, able to see beyond the flaws and weaknesses of others, even of yourself so you gain more confidence. Imagine yourself laughing at your problems, in your relationship, in your job, in your life in general. This laughing means that your mind is not stressed, anxious, frustrated; therefore, you can now be more relaxed, and find better solutions, and be more flexible to see beyond this problem.

Imagine you let go of focusing on the flaws and things you do not like about your significant other. This means you let go of judging the other person, and now you are more centered in the best qualities of the other person. This also makes you more enjoyable, more attractive in all aspects–being mentally, emotionally, physically. And what about your moods and personality. Great creativity also allows you to access easily a more positive persona and attitude. And now you see life with different eyes, love and happiness are more attainable, and you easily choose how to feel in certain situations which might otherwise stress you and make you upset.


And now…

-We all keep great darkness inside…

-We all battle great darkness daily…

-We all have demons with which we struggle…

-But what really matters in life is what we do with these. It is about how we use and transform that darkness, those demons…

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Let it go.

What makes people act in harmful ways towards themselves and towards others…??

What they carry inside becomes quite often the monster and the tragedy of their present lives.

The secret is to let go, lose your attachment, practice better habits, and create new inspirations and new ways of thinking. Because we all carry our burdens, our challenges, and even past memories which might be coming back to haunt our present; but it is extremely important for your health to be more easygoing, more accepting, without less judgment and without making a big deal out of everything. Your mind and body requires you to accept yourself as you are, with all the burdens, flaws, mistakes, and things you secretly struggle to hide. This is the enemy. By hiding it, by escaping it, you give it more strength, more energy to alter your personality and make you choose wrongly in life.


And nothing is more damaging to the way we think and feel than being uptight and not flexible to life’s up and downs. Whatever happened, let it go. And whatever is bothering you now, is not actually bothering you. What presents itself as annoying, burdensome, challenging, is your own ego, your preconceived notion of things and your attachment to the way you want things to be. Let your mind rest, without all this anxiety and rigid perspectives of things. Your ego makes you act out and subconsciously you create a toxic program, a mental habit which creates more burdens and problems for you to believe as real


So, you are your own enemy; but you don’t even know it. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Become acquainted with your enemy (ego) and learn to become more relaxed and adventurous. Don’t put the effort into thinking more ways to be anxious and upset; but put that effort instead into creating better habits, new thoughts, new perspectives, and to make yourself more understanding and creative in terms of life changes. Life goes well. Life goes not as well. We all go through this roller coaster. But the secret is to remain new all the time. Don’t let it consume you. Think freshly. Be more flexible. Not only for your relationships with people, but also for the relationship with yourself, with your past, with your present, with your thoughts of a future, and for that relationship with life itself.


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Why do you feel lonely…??

What is loneliness…??

What is that feeling of emptiness one tries to always escape…??

And why do people tend to do this over and over again??

It all stems from feeling lonely, even subconsciously. Humans have created a heaven, a hell, God, Satan, spirits and a spiritual realm waiting after this life, etc, because they feel lonely. Humankind feels lonely. This is also why everyone seeks relationships, even if they’re not ready for them. Violent arguments, wars, seeking to feel superior, richer and more prosperous than another, bullying, feelings of hate towards another. It is all about feeling alone, feeling isolated, feeling empty deep inside and putting on a mask to hide how they truly feel. So, in reality, this has nothing to do with the people around you, or the people that is not around you, or the things you’ve accomplished in life, or the things you haven’t accomplished in life. This is about becoming content, accepted, joyful in yourself, by yourself.

The worst mistake, the addictive drug, is when one feels lonely and immediately seeks other people, relationships, groups of any kind, money and position in society to escape one’s loneliness. This makes your anxiety and lack of self-love even greater in you. From my own experience, I can tell you that awakening, enlightenment, complete self-love, or however you want to call it, is about getting acquainted with your own feelings of loneliness. Escaping makes you weaker, more troubled, it diminishes your moral character towards yourself. Facing your fears of loneliness, you become your fears of loneliness; and soon afterwards, this familiarity becomes your normal.

And now you’ve become stronger, without having to run to somebody else for comfort or validation. Because if you really can make the act of being by yourself joyous and a source of happiness and love for you, then you get to strengthen yourself; and this is an inner strength which nobody, and no problem in life, can take away from you. When this magic inside you happens, from that moment on, you never give up, you never feel less, you never feel rejection, you never feel troubled or inferior to another. This personal process has made you a human being of greater moral qualities and character, and such is a human being who has enlightened himself, with complete confidence, with greater love and purpose, with a vast determination and self-discipline to be constantly happy in his life.


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Meaning.

What is the meaning of life…?? Isn’t that personal??

But what is that feeling of belonging naturally born in ourselves??

It is not about others, but about yourself.

To feel in a relationship is vital. Life is relationship, because life is one thing divided into many; however, it is still one thing, the illusion is the division. Relationship is that feeling of belonging. When that feeling of belonging ends, then one contemplates suicide. Life has no meaning without feeling that relationship. And to be truly successful in that relationship is growing as a human being.

If you’re feeling like you’re failing, then you’re losing humanity, until life loses meaning for you. Success is not in anything but you, and relationships are about your inner growth. ALL relationships. If you are in a relationship and not growing, get out of that meaningless void. Seek to be better yourself. Let others worry about themselves. Don’t waste your time and lose meaning yourself.

Nothing is more important than this. We are creatures of relationship. We feel deep. We feel hurt. We feel loneliness. We feel rejection. We feel abandonment. But we also feel love in ourselves. And that love must be nurtured in you daily. And for this nurturing to take place in you, you must watch yourself, take care of yourself, stand up for yourself, seek your own respect and admiration. Do not focus on others. Even though we may love others, the only one who can love you unconditionally and throughout life, the only one who can strengthen you and make you into a successful human being in all aspects, is YOU.


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A mind of awareness.

What is anxiety if not attaching yourself to thoughts obsessively??

What is mastering yourself if not keeping a mind free of anger and overthinking??

I once had a high school friend who invited me to a dinner with his family. I didn’t know where I was going really. It all started like a nice meal and gathering, but then it turned into a debate about politics, different political parties, different opinions. Everybody was preferring to argue about that than to keep it harmonious, cordial, friendly. And somebody got upset, started with the name calling. The other one followed. They had asked for my opinion, but I didn’t have one. Long story short, nobody enjoyed the meal.

Their minds were full of anxiety. And this happens to the best families, I know. And this happens to the best of us as well. And that is the stress created by following your controversial thinking, overthinking, trying to demonstrate that you are right and the other one wrong. This is the enemy. Your own ego. That neediness to feel superior and display your knowledge or your opinion of something. I just think this kind of behavior is what divides people. And the fact is that the state of your mind will dictate the way you experience life.

So, to me is really important the state of my mind. To remain aware of it. Specially with Christmas coming up. Specially with all the anxiety this Covid situation brings. Holidays, whether physically apart from family or not, are about joy, harmony, giving thanks for our lives as they are. Maybe your life is not perfect. Maybe you have a thousand and one problems. But I know you can find at least one thing to be thankful for. And our lives require it. Life requires our minds to be humble and intelligent enough to reject anxiety and seek peace. So our lives can improve.


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Intelligence.

I am all about greater understanding, empathy, intelligence. Not intellectuality. Intellectuals can rise in society because this one is superficial, but in life to know true love and happiness intellectuality cannot help. Intellectuality is a burden, because it makes you stubborn, desperately seeking answers and meaning, it creates the anxiety and the need to belong to groups.

Intelligence, on the other hand, makes you lose stubbornness, it makes you more compassionate, full of understanding of your own actions and its consequences. Intelligence loosens your grip to philosophies and rigid concepts. And intelligence is only adopted by an individual, not by groups.

Simply measure people by character, not by words, not by the money they make, not by the position in society. Asleep idiots, men and women, fall fascinated by the allure of this superficiality, and we then have the chaos, the division, the dull minds in the world.  

One needs to let go of trying to fit in and honor one’s group.  Waking up to this is about seeing with the eyes of truth, because no real beauty and love can exist in people who cannot leave their egos and measure others by empathy, by character, by a greater human spirit. Life is simple, because it is about letting go of ego.

Letting go of ego is about detaching yourself from groups, from beliefs, from opinions. Letting go is about freedom. Freedom to become an individual. Not a republican. Not a democrat. Not a liberal. Not a Christian. Not a Buddhist. Not any other group which divides. Letting go is about being an individual who does not seek a fake identity by following and becoming part of a group.

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Self-belief.

Life can be challenging. One can experience loneliness, doubt, jealousy, anger, and a myriad of other darkness. This goes with being human, with exploring ourselves in this physical existence we call life. I went through so much after my father’s death several years ago. I’m sure we have all experienced the impotence and anger in these terrible moments. Our minds make our experiences. From a thought to a feeling, and from a feeling to a constant experience in us. The constant experience can be negative or positive, depending on the first thought we had and nourished into a feeling which grew constant and powerful in us.

There is a well of hope and faith in us in spite of all negativity and struggle. This well is deep inside us, but it cannot be fed by the outside. Sure, you can have people supporting you. Sure, you can also have great self-help books remind you, and religious scriptures too. Sure, you can even have the opportunity to travel and introduce yourself to more inspiring cultures and people. All this may help, but it won’t last. Not unless you find the strength, faith, hope in you in the form of self-belief. Because even if you lose something important to you, or fail at something, or encounter tragedy in any aspect, inner belief will get you out.

Inner belief says “I don’t care what happens in life, I will keep going filled with patience and passion.” Inner belief says “Nothing will stop me, nothing will bring me down; because my focus is on moving on and progressing.” And so, how do you get that strong self-belief…?? By developing yourself, by seeking your passion, by immersing yourself in habits which keep you feeling great about yourself. Great habits are the key in life. Sitting around watching TV and drinking beer with friends, or even by yourself?? Not a great habit. No, I am talking about habits which push you outside of your comfort zone. Habits which add value to your character.

Habits which help you understand yourself and your strengths, like writing, like painting, like sports of strategy, like exercise, like cooking healthily, like educating yourself on science or on any other passion you have. The secret or aim here is to grow as an individual, patiently, step by step, daily; however, it is also about doing something fun, something which ignites your passion and sense of wonder in life. I am personally a big advocate for better habits. I write about self-development, through non-fiction works and now through fantasy works which bring magic, adventure, and also insights into what it is to be alive. I hope you can see the truth in this, and so begin to nourish that belief in you, making yourself unstoppable.

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Reconnecting.

Nothing is more hurtful and it brings more anxiety to your mind than to hold on to the past, to the loss, to the tragedy, to the injustice, to what did or did not happen. How can someone possibly be happy like this…?? No, you can pretend; but you can never truly be happy attached to your past. This is very personal, but at some point in your life journey you must stop your stressed, anxious and stubborn mind to see this, to acknowledge that you cannot heal if you feed your addiction to what happened.

Your path to healing is one of love, but you cannot fight yourself and struggle in the process; because if you do, you are just widening the gap between unhealthy and healthy. Widening the gap is to resist to healing, because you are attached to whatever hurt you, or to whatever you allowed to hurt you. This is what intensifies the hurt or the chaos in you. Can’t you see this…??

So, it is about reconnecting with yourself, with your happier self and the one part in you which is not attached to the past. You are responsible for this reconnecting. You can feel you need it. And in order to achieve it, you must detach from the old to build the new. We always talk about love, but love cannot truly exist in your mind if you remain attached to the hurt, to the loss, to the struggle.

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Better brain. Better life.

The brain is your doorway or bridge to physical life. And this doorway or bridge must be kept strong and healthy. If your brain is allowed to age and become weak, then all sorts of illnesses and immoralities will possess your body while your very life becomes meaningless. One can keep feeling young and strong until the last breath; but most people allow their brains to age, so they cannot understand these words.

In order to keep your brain young and strong, obviously, one must adopt excellent habits.

1- No alcohol. No excess fats. Food must be well watched over. You must put in you all the different nutrients, vitamins, proteins, and all that which your body needs to develop with excellence. Scientific knowledge is what will lead you to health.

2- Now, also have in mind the situations in your life, more specifically the way you react to them. Always try to avoid stress and unnecessary frustration. Train yourself to seek inspiration away from dilemmas or worries. When the mind is filled by anxiety, your brain cells in time start dying. This brain cell death affects your entire nervous system and the immune system.

3- As mentioned, anxiety is terrible for the healthy development of the brain. So, you must seek the opposite of anxiety, which is silence, harmony, peace. I am talking about being with yourself, not always hanging out with others. When your brain frequencies are calm, then your brain begins creating new pathways or nervous tissue. This brings more insight, creativity, intelligence. And it also brings youth, beauty, positivity into you, reflected in your physical body, and seen in the way you respond to life itself.

4- Your brain requires nurture, care, attention, just like a relationship with another requires the same. This means to keep it always fresh and clean of toxins. Exercise does this magic. It doesn’t mean that you should spend hours exercising. If you also take care of the food you eat (#1), then just 10 minutes of exercise a day might be just what is needed. Exercise is like oiling your car, adding all the liquids, rotating the tires, doing the usual maintenance. Your body, as your brain, is your car; and exercise is like all the maintenance which keeps your car running smoothly.

To conclude, you can have all the ambitions, desires, pursuits you want; however, true success is not out there but inside you. How you feel, the quality of your life. This is true success, love, happiness. The quality of your life is the quality of your brain.

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And if you enjoyed that, please take a moment to visit my work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.