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Meaning.

What is the meaning of life…?? Isn’t that personal??

But what is that feeling of belonging naturally born in ourselves??

It is not about others, but about yourself.

To feel in a relationship is vital. Life is relationship, because life is one thing divided into many; however, it is still one thing, the illusion is the division. Relationship is that feeling of belonging. When that feeling of belonging ends, then one contemplates suicide. Life has no meaning without feeling that relationship. And to be truly successful in that relationship is growing as a human being.

If you’re feeling like you’re failing, then you’re losing humanity, until life loses meaning for you. Success is not in anything but you, and relationships are about your inner growth. ALL relationships. If you are in a relationship and not growing, get out of that meaningless void. Seek to be better yourself. Let others worry about themselves. Don’t waste your time and lose meaning yourself.

Nothing is more important than this. We are creatures of relationship. We feel deep. We feel hurt. We feel loneliness. We feel rejection. We feel abandonment. But we also feel love in ourselves. And that love must be nurtured in you daily. And for this nurturing to take place in you, you must watch yourself, take care of yourself, stand up for yourself, seek your own respect and admiration. Do not focus on others. Even though we may love others, the only one who can love you unconditionally and throughout life, the only one who can strengthen you and make you into a successful human being in all aspects, is YOU.


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A mind of awareness.

What is anxiety if not attaching yourself to thoughts obsessively??

What is mastering yourself if not keeping a mind free of anger and overthinking??

I once had a high school friend who invited me to a dinner with his family. I didn’t know where I was going really. It all started like a nice meal and gathering, but then it turned into a debate about politics, different political parties, different opinions. Everybody was preferring to argue about that than to keep it harmonious, cordial, friendly. And somebody got upset, started with the name calling. The other one followed. They had asked for my opinion, but I didn’t have one. Long story short, nobody enjoyed the meal.

Their minds were full of anxiety. And this happens to the best families, I know. And this happens to the best of us as well. And that is the stress created by following your controversial thinking, overthinking, trying to demonstrate that you are right and the other one wrong. This is the enemy. Your own ego. That neediness to feel superior and display your knowledge or your opinion of something. I just think this kind of behavior is what divides people. And the fact is that the state of your mind will dictate the way you experience life.

So, to me is really important the state of my mind. To remain aware of it. Specially with Christmas coming up. Specially with all the anxiety this Covid situation brings. Holidays, whether physically apart from family or not, are about joy, harmony, giving thanks for our lives as they are. Maybe your life is not perfect. Maybe you have a thousand and one problems. But I know you can find at least one thing to be thankful for. And our lives require it. Life requires our minds to be humble and intelligent enough to reject anxiety and seek peace. So our lives can improve.


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Intelligence.

I am all about greater understanding, empathy, intelligence. Not intellectuality. Intellectuals can rise in society because this one is superficial, but in life to know true love and happiness intellectuality cannot help. Intellectuality is a burden, because it makes you stubborn, desperately seeking answers and meaning, it creates the anxiety and the need to belong to groups.

Intelligence, on the other hand, makes you lose stubbornness, it makes you more compassionate, full of understanding of your own actions and its consequences. Intelligence loosens your grip to philosophies and rigid concepts. And intelligence is only adopted by an individual, not by groups.

Simply measure people by character, not by words, not by the money they make, not by the position in society. Asleep idiots, men and women, fall fascinated by the allure of this superficiality, and we then have the chaos, the division, the dull minds in the world.  

One needs to let go of trying to fit in and honor one’s group.  Waking up to this is about seeing with the eyes of truth, because no real beauty and love can exist in people who cannot leave their egos and measure others by empathy, by character, by a greater human spirit. Life is simple, because it is about letting go of ego.

Letting go of ego is about detaching yourself from groups, from beliefs, from opinions. Letting go is about freedom. Freedom to become an individual. Not a republican. Not a democrat. Not a liberal. Not a Christian. Not a Buddhist. Not any other group which divides. Letting go is about being an individual who does not seek a fake identity by following and becoming part of a group.

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Self-belief.

Life can be challenging. One can experience loneliness, doubt, jealousy, anger, and a myriad of other darkness. This goes with being human, with exploring ourselves in this physical existence we call life. I went through so much after my father’s death several years ago. I’m sure we have all experienced the impotence and anger in these terrible moments. Our minds make our experiences. From a thought to a feeling, and from a feeling to a constant experience in us. The constant experience can be negative or positive, depending on the first thought we had and nourished into a feeling which grew constant and powerful in us.

There is a well of hope and faith in us in spite of all negativity and struggle. This well is deep inside us, but it cannot be fed by the outside. Sure, you can have people supporting you. Sure, you can also have great self-help books remind you, and religious scriptures too. Sure, you can even have the opportunity to travel and introduce yourself to more inspiring cultures and people. All this may help, but it won’t last. Not unless you find the strength, faith, hope in you in the form of self-belief. Because even if you lose something important to you, or fail at something, or encounter tragedy in any aspect, inner belief will get you out.

Inner belief says “I don’t care what happens in life, I will keep going filled with patience and passion.” Inner belief says “Nothing will stop me, nothing will bring me down; because my focus is on moving on and progressing.” And so, how do you get that strong self-belief…?? By developing yourself, by seeking your passion, by immersing yourself in habits which keep you feeling great about yourself. Great habits are the key in life. Sitting around watching TV and drinking beer with friends, or even by yourself?? Not a great habit. No, I am talking about habits which push you outside of your comfort zone. Habits which add value to your character.

Habits which help you understand yourself and your strengths, like writing, like painting, like sports of strategy, like exercise, like cooking healthily, like educating yourself on science or on any other passion you have. The secret or aim here is to grow as an individual, patiently, step by step, daily; however, it is also about doing something fun, something which ignites your passion and sense of wonder in life. I am personally a big advocate for better habits. I write about self-development, through non-fiction works and now through fantasy works which bring magic, adventure, and also insights into what it is to be alive. I hope you can see the truth in this, and so begin to nourish that belief in you, making yourself unstoppable.

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Reconnecting.

Nothing is more hurtful and it brings more anxiety to your mind than to hold on to the past, to the loss, to the tragedy, to the injustice, to what did or did not happen. How can someone possibly be happy like this…?? No, you can pretend; but you can never truly be happy attached to your past. This is very personal, but at some point in your life journey you must stop your stressed, anxious and stubborn mind to see this, to acknowledge that you cannot heal if you feed your addiction to what happened.

Your path to healing is one of love, but you cannot fight yourself and struggle in the process; because if you do, you are just widening the gap between unhealthy and healthy. Widening the gap is to resist to healing, because you are attached to whatever hurt you, or to whatever you allowed to hurt you. This is what intensifies the hurt or the chaos in you. Can’t you see this…??

So, it is about reconnecting with yourself, with your happier self and the one part in you which is not attached to the past. You are responsible for this reconnecting. You can feel you need it. And in order to achieve it, you must detach from the old to build the new. We always talk about love, but love cannot truly exist in your mind if you remain attached to the hurt, to the loss, to the struggle.

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Better brain. Better life.

The brain is your doorway or bridge to physical life. And this doorway or bridge must be kept strong and healthy. If your brain is allowed to age and become weak, then all sorts of illnesses and immoralities will possess your body while your very life becomes meaningless. One can keep feeling young and strong until the last breath; but most people allow their brains to age, so they cannot understand these words.

In order to keep your brain young and strong, obviously, one must adopt excellent habits.

1- No alcohol. No excess fats. Food must be well watched over. You must put in you all the different nutrients, vitamins, proteins, and all that which your body needs to develop with excellence. Scientific knowledge is what will lead you to health.

2- Now, also have in mind the situations in your life, more specifically the way you react to them. Always try to avoid stress and unnecessary frustration. Train yourself to seek inspiration away from dilemmas or worries. When the mind is filled by anxiety, your brain cells in time start dying. This brain cell death affects your entire nervous system and the immune system.

3- As mentioned, anxiety is terrible for the healthy development of the brain. So, you must seek the opposite of anxiety, which is silence, harmony, peace. I am talking about being with yourself, not always hanging out with others. When your brain frequencies are calm, then your brain begins creating new pathways or nervous tissue. This brings more insight, creativity, intelligence. And it also brings youth, beauty, positivity into you, reflected in your physical body, and seen in the way you respond to life itself.

4- Your brain requires nurture, care, attention, just like a relationship with another requires the same. This means to keep it always fresh and clean of toxins. Exercise does this magic. It doesn’t mean that you should spend hours exercising. If you also take care of the food you eat (#1), then just 10 minutes of exercise a day might be just what is needed. Exercise is like oiling your car, adding all the liquids, rotating the tires, doing the usual maintenance. Your body, as your brain, is your car; and exercise is like all the maintenance which keeps your car running smoothly.

To conclude, you can have all the ambitions, desires, pursuits you want; however, true success is not out there but inside you. How you feel, the quality of your life. This is true success, love, happiness. The quality of your life is the quality of your brain.

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And if you enjoyed that, please take a moment to visit my work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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The best way.

The world is what it is today, with its wars, with its greed, with its hateful people, with its unhappy people, with its unloving people, because most seek not to actually better themselves. They want others to do it. They want politicians to do it. They want Jesus to do it. They want Muhammad to do it. They get into relationships, get married, have kids, so they can do the transformation. What about themselves…?? Everybody keeps pointing fingers to the next person.

Parents are the initiators. They teach their kids with their words. “Son, don’t smoke and drink.” And yet they do it themselves. Kids grow up to be chain smokers and get in trouble because they become drunkards. Or there’s the kid that grows up struggling with weight problems in adulthood, his heart falters because of it, he suffers in and out of the hospital. Why…?? Because his parents didn’t care about health themselves, so with their immoral habits they taught their kid the same. And what about politics and attachment to this garbage…?? The same. Kids grow up arguing and disliking others belonging to another party or with different opinions, because in childhood their parents were really stubborn and mediocre as well.

What I’m saying here is that what really matters in life is not others, but yourself. You help others with your change, not with your words. Wake up. See the reality of it. Don’t keep denying it. If you actually bring change to yourself, you can then really help and heal others. What you think and how you feel doesn’t create reality. Your daily habits do. Saying that you love people is not actual change. Saying that you try to be healthy is not actual change. You either do it or not. Because it is all about self-development. It is all my life is. That is why I ascend. That is why I write the way I write. So, ask yourself about your daily habits. What do you need to change to give better example to your family, kids, spouse, friends, the world??

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Hidden miracles.

Life might shake us, but there is always a reason. Sometimes life tries to tell you something important, but your mind is too busy. Silence your anxious mind and listen. Learn. Grow.

I remember when my father had just died. The confusion, the anger, the fear and intimidation of facing the world without my father. I was alone with my little brothers and my mother. Barely making enough money to survive. Living in Texas, and in a place very different from where I’d been born and had spent my childhood years. But, after years and years of self-hatred and self-pity, I started to see a light in me. I was so exhausted of failing and torturing myself that I was pushed to observe my own suffering. I had never wanted this life, but I had to deal with it anyway.

Nothing that I did worked and, even worse, I didn’t understand why. I was going to church back then. I was praying. I was taking care of my family. I was a good and decent human being. I was lost. But this light I saw in me was growing. And, not too soon, I learned that quite often our minds are so overwhelmed with our own problems that we miss life. The wholeness of life. And the wholeness of life is where the miracles hide. The miracles are not in religion, or in family, or in the nation, or in the money we make; but they are in the observation.

The observation is the attention we put into life’s moments. But this observing action must be done firstly by silencing the mind. You know, by not being so attached to thoughts of misery and anger, and envy and frustration. Plainly put, by not overthinking and filling the mind with anxiety. Our minds dictate how we feel about life. Life then is filtered through our minds. Life will be whatever the content of your mind is. So, let go of the stress, and of the frustration, and of wanting to control and possess. Flow with life. Do your best, and then let it go. Let it be. Listen to life, but for that keep a mind that is silent and not arrogant. Arrogance and thinking that you must always win and have your way. This is what brings suffering, and failure, and tears into your experience.

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REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

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The Greatest Clarity.

So, I was thinking the other day about imagination, the power to create, not just works of art but to create solutions and a better life for oneself. Because that is what imagination does. Imagination is meant to expand our minds, not make us more intellectual but more compassionate and able to create from emotional understanding. The more imagination, the more you will understand of yourself, life, others. The more imagination, the more intelligence.

As a writer of nonfiction, of spiritual and self-help, and now of young adult fantasy books, I know the great gifts of imagination. I know how strengthening this “muscle” in your mind gives you expansion of mind and great wisdom. And I was writing the other day, just finishing my young adult novel coming out soon, titled “BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman” which I am planning to make a series.


I was thinking how many of us simply fall into addiction and depressions due to not strengthening imagination. If you have imagination, then you can envision yourself happy, in love, positive, without anxiety and addictions. How wonderful it is to see yourself better in your mind, and then it is easier to adopt healthier habits. This is something which intelligence gives you. True imagination expands your intelligence, so you see yourself making better choices. And if you can see it, then you can change and do it.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my currently published work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Out of the rut.

I usually encounter people who talk a lot about their illness or problems, like anxiety, like OCD, like anger issues, like frustrations, etc. etc. They go on and on trying to get attention and pity from others. Specially social media is plagued by people venting their illnesses, problems, frustrations. But, unbeknownst to them, they are making their issues and frustrations more powerful; for the attention you give to thoughts makes them even stronger and assimilated by your entire biological system.

Assimilated by your entire biological system means that these thoughts of frustration and negativity become powerful feelings, and these feelings become your experience in life–i.e., your whole identity, or how you experience yourself. But, on the other hand, if you were to empower your positive traits, your talents, your dreams, your strengths, then you would become free and you would feel capable of being love and happiness.

With this, I am not saying you are not going through a rough patch, or that your traumas are fake; but I am saying that you should think and talk about your positives, to empower yourself, to not live tied to misery, and to not feel trapped and doomed. You define yourself by this. Your true identity is discovered only if you have courage to detach from the negative. Life is about self-discovery. You are life. I talk about this in my books very clearly, with many examples to help you understand this and thus change your mindset and behavior. Because I am all about this.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my currently published work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.