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Grow together. Learn together.

Keeping things inside you in relationships, or being emotionally closed. Pretending, just to keep the peace and not argue. Being impulsive in conversations and letting your frustration take over. This all can lead to secrets, to lies, to misbehaving, to lose trust and connection. Communicating is all about being honest with each other. This means finding the right way to say something and sharing your opinion in a respectful way. This can be challenging when you don’t agree on something.

But not agreeing on something can be healthy, because it means you have the chance to learn a new perspective. Learning a new perspective can help you understand in a more profound way the other person. That is the key to successful relationships, to learn from each other, to grow as individuals and as a team. So, you acknowledge his/her point of view, leave your ego, leave your pride, and try to get closer to the way of thinking and feeling of the other person.

With respect, patiently, and without being impulsive or reactive then your relationship grows. Any relationship. This is the challenge for the one passionate enough to truly love another. And having passion, in a mature relationship, means to find the proper way to nurture that relationship for you and your partner; so you both can grow together, learn together, even if you have different opinions and points of view.


A little bit from I ALWAYS LOVED YOU – Creatures of Eternal Love” – A book about true love and successful relationships.

Love  is  not  anger,  and  has  nothing  to  do  with  anger.  Love  is  not  possessive  or  controlling,  and  it  has  nothing  to  do  with  that.  Love  is  not  envious  or  jealous,  no  matter  what  you  tell  yourself.  Love  seeks  not  to  win  arguments,  because  love  knows  no  competition...

Love  is  eternally  truthful,  because  it  has  nothing  to  do  with  lies.  Love  is  beyond  romance,  friendship  and  all  other  labels;  for  love  is  the  energy  which  connects  even  the  murderer  to  the  saint.  A  love  like  this  truly  beautifies  life...”

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Breaking free from the “normal”

I’ve been on the other side, which is the side of attachment and self-neglect. When I was looking to fit in and to be like the rest, seeking their approval, seeking to belong to a group of thinkers, believers, philosophers. We all seek this when there is no knowledge of self. We seek to belong and to feel part of others and of what others do, and this quite often becomes an obsession, a corruption as we become more like others and lose our uniqueness. Most of us fall into this, because we cannot be with ourselves. We might feel empty, not worthy by ourselves, like something is missing; therefore, we look to others and to think like them.

We really are different and unique, each one of us; however, by trying to be like others, by following a belief, a philosophy, a behavior which is not truly ours we become distanced from ourselves and from our uniqueness. The world is full of people who seek an identity outside themselves, in a crowd, in culture, in tradition, in religion, in politics. This brings them more emptiness and loneliness. Happiness is in discovering yourself, to stand on your own, to lead your own thinking and feeling, to create better behaviors based on your uniqueness. Trying to copy others dulls the mind, and it makes the emptiness, the frustration, the loneliness stronger in you.

There is nothing more important in life than to be and feel whole, to discover ourselves by taking care of ourselves. Don’t focus on others, on what philosophers say, on what religions say, on what groups of people (whoever these groups are) say. Life is about being happy, and to be truly happy one must learn to think for oneself. There is no normal. We are all different. Think for yourself and don’t seek to copy the “normal” offered by society, by your family, by politics and religion. Nothing will make you whole, able to feel successful and happy, unless it is your own unbiased thinking. Forge your own path. It works for me. It will do so for you as well.


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True intelligence in life.

Throughout the years I’ve learned that knowledge does not really make you a better person, it does not bring illumination or any true intelligence. Unless you apply an expansion of the right knowledge, unless you let go of attachment to that same knowledge, your self-awareness will not increase and your intelligence will not grow. Don’t be attached to any knowledge at all, for it will only make you bias and stupid.

And when I talk about knowledge I am referring to any at all. All information, from any source. Beliefs. Popular philosophies. Scientific data. Politics. Personal opinions. Family traditions. Cultures. And whatever tries to guide you a certain way. Whatever, no matter intention, tries to lead you and take you through a certain path. But all knowledge is good though, we can learn something from it; however, any attachment makes your mind a follower of this particular knowledge while ignoring or condemning any other information which does not fit that first knowledge you worship.

So, we can clearly see that if you follow any particular knowledge then your mind becomes rigid and a believer of that knowledge. This rigidness makes you prideful, arrogant, even violent with others who do not share your particular knowledge. This is important to have in mind specially in relationships. In relationships, to be successful, you must have an open mind and accept the other person as they are. To be truly intelligent, awakened, wise, you must let go of worshiping any knowledge at all; and so, become more open-minded and connected to yourself, to others, to life, without any rigidity.

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Better thoughts.

So, what is a thought…?? Isn’t it a stream of perceptions, or perception, of life, of existence, and of everything in it?? Thought is a substance which brings reality to the world then, because all we think and feel is originated from perceptions of ourselves as human beings and of the world as the collective. So, your perceptions will create your experience, how you feel, what you understand, your persona. It’s wise then to make sure you nourish your mind with the best thoughts or with the perceptions which will help you remain in love and happy as you live your life. I think we can all agree to that fact.

I have many personal problems, burdens from my past, even situations which bring me negative reactions; however, it is not these which trouble me in reality, but it is the thoughts I follow in my mind, the thinking I choose to have the one which really makes me unhappy. To be attached to anger and frustration when I see people who annoy me. To be attached to jealousy and hatred when I see people who have what I do not have. To be attached to self-pity and resentment when I remind myself of my poor or painful past. All these thoughts, this attachment process better put, are what make me unhappy.

So, the quality of our thoughts matters when it comes to moving on, feeling love, being happy in life. The quality of my thinking is the origin of my experience as a human being, person, individual on this earth. And, even though I know it is difficult to maintain positive and motivational thinking sometimes, it is worth it; because I am worthy of love and happiness. And there is no one who can give me love and happiness but myself, through my own thinking, through the elevation of my thoughts amidst the issues and turmoil in my life. I don’t seek excuses. You shouldn’t seek excuses either. Because everything we feel, experience, live, starts with a thought. So, let us make the best thoughts for ourselves.


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Fasting vs Intermittent Fasting

This is about fasting. About denying your body and mind of the energy it needs just to satisfy your ego and think that you are being saintly by enacting this atrocity. But this is not religious in any way. I don’t have any beliefs. As most important in my life, I take very serious the topics of taking care of my mind and body. So, this blogpost or writing here is about how fasting affects you, your body and mind, and the truth about fasting in general.

And when fasting to lose weight, it is even worse for the immune system. It attracts illnesses. And fasting increases fat retention, because it makes the mind more anxious and hungry; thus tissues weaker and unable to absorb fats in a proper manner. I used to fast for 2 days, 3 days, a week, even more. Fasting is not healthy in any way. The belief, thought, and tradition of fasting come from the old days. In the old days, tradition, religion taught that denying your mind and body of food is a form of righteousness, a way to become connected to the suffering of others. Nonsense, of course.

Fasting is a way, a very selfish way, to pat yourself in the back and create this illusion that you are a good person; but, in reality, it does nothing for the poor or suffering people around the world. Fasting is just another belief, which you might consider as a great belief; however, not a belief that actually helps people. The only fasting that helps is if someone saves the money from those meals they don’t eat while fasting, and then unselfishly give that money to the poor for their meals. But no one does this, so fasting is just another illusion, another deception religion has created and planted in the subconscious of the ignorant masses. I know because I was one of these, and I have awakened myself to the truth.

Increasing intelligence, growing in understanding, keeping myself healthy is the most important thing in life for me.

After years of seeking ways to improve my cognition and understanding, I found intermittent fasting. I do not eat in the morning. I leave the whole morning for my stomach to wash itself from the prior night’s meal. This time also serves for my immune system to increase strength, to become more capable of bringing healing to my body’s tissues. By intermittent fasting, I not only help my body absorb and use fats more properly to become stronger and leaner, but I also increase my brain’s capacity for intelligence by giving my nervous tissues the proper time and energy to store the right nutrients. This type of fasting does not weaken my body, because it is only in the morning that I do not eat, not for days and days as the common, religious fasting. Most importantly, this fasting does not create false beliefs and illusions in me of being saintly.

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My experience with meditation

In my own experience with meditation. Take it easy. Don’t rush into an outcome. Don’t expect great results fast. The main things are commitment, persistency, patience. These are a must if we are serious about meditation. Now, this is about the kind of meditation where you focus on your breath and in time you increase you’re awareness. Many people sit on a chair, peacefully; and for them this is meditation. I respect that. But that is not what this post is about. For me, meditation is all about increasing self-awareness, creativity and cognition, and also easier detachment from all suffering–like anger, frustration, the thought of death, society’s influence, etc.

So, meditating. When I started, more than 10 years ago, this was very difficult for me. I had rage issues and became really anxious and bothered when I first started to feel the deep silence of meditation. Thoughts and feelings which had been buried deep inside had started to come out, and this was very disturbing, it was hard for me to face them. Once you truly meditate, your thoughts will rush. Your innermost troubles and burdens. In my case, this really irritated me–physically, psychologically, emotionally. But I stuck with it through the years and saw myself awakening, I witnessed my creativity improving, and my understanding of myself and my own faults mainly became clear and undeniable. This made me change and become superior to the person I was.

But, let me be honest here, meditation is not a quick fix, or a cure-all, not in any sense; and whoever tells you it is, might be because they’re trying to sell you something. One thing to have in mind though, you will see improvement if done right; however, not judging here, but you must understand that many people frustrate themselves because they do not do it right. It’s all about your slow breathing. Focus on it. Because breathing is what connects the state of physical life to the state of physical death, so to master your breathing in meditation gives you greater access to wisdom to understand both states of existence. If you deviate and become distracted, come back to it. Come back to your breath as many times as you become aware. This is practicing awareness, when you come back to your breathing. Meditation is not about becoming perfect or doing the practice perfectly; but about committing and not quitting, it requires inner strength and focus. So, never quit. Keep going.


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Enjoy it now

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

― Eleanor Roosevelt

Life can be complicated. One might live with confusion. What to do?? I don’t have the money I need. The deadline is coming! What choice do I make?! What did I do wrong?? And many more like this. So many of us live constantly in our heads, in our busy and anxious minds; and this is what we must realize in ourselves. Nothing matters more than realizing this in life, because in order to live and enjoy fully our moments we need to understand that love and happiness is not in the chase we do. It’s not in money, even though we live in a society and we must pay for what we consume. It’s not in seeking better education and thinking about future exams and study, even though it is important to design a good future in society.

It is now. The joy, the love, the value is now. In the things, relationships, situations you have. It is about paying attention to all this. And it doesn’t really matter if we have much or not. And it doesn’t really matter if we live in a paradise or not. And what about the kind of job we have?? It doesn’t matter either. The only thing that can get us to real joy is our own attention. Attention into what our lives are now. Find the passion, the positivity, the motivation, the purpose and value in you by always taking time to enjoy and bring positive attitude to your current situation, moment, people around you.

When my mind goes into the future, thinking about certain outcome, pondering what I could get. Or when my mind goes to the past, asking myself what went wrong, what did I do, why something failed. When this happens then, I instantly focus on getting away from this and putting all my energy in the now, in my family, in my writing, in being with my dog, in enjoying a nice day outside, etc. etc. Because it is natural that the mind will always pull us one way, making us feel anxious, chasing money, hunting for better opportunities; but it is our responsibility to shift our attention and love ourselves and our lives now. Without questioning. Without making excuses. Just live it, enjoy it now.


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Why is life like this…??

So, why are we here…?? Why are we born?? What’s the point of all our suffering, challenges, misunderstandings, and losses in life?? These are the deepest questions we can ask ourselves. Of course, most people really do not question life like this. They just live it. But, in my own experience, the life put under a microscope is the life which brings you the understanding of true love and happiness. Because sometimes one lives life, and one suffers life, without really knowing why things are the way they are; or what we have to do to better our lives. No one does this intentionally, obviously. We are all trying to live the best we can. But, having said this, some of us let our minds rush and become frustrated, angry, impulsive even. Or maybe jealous, greedy, and aggressively competitive. The unaware mind has a way to blind us from clear understanding in life.

But we are what we understand, and we understand when we are truly aware of something. If I truly understand the way you feel, what you are going through, then I won’t judge you and bully you. If I truly understand why life is not going so well for me right now, then I won’t become angry and frustrated; but I will be more patient, work on choosing better, and thus be more mature daily. If I truly understand why I suffered what I suffered in my past, then I will become stronger in my present and more prepared for my future. So, think about it. Don’t rush into things. Don’t be impulsive. Even if things seem really unfair to you, stay calm, look within and in your mind, observe with stillness. If you learn to understand yourself better, then your life improves.


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Strong and Confident

So, sometimes we may feel depressed, neglected, miserable even. Perhaps something didn’t go as planned. Maybe somebody else didn’t share our same feelings. Or it might be that certain outcomes in life just don’t seem to agree with us at some level. Whatever that is, we have the capacity to make it better. One may not see it at times, due to being anxious, angry, overwhelmed; but we all have the capacity to turn things around or make them better. This takes patience, of course; however, it also requires that you keep a peaceful mind, a mind that is strong and committed to keep going.

If we allow our minds to fall into fear. If we tell ourselves that we are incapable of doing something. If all we do in our minds is complain, curse, feel intimidated and shy about our own progress. If there is no desire to keep going in spite of the drama and difficult situations we live, then we are letting fear rule our decisions. And this makes you weak, unable to see your true capacity in your life, and it keeps you chained to this lack of self-love. Lack of self-love makes us paranoid, afraid and angry in our relationships.

The true purpose in your life is found once you let go of all that stress and anxiety, pain from the past and guilt you carry, and all that harmful intimidation and feelings of inferiority preventing you from becoming truly free. Whether a woman or man, the power begins in your determination and confidence to move forward in this. Now, please understand, if you don’t find your true purpose by letting go of all this fear, then you will fail in your life, in your relationships, in the treatment to yourself even. You will ask yourself why things are so bad in your life. You won’t see solutions.

You won’t feel strong and confident to become a better person in your relationship with yourself and with another. And without a sense of purpose, and without strength and confidence, we cannot really make ourselves feel proud, truthful, valued; but exactly this is what is required to live a happy life. So one must always remain aware of our minds, and so let go of any anger, frustration, anxiety, fear we may feel. This works for me, as it will work for you as well. So, keep your head up, remain honest, committed and confident in your mind.


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Better life quality

 “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”

Hippocrates

In my life, lifestyle, character and behavior daily, there is nothing more important than good nutrition. Think about it. Why are we alive right now, or what sustains us and gives us physical life…?? The energy inside our cells. And how is that energy replenished, maintained, made better or worse?? Food. Nutrition. This is what feeds our minds and bodies.

You may want to eat and drink whatever you want in your life, but you know this is true. And it takes a lot of self-discipline to eat right, to stop your ego and selfish desires for poison and acquire a better eating lifestyle. But it is all worth it, because life is about quality. If you have good energy in you, then you’ll be in a better mood to enjoy life, and you’ll be more creative and intelligent, and you’ll be a better man or woman in your relationships.

And what about self-care, self-love…?? Self-care is to properly nourish our bodies and minds. It is all about adopting good habits. It is all about training your mind to desire good, nutritious food. It is about being creative and cooking. It is about choosing what is better for yourself. It is about about attracting better in your life.

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