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The Way…

“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”

~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

The key is in observing the pain, not running away from it.

We all struggle, we all carry our burdens; however, one must understand that they are there for a reason.

What is life without this understanding…??

Much more pain, struggle, unhappiness, frustration and anger.

I’ve had much pain growing up. I’ve suffered my own struggles, like I’m sure you’ve suffered yours. We are all still suffering in some aspect. Finances. Relationships. Illnesses. Psychological and emotional burdens. The past. The future. There is always some pain and tragedy in our lives, and quite often we bury these deeply within ourselves so we don’t show weaknesses. It is a subconscious choice to bury the pain and seek to escape it or ignore it through some other distraction or entertainment. Maybe through work. Perhaps through eating. Maybe through seeking relationships. Or through some kind of denial process. But this is really unhealthy. The key is to feel free, confident, powerful, by yourself, in yourself, to create a better life; but with all this pain it becomes impossible sometimes.

But have you ever asked yourself, seriously, why the pain, the hurt, the suffering happens…?? Why do we all go through so much?? What is the point?? Suffering comes out of our choices, even when we don’t know that they will bring suffering. But suffering is meant to teach you something, to awaken you into some aspect of life, to push you to become better. Of course, if we deny this, or if we remain angry and arrogant, then we won’t learn anything; because in order to actually learn from the suffering our minds must be free of any anxiety. If there is anxiety, anger and the rest, then we will pay attention to it while missing the lesson of that struggle or hurt.

I am talking about the choice we unconsciously make of attaching ourselves to our self-pity, to our mental drama, to our depression, to our past memories of pain, and to all those things that create a lot of overthinking in our minds. Overthinking makes the suffering worse. Overthinking does not help, because it brings more pointless questions and drama instead of helping us move on. And, in order to understand your life and your suffering, then you have to calm your mind, observe your own choice to attach your attention to mental drama. You must be aware of your own mind. Awareness is putting attention not on the event that happened, not on the memory; but it is putting attention on your own reactive feelings towards what happened to change them, and it is not choosing to suffer those events. Because in order to move on and be happy creating a better life, then you must leave attachment to the images and words of suffering in your mind. To be happy, you have to free your mind of struggle and pain. You must choose this all the time.


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Why do you feel lonely…??

What is loneliness…??

What is that feeling of emptiness one tries to always escape…??

And why do people tend to do this over and over again??

It all stems from feeling lonely, even subconsciously. Humans have created a heaven, a hell, God, Satan, spirits and a spiritual realm waiting after this life, etc, because they feel lonely. Humankind feels lonely. This is also why everyone seeks relationships, even if they’re not ready for them. Violent arguments, wars, seeking to feel superior, richer and more prosperous than another, bullying, feelings of hate towards another. It is all about feeling alone, feeling isolated, feeling empty deep inside and putting on a mask to hide how they truly feel. So, in reality, this has nothing to do with the people around you, or the people that is not around you, or the things you’ve accomplished in life, or the things you haven’t accomplished in life. This is about becoming content, accepted, joyful in yourself, by yourself.

The worst mistake, the addictive drug, is when one feels lonely and immediately seeks other people, relationships, groups of any kind, money and position in society to escape one’s loneliness. This makes your anxiety and lack of self-love even greater in you. From my own experience, I can tell you that awakening, enlightenment, complete self-love, or however you want to call it, is about getting acquainted with your own feelings of loneliness. Escaping makes you weaker, more troubled, it diminishes your moral character towards yourself. Facing your fears of loneliness, you become your fears of loneliness; and soon afterwards, this familiarity becomes your normal.

And now you’ve become stronger, without having to run to somebody else for comfort or validation. Because if you really can make the act of being by yourself joyous and a source of happiness and love for you, then you get to strengthen yourself; and this is an inner strength which nobody, and no problem in life, can take away from you. When this magic inside you happens, from that moment on, you never give up, you never feel less, you never feel rejection, you never feel troubled or inferior to another. This personal process has made you a human being of greater moral qualities and character, and such is a human being who has enlightened himself, with complete confidence, with greater love and purpose, with a vast determination and self-discipline to be constantly happy in his life.


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Real power.

The measure of who we are is what we do with what we have.

~ Vince Lombardi

What makes our lives…??

What makes us be who we are…??

Even if we do not want to be what we are, why are we what we are…??

The greatest mistake of people is to allow themselves to be guided by their circumstances and/or situations. Most of us carry ourselves and our habits, our moral compass and the ways to see life, according to how we feel in the moment. But how we feel in the moment will pass. Falling in love, that passion felt at first, this will pass; and it will require your commitment and loyalty to make the relationship work more than the passion felt. And how about good nutrition…?? If you are used to eating unhealthily since youth, then you will eat unhealthily in your older years; because your mind is used to eating as in youth.

This is why you begin training your mind in loyalty and commitment now, so relationships will work no matter what happens in your life. And about eating, the same. You begin training your mind in health rather than flavor now, so later in your more mature years you will greatly avoid problems for lack of health. Out of all these moral habits you built then, your mind becomes stronger, more expanded into intelligence and understanding of morality, and you enjoy life much more, and happiness joins you along your life’s journey. And that is what we all want, isn’t it…?? In this way, or in the other way, we all want happiness.

See, the real power, the real capacity to be great, is not in your situations, in where you were born, in the childhood you had, or in the fluctuations of this immoral society; but it is in you, because your mind is the creator of all you experience. If you drink alcohol, you chose to put poison in your body; so your mind will give you your experiences accordingly. If you choose to see your life in a negative way, your mind will give you more negativity in your life. Your mind is a magnet for whatever you experience in life. So, to remain aware of what you do daily is to watch carefully what you accept as your mind’s content. Your habits become what and who you are.


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The aware life

Why is the world the way it is…?? How to see past this..?? How to let go of my own negativity…??

The world can be challenging, people dying of hunger, illnesses, great natural disasters, and every immoral choice you can imagine. No one can deny this. You can see this wherever you look.

But it is in us to wake up each morning and find some miracle in our lives. Instead of thinking about the worst that could happen, I think about the positive that will happen. The positive that will happen is not about what will happen per se; but about my own mental attitude, the content of my thoughts, me letting go of anxiety no matter what happens. It is about my mental freedom. If my self-talk steers away from harmony, if the voices in my head start seeking the negative and loudly shout the pain from failure, then it means that I must become more aware of myself and steer my thoughts towards something positive and helpful in my day.

How you feel, and how you experience life, will be a result of your daily self-talk. Do you punish yourself because you “failed” at something?? Are you judgmental in the way you see your moments in life?? What about the voices in your head about your past…?? Are they loud and always bringing up the heartache and tragedies you lived?? Can you let go of this?? Can you not remain attached to the voices that bring anxiety into your life?? Because if you want happiness, you must let go, you must train your mind to seek positivity in the negative, to see the beauty in the ugly. Not saying this is easy, but just saying this is the only way.

Please see my article about happiness here: The essence of happiness. We can then say that a person’s character is his/her daily thinking. I will become the lover of my life, no matter what happens in it, if I remain self-aware, which is to remain focused in my daily self-talk. I will be what I tell myself daily. If I tell myself daily that life is struggle and that nobody gives me a chance, then that is the way I will remain; because this kind of self-talk is not giving me hope and strength to become better than I am now. But if I tell myself that I can get better and that I will keep on looking for better opportunities, then I will get stronger and change my life; because this kind of self-talk gives me hope and it revives my human spirit.

And it is all about keeping that flame alive (the human spirit), that passion for life which resides in you, maybe buried deeply; however, it never disappears completely as long as you are alive, so seek it. This is your challenge in life. This is my challenge in life. We are all here to keep that flame alive. Because life gets better only in this way.


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Becoming better at life

What is there to smile about…??

Where are the positive things…??

Why is life so unfair…??

How do I find the laughter, the joy, the inspiration…??

Look within you past your own thoughts of negativity. For a moment, forget your finances, the people you don’t tolerate, the things you dislike about yourself and your life.

We all have something to be thankful for. But sometimes we focus on the negatives, what goes wrong in our lives, maybe we don’t make enough money, perhaps have relationship problems, etc. Also, it could be that we remain attached to what goes on in the world right now, maybe Covid, perhaps the fact that people are suffering because of this. Whenever we want to think about something negative, we will find it. Easily find it. And the human mind is attracted to “easily,” which means the human mind, in most of us, tends to gravitate towards something which doesn’t require much thought. Check out this article please: Potential for happiness.

I spent my Thanksgiving with family. Obviously, not all family due to Covid-19. I remained focused on my freedom. I quickly thought about all the negatives and things which need to be fixed in my life, and then I thought about all the daily things to keep myself grateful. I rediscovered that the positive things give me inspiration, strength to keep going and become better at fixing patiently that which I may find to be negative in my life. And that is just it. We have to look deeply inside ourselves and leave our problems aside, find the little things which can inspire us in our lives. This may be easy or not. But it is always possible.

To be happy in your life, you must do this. A Happy Life Now. You must understand that your troubles do not compare themselves to your blessings. I don’t know you, and I don’t need to know you to tell you this. Because you may be having all the problems you have, but you are alive and you have the capacity to look forward to fix whatever needs to be fixed. Or maybe whatever needs to be fixed really is just a wakeup call, or perhaps a challenge which exists to help you see things in a different perspective in order to change. Change helps you become better at your own life because it brings you awakening, intelligence, and it increases your capacity to see what you didn’t see before about your own life. So, seek the positive, as small as this may be; and keep a mind and heart of gratitude.

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Potential for happiness.

So, how does one choose what’s important in his life…?? How does one measure happiness?? The essence of happiness. Now, one thing to understand is that pleasure and happiness are two different things. Pleasure is something of the mind and relevant for this society, like money, like the need to form relationships, like a career, like the need to belong to a group. This could be good or bad. Your choice. But a deeper look into happiness tells us that happiness in none of these things. What happens if all these things I have mentioned are taken away…?? How would you feel if there is no money, no relationship with another, no career, no support and validation from a group??

Happiness, on the other hand, is something which exists in you, no matter what you have or do not have. Money cannot give you happiness for example. Money is good, but it can only give you pleasure. The pleasure to buy the food you like. The pleasure to support yourself and your family financially. The pleasure to travel. The pleasure to buy a computer and connect through the internet with millions of people. And all this pleasure is necessary or not in our societies, but it is not relevant to happiness. Just because you have money, a family, a career, or belong to a political or religious group, does not mean you’re happy. Happiness is in you, in your thoughts of inspiration and positivity; however, it has nothing to do with the superficial, even if important to you, achievements in society.

I have written an article which expands on our inner capacity. Please take a read. Hope you find it helpful: Strength. Courage. Passion.

This leads us to Great intelligence. This intelligence is not intellectual. This intelligence is highly moral, of your heart, and it speaks loudly of your inner spirit. Money cannot give you this intelligence. Books, family, religion, politics, cannot give you this intelligence. Because this intelligence is the capacity in you to be happy. Love and happiness. Plain and simple. You may have had a terrible childhood. You may have had a tragic trauma. You may be carrying much distress, loneliness, misery right now; however, the magic to actually be happy despite this still is in you. When you were a child, it was there. But as you grew up, the stress of this society, the stress to make money, the stress to build family life, the stress of disliking other religions and political parties affected you. You, subconsciously, without knowing, allowed it to happen. But you can still recover this if you reach deep within you, but it takes surrendering your anxious mind to your heart.

This one is about a little hope, learning through life, and the strength to do it. Thought it could be relevant as well: Thus Awaken…

Thanks for reading. If interested, read this one about the main characters of my new young adult/fantasy novel titled “BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman.” I am really proud of these characters: BENJAMIN JONES. Fiction characters.

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YOUNG ADULT FICTION

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It’s about how we feel.

I woke up early to write, like each morning. Currently the second book in the series ‘BENJAMIN JONES,’ titled “The Return of The Gods.” You can read a sample chapter of my published book here, the first book in the series BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman.

I was thinking about how I was feeling and the importance of pushing ourselves and our passions, aiming to feel we are developing ourselves more and more. And how sometimes we give up on ourselves, even without wanting to do it. Because of what they say, or because of what happened in the past, or because of how daunting something seems. This can become our demons, our negative habits and way of living; and, even worse, in time if we let ourselves feel like this we may start really believing we are worthless. Great amounts of people in the world are unhappy because of this.


And then life starts losing that spark and inspiration we seek every day. When life turns dull like this then, a giant void or emptiness appears in us. Nothing matters anymore, because we lost our passion, our zest, our motivation in life. A sense of direction in life. And our sense of direction in life must be born from our inner moral compass, which at the same time is nourished by our habit of health, courage, excellence. This means that we must aim to be the best we can be, and so not postpone things. Work on our talents. Find our talents. Never let others bring you down. Never let those negative and loud voices in your head tell you that you cannot do it or that you are worthless.

Push boundaries (video) Pushing ourselves then. Pushing ourselves without overthinking and allowing our egos to block us from getting better. Because life is all about how we feel. It’s about quality. And we feel better, successful, happy, when we are motivating ourselves to become the best we can be.

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And if you liked this article, please check out my books:

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“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

YOUNG ADULT FICTION

“BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman”: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MBFXSR9?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

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The right one.

It so happens that life is really just a mirror of us. Not a mirror of our desires. Because most of us desire goodness for ourselves and for others. And most of us also desire good lives. But this does not really help. Thoughts and feelings do not create your life, but behaviors do. The right habits daily mold your character, build your life slowly.

1- If a man wants a beautiful and healthy looking woman, he must be that; which means that he must take care of his health, mind and body. Once he becomes that, he can now attract and get the same from a woman.

2- If a woman wants a good and decent man who seeks true love, then she must become opened to meet good and decent men in the right places, but she must be patient and not give herself easily. She must give herself time to fall for such man. She must get to know him deeply and not fall for romantic or lustful words and advances.

These are just two examples out of the many. Point being that in life you must become first. You want love?? Become it first in your daily behaviors towards yourself and others. You want success?? Become that yourself in the same way. You want happiness?? Become that as well. Life will give you what you already are inside yourself. So many people reach wealth status, have big families, great positions in society; however, this is not love and happiness. They must become inside themselves first. Take this to heart and adopt better habits. Take care of your body and mind. Become yourself all you seek in life.

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“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Out of the rut.

I usually encounter people who talk a lot about their illness or problems, like anxiety, like OCD, like anger issues, like frustrations, etc. etc. They go on and on trying to get attention and pity from others. Specially social media is plagued by people venting their illnesses, problems, frustrations. But, unbeknownst to them, they are making their issues and frustrations more powerful; for the attention you give to thoughts makes them even stronger and assimilated by your entire biological system.

Assimilated by your entire biological system means that these thoughts of frustration and negativity become powerful feelings, and these feelings become your experience in life–i.e., your whole identity, or how you experience yourself. But, on the other hand, if you were to empower your positive traits, your talents, your dreams, your strengths, then you would become free and you would feel capable of being love and happiness.

With this, I am not saying you are not going through a rough patch, or that your traumas are fake; but I am saying that you should think and talk about your positives, to empower yourself, to not live tied to misery, and to not feel trapped and doomed. You define yourself by this. Your true identity is discovered only if you have courage to detach from the negative. Life is about self-discovery. You are life. I talk about this in my books very clearly, with many examples to help you understand this and thus change your mindset and behavior. Because I am all about this.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my currently published work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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The way to happiness.

 

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  • Just let go of your obsessions.  Obsessions with money, with possessing women, men.  Overthinking about what could go wrong, and living in your past.  This all leads you away from being grateful now, from paying attention now.  That loneliness, that envy, that frustration you feel, comes because your attention is not on being grateful of your Now.

  • To enjoy yourself now, focus on yourself and on what’s in your life now.  Don’t take it for granted.  This is what my book, “I ALWAYS LOVED YOU,” is all about.  People often neglect themselves and do not actually develop self-love and self-esteem, but they focus on what others have.  This brings a mentality of negativity for their own lives.  You must raise yourself above it.


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