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Simply love

What is the true meaning of Valentine’s Day beyond all the concepts, history, and society’s influences…??

What is love really…??

People all over the world, or in most of the world, are preparing for Valentine’s Day. They are going shopping, and reserving restaurant dates, and going on trips, and doing some kind of special gesture of love for another. Why…?? This is what society influences in you, right?? This is what brings anxiety to single people, and also anxiety to people in romantic relationships. The single one wants a romantic relationship and to be bought things and remembered this one day. The one in a romantic relationship already worries about buying something special, about some grand gesture to show some irrational concept of love in one day that, society has told him, is the most important day regarding love.

But is love celebrated one day a year…?? Is love a concept that says that you have to buy and do some great gesture on this exact day?? What is really love for you?? Love is friendship. Love is connection. Love is family. Love is acceptance. Love is truth. What does this mean…?? It means you are love, and your family is love, and all your loved ones, and those neighbors you don’t know. There is no special day, or person even; because love is in you, you radiate it, which means you must become loving with yourself and with others. All those troubles you carry, that mental anguish, those painful memories. These are to be transformed and embraced, daily; because true love begins in you.

Buying things, grand gestures, special trips. These do not really mean anything if you are empty inside and you do not carry love and acceptance for yourself. It should give you health of body and mind. It’s not about another, but about yourself. It’s also about the way you treat others daily. Forget special days. Show a great moral character daily. If love is to be true, then it must change you from within, not from without by making grand gestures to be seen and accepted by another. Not gestures to follow society and copy others. You feel lonely because you try to copy others, society and the concept they have of what “love” is.

But this does not help. But this only makes the loneliness heavier on you, and it brings you more anxiety, more jealousy, more heavy burdens to carry. If you can just remember that love is an essence in you, and that you transform yourself daily into love by accepting yourself and by becoming a moral person, then you can truly love whoever comes in contact with you. But no special day can do this, no special gesture; but only the commitment in yourself daily, and only everyday moral gestures beginning from yourself can.


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Let it go.

What makes people act in harmful ways towards themselves and towards others…??

What they carry inside becomes quite often the monster and the tragedy of their present lives.

The secret is to let go, lose your attachment, practice better habits, and create new inspirations and new ways of thinking. Because we all carry our burdens, our challenges, and even past memories which might be coming back to haunt our present; but it is extremely important for your health to be more easygoing, more accepting, without less judgment and without making a big deal out of everything. Your mind and body requires you to accept yourself as you are, with all the burdens, flaws, mistakes, and things you secretly struggle to hide. This is the enemy. By hiding it, by escaping it, you give it more strength, more energy to alter your personality and make you choose wrongly in life.


And nothing is more damaging to the way we think and feel than being uptight and not flexible to life’s up and downs. Whatever happened, let it go. And whatever is bothering you now, is not actually bothering you. What presents itself as annoying, burdensome, challenging, is your own ego, your preconceived notion of things and your attachment to the way you want things to be. Let your mind rest, without all this anxiety and rigid perspectives of things. Your ego makes you act out and subconsciously you create a toxic program, a mental habit which creates more burdens and problems for you to believe as real


So, you are your own enemy; but you don’t even know it. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Become acquainted with your enemy (ego) and learn to become more relaxed and adventurous. Don’t put the effort into thinking more ways to be anxious and upset; but put that effort instead into creating better habits, new thoughts, new perspectives, and to make yourself more understanding and creative in terms of life changes. Life goes well. Life goes not as well. We all go through this roller coaster. But the secret is to remain new all the time. Don’t let it consume you. Think freshly. Be more flexible. Not only for your relationships with people, but also for the relationship with yourself, with your past, with your present, with your thoughts of a future, and for that relationship with life itself.


“Life is a dream to be deciphered only by a dreamer,” he said. “To lose yourself in the dream, to learn how dreams are built, that is the point of life”

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Breaking the rules.

What is love to you…??

Without putting labels and concepts to it, how do you love…??

Can you leave the rules, ways of thinking and believing when it comes to loving…??

How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love. And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.

Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves. People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.

So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.


I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.

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“A story of a young 12 years old orphan boy who get guided by Indian Spiritual Guru Adit Acharya. Being Indian, I got attached with the story easily. Story line is very good. Lot of things to learn. Author Asa Rodriguez has written very good life quotes on True Love. The story is very much inspiring. I recommend this book to youngsters as adults.” ~ Ashish Jain.

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Why do you feel lonely…??

What is loneliness…??

What is that feeling of emptiness one tries to always escape…??

And why do people tend to do this over and over again??

It all stems from feeling lonely, even subconsciously. Humans have created a heaven, a hell, God, Satan, spirits and a spiritual realm waiting after this life, etc, because they feel lonely. Humankind feels lonely. This is also why everyone seeks relationships, even if they’re not ready for them. Violent arguments, wars, seeking to feel superior, richer and more prosperous than another, bullying, feelings of hate towards another. It is all about feeling alone, feeling isolated, feeling empty deep inside and putting on a mask to hide how they truly feel. So, in reality, this has nothing to do with the people around you, or the people that is not around you, or the things you’ve accomplished in life, or the things you haven’t accomplished in life. This is about becoming content, accepted, joyful in yourself, by yourself.

The worst mistake, the addictive drug, is when one feels lonely and immediately seeks other people, relationships, groups of any kind, money and position in society to escape one’s loneliness. This makes your anxiety and lack of self-love even greater in you. From my own experience, I can tell you that awakening, enlightenment, complete self-love, or however you want to call it, is about getting acquainted with your own feelings of loneliness. Escaping makes you weaker, more troubled, it diminishes your moral character towards yourself. Facing your fears of loneliness, you become your fears of loneliness; and soon afterwards, this familiarity becomes your normal.

And now you’ve become stronger, without having to run to somebody else for comfort or validation. Because if you really can make the act of being by yourself joyous and a source of happiness and love for you, then you get to strengthen yourself; and this is an inner strength which nobody, and no problem in life, can take away from you. When this magic inside you happens, from that moment on, you never give up, you never feel less, you never feel rejection, you never feel troubled or inferior to another. This personal process has made you a human being of greater moral qualities and character, and such is a human being who has enlightened himself, with complete confidence, with greater love and purpose, with a vast determination and self-discipline to be constantly happy in his life.


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Meaning.

What is the meaning of life…?? Isn’t that personal??

But what is that feeling of belonging naturally born in ourselves??

It is not about others, but about yourself.

To feel in a relationship is vital. Life is relationship, because life is one thing divided into many; however, it is still one thing, the illusion is the division. Relationship is that feeling of belonging. When that feeling of belonging ends, then one contemplates suicide. Life has no meaning without feeling that relationship. And to be truly successful in that relationship is growing as a human being.

If you’re feeling like you’re failing, then you’re losing humanity, until life loses meaning for you. Success is not in anything but you, and relationships are about your inner growth. ALL relationships. If you are in a relationship and not growing, get out of that meaningless void. Seek to be better yourself. Let others worry about themselves. Don’t waste your time and lose meaning yourself.

Nothing is more important than this. We are creatures of relationship. We feel deep. We feel hurt. We feel loneliness. We feel rejection. We feel abandonment. But we also feel love in ourselves. And that love must be nurtured in you daily. And for this nurturing to take place in you, you must watch yourself, take care of yourself, stand up for yourself, seek your own respect and admiration. Do not focus on others. Even though we may love others, the only one who can love you unconditionally and throughout life, the only one who can strengthen you and make you into a successful human being in all aspects, is YOU.


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Just love her.

TO MEN. JUST LOVE HER:

If she wants you, don’t worry about the rest. Love her entirely, with passion and honesty; and she will be yours, as long as you do this. The feminine just wants to feel loved, feel her own beauty blooming. This is her sole purpose for existence. This is her nature.

She has been born in a physical body to learn about her own beauty, and to feel the emotional and physical affection her soul’s nature craves. As you love her, she will find safety and comfort, freedom and sweetness in herself and with you. This will inspire her to better herself, to love herself, to keep herself beautiful and passionate.

She will mold to the masculine if she feels truly loved, free to be herself, and without judgment from him. If man can stop trying so hard. If man can stop overthinking. If man can stop trying to control and fix everything, then she becomes his in mind, heart and body.

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“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

Fiction

BENJAMIN JONES. The Call of The Shaman: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MBFXSR9?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420

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The right one.

It so happens that life is really just a mirror of us. Not a mirror of our desires. Because most of us desire goodness for ourselves and for others. And most of us also desire good lives. But this does not really help. Thoughts and feelings do not create your life, but behaviors do. The right habits daily mold your character, build your life slowly.

1- If a man wants a beautiful and healthy looking woman, he must be that; which means that he must take care of his health, mind and body. Once he becomes that, he can now attract and get the same from a woman.

2- If a woman wants a good and decent man who seeks true love, then she must become opened to meet good and decent men in the right places, but she must be patient and not give herself easily. She must give herself time to fall for such man. She must get to know him deeply and not fall for romantic or lustful words and advances.

These are just two examples out of the many. Point being that in life you must become first. You want love?? Become it first in your daily behaviors towards yourself and others. You want success?? Become that yourself in the same way. You want happiness?? Become that as well. Life will give you what you already are inside yourself. So many people reach wealth status, have big families, great positions in society; however, this is not love and happiness. They must become inside themselves first. Take this to heart and adopt better habits. Take care of your body and mind. Become yourself all you seek in life.

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And if you enjoyed that, please take a moment to visit my work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Love and anarchy: a poetry chapbook.

This is a poetry review.  I chose to read this one because it brings a new side of life.  I do not smoke.  I do not drink.  I do not choose to see the tragedy in life.  And yet, this work of poetry is very moving, and it expands my mind into understanding other aspects.  You can find love, relationships, the emotional roller coaster in the poet’s life.  There is a hint of depression and addiction here.  It is a mixture of emotions and each line explains the essence of anxiety, joy, sadness, lost love, memories.   

I give this one 4 stars out of 5.

  • I really think life is a tragedy, a theater of our making, a myriad of our most intimate experiences and inner dialogues (or daily self-talk).  And I think the poet tries to bare his experiences, raw and very intimate; thus desires to share that with you.  These experiences may elevate you, or give you a deeper insight into life.  I truly recommend these personal thoughts to you.  Personally, I’ll be reading this again and expanding my understanding into this phenomena roller coaster we call life. 

Straight from the poet’s mind:

My name is Tyler R. Martin I’m am a veteran having served in the US Army and now a published poet living in New York. My poetry attempts to put life under a microscope revealing the good the bad and the horrible. I spend my days chain smoking and drinking bourbon. Enjoy my work!

You can follow Tyler on:

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And if you enjoyed that, please take a moment to visit my work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

Review of my books: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

Review of my books: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Love beyond the surface.

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  • Love is not something superficial.  If it were, then the world would be full of people in love, never falling into anger, never falling into violence, never making the same mistakes due to not understanding each other.  So what is true love if not the essence of us…??  We create or build relationships, but true love must be found within oneself.

  • Now, when it comes to relationships, the path of spirituality, of essence must be taken.  You must seek those who can see you for who you are, not someone who only sees your surface.  The surface is what changes–i.e., our moods, our wants, our passions, our loneliness, our frustration, our thoughts of ourselves.  But there is something which does not change.  Love.  So, seek that.  And love others who seek the same.

Review of my books: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”


Review of my books: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”



“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.
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Seeing through Things.

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The world fails in wisdom, fails in understanding, fails in seeing truth.  Because man is unable to see this, he creates wars, and bullying, and misunderstanding, and racism, and all kids of aberrations of the mind.  Why…??  Because all wisdom and love do not lie in living life, or in experiences.  You can have 90 years old and it wouldn’t matter.

The key is observing through things.  Not ignoring the pain one feels, but accepting it and learning from it.  If a man loses family, he, instead of depressing himself, should analyze what he feels deep inside and not label it as something bad.  All we go though is a lesson for the observer, not a punishment.

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I have written this book based on this.  That life is change.  And that change, no matter what that is, is love.  To really observe the experience of change is to find the love to learn from it, to thus change ourselves and better ourselves.  Happiness is the inspiration of love.  We must find it.

Inside my book you’ll find different topics, from self-love and self-esteem increase to successful relationships; however, you will also find the truth without coating.  I speak to you directly, not to others.  Because it’s about you.  It’s about self-transformation, not about trying to change others.

A little bit about me:

I dedicate my life to help others.  I am currently writing a fantasy YA (young adult) fiction book titled “BENJAMIN JONES.  The Call of The Shaman.”  Because I deem creativity and understanding the two most important things in life.  Without them, there is no love, no happiness.

I am also into health, as the most important source of physical life is our immune system, and I treat my body as my temple.  Check out my books below as well.  Thanks for reading.


Review of my books: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”


Reviews of my books: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”



“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.