Achieving perfection is impossible. But chasing perfection makes you better. A person with purpose is a person who builds his life around the best habits. Better in health. Better in love. Better in relationships. Better father/mother.
Better son/daughtet. Better in creativity. Never bilittle yourself and say you cannot do better. All it takes is passion, step by step, creating the best habits daily for your better development.
Just better habits
To be better human beings, thinking and feeling, beliefs and philosophies, desires to be better do not actually make us better. Only better habits that mold you into something better actually make you better.
But the more you think about this, the more excuses you’ll make about it. The secret is to stop thinking and overthinking it so much, just envision a better you and design better habits.
What is something very important for you?? What is your absolute passion, that which makes you truly inspired and happy?? I ask myself this, no matter if I already know it. I ask myself this daily to have it fresh in my mind, so I can pursue my goals, my passions and behave accordingly.
Wanting more out of life is not something bad. A better relationship. A better job. More money. Better opportunities. To be understood and treated fairly. It is all part of the journey of progress here.
What you’ll become
But, first and foremost, you have to watch your mind constantly for greediness, for anxiety and attachment to these things. They can make you competitive and agressive. They can really make you unable to truly find love and happiness within yourself.
And it is because your mind is the most important tool you have. So, the attention must be on you as a human being, in your self-development; and not losing yourself entirely in outside distrations. Wherever your attention goes, that’s what you’ll become.
I have spent much of my life in anger, frustrated, expecting life to be compassionate to me because I always saw myself as a good man. Coming from Argentina to United States, 20 years ago or so, was a big change, in culture, and in ways of thinking and feeling. So I started to see life in a different way.
Life does not respond to what you think you deserve, but it responds to your persistence and behavior aimed to your goals. And I learned that you must be specific in your goals. You can’t just wish for happiness. But you must trace a detailed plan of what you want and persevere on it, no matter the obstacles in your path.
Hone your skills
For years, I never really knew what to do. What really gives me passion, joy and purpose?? Because we, especially men, must have a purpose that gives us great joy and makes us feel confident in ourselves. So, I worked for years on my writing skills, never knowing really what to do with this. But it gave me so much direction and understanding. It gave me a new sight, in a sense.
To feel and actually know that I am extremely good at something important to me. After I became a published author I gained so much discipline and confidence, which spread through all aspects of my life. I write this to remind you of the importance of finding your own purpose and passion. And there is no worthless or trivial skill or talent. Always know that.
Trust is very important in any relationship. That feeling of security. That feeling of safety to express how you think and feel to your loved one without being ridiculed or put down.
But trust, of course, begins with you. You must become trustworthy first, show others that you respect how they think and feel, even if you have different opinions. And this takes practice.
Whenever you feel like arguing what someone thinks and feels, stop yourself, pay attention to the anxiety in your mind to defend your views, and relax while reminding yourself that it is not a competition and that the other person only seeks to be heard.
Challenging, but a practice needed to strengthen our characters and build stronger connections in our relationships. To make people feel accepted and valued. After all, we all seek to feel accepted and valued.
Sometimes one needs a break from social media, from friends, from family, from work. And just sometimes the key is in taking care of yourself by seeking to be by yourself, alone with your thoughts. Relaxing. Maybe pondering your life and what you really want out of it. Perhaps meditating on your habits and actions.
All this alone time, all this inner seeking can lead you to great ideas and insights about yourself and about the direction your life is taking. Time for ourselves is the best use of our time, because it helps us grow as human beings, because it guides us into being more mature and wise individuals.
Change is the currency of life, the value of life, the essence of life. Without change, there is no evolution, progress, experience. And change is something that just comes to you, not seeking for your approval. So, it is of the very wise to welcome change. You can love it. You can hate it. You can fear it. But it is coming, whether we like it or not, and it brings the new.
If we resist change, then we suffer. If we remain attached to the old views, opinions, beliefs, traditions, lifestyles, then we will suffer and hate the new change. And that is why I say that welcoming change is of the very wise among us.And learning to adapt to change can be difficult, of course. A break up, a loss, a new lifestyle, a new country, a new change in the way we must think. These can be all challenging.
And so, one must reach deep within for bravery, for great energy to accept change, to flow with life, to switch from mental stubbornness to mental freedom to see new value in the new change. For many years I struggled with the loss of my father, and then with my brother’s, especially because we had just arrived to United States from Argentina. It was truly rough. I had to mature fast. Become the man of the house. Find the rhythm of life. Carry my family forward.
But, after much suffering, trial and error, anxiety and fears, I learned that change must align with a new mindset. And when it aligns with a new mindset, then we expand our understanding of this life, our acceptance of ourselves even, and our love for progress.Because true progress is about accepting life as it is, with the challenges, with the good and not so good changes. And this is accepting yourself, because, in all truth, you are your life.
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When you are very different from people, they don’t just not understand you but they misunderstand you; which means they judge you based on their own concepts, labels, ways of thinking and believing.
They cannot see you for who you really are because they may not have the capacity to project themselves into your unique mind, so they just might ignore you and label you something you’re not since they only understand people like themselves.
You are who you are, and the best thing in life is to be proud of it, to own it, to walk around with your head held high. Commit to your health of mind and body. Watch your behaviors. Always seek to increase your human value by seeking the truth of things.
But never pretend or downplay yourself for others. People will judge you based on their minds. Not many have the capacity to actually use empathy and project themselves into your mind to understand you, and that’s okay. You seek your path. Worry not about what others think and feel about you and your life.
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This is a highly spiritual and psychological approach to the very depths of our minds. It’s about freedom from our habitual patterns to increase self-esteem and reach the greatest confidence and value in us. Most people let themselves believe less of themselves, they fall into frustration and jealousy easily, they even end up hating themselves and their lives.
This leads to addictions, which is a subconscious pattern of the mind that affects the addict without their knowledge, but also it affects the ones around him through his relationships. But this is not a book about addiction per se, but a book about you and increasing your knowledge of yourself to increase the value in yourself. And it is about bringing success into your relationships.
There is no perfection. Life is a journey of discovery, for any of us. Sometimes we see people who smile and seem to have it all, and this could make us feel like we are failing in our lives, maybe doing something wrong, perhaps even jealous of another. But I’m writing this message to remind you that we all struggle from time to time, and it doesn’t matter who we are, or if we have money, or fame, or knowledge.
We are all here, on this earth, to struggle with something, very personal for us, and then learn from it to become better. No one is exempt from this. So, please, do not belittle yourself. That is the worst thing you can do. Belittling yourself, or your efforts, in any way, is exactly what troubles your mind further. Now, to feel inner value, love, happiness in you, you must not belittle yourself.
Strength to keep going is in the way you treat yourself, in your daily self-talk, in the kindness and acceptance you have with yourself. We are all carrying burdens, struggling with something; and, to me, that is just energy I can use to push forward, to create better things in my life. And I create better things in my life by focusing on me, not on others; and so, using that energy from struggle in me and convert it into strength to keep going through better, more conscious actions.
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Tomorrow, the 16th of April. Go outside. With your telescope. Or just your eyes. And behold! April’s full moon is called the “Pink Moon” because April sees the emergence of the Phlox subulata wildflowers that bloom in pink. But to be clear, the moon won’t actually be pink. It will actually glow orange – if you catch it at the right time. And no, friend, you don’t have to worship it… unless you really want to!
Why am I telling you this..?? Because the full moon reminds us that everything in nature goes through the same cycle. Water evaporates from the ocean and falls down again as rain. Fruit falls from a tree, carrying a seed that grows into a new tree. Even us. We are evolving each moment, decisions mark our direction. So is important to remind ourselves that our past doesn’t define us.
Flaws, mistakes, childhood, whatever it is, doesn’t represent you. Unless you allow it to do so. And also it reminds us that no matter what we did we can start again. Like the moon comes up, then disappears in the daytime, and then materializes to our view at night again. That same cycle is for us. We can start again. A better view of our lives. Better decisions. But it is the way we learn. We evolve. We look to the past just to learn and make better choices.
If we don’t learn from our past and become better, what are we doing here then?? To me, life, with the struggle, with the suffering, with the injustice, is all about me learning and becoming better. If I expect life to change, I am wasting my time. I am my life, so I must change. The Moon, I thought, it was just a nice symbol. And my next book in the series, #3, “The Book of 1st Witchcraft,” is deep in sorcery and witchcraft; hence moon magic. So, I just love the moon. Can you tell…??
What separates good from evil…?? It’s evil even truly real within us?? Ben struggles with what he believes to be evil in him. In the tradition of Rick Riordan’s ‘Percy Jackson and The Olympians’ mixed with J.K. Rowling’s ‘Harry Potter.” Click the image for FREE DOWNLOADS:
“…So, travel into your own mind, see your own absurdity and vainglory, study your daily behaviors and bring change to what must be changed. Do not deny, but observe as a daily practice. Be your own individual. Be wiser than you were yesterday…
“Stop seeking truth as an intellectual hobby, and transform yourself into truth by behaving truthfully. Do not think, but act. You must stand out from the herd. Be your own person…
“Because people will behave irrationally, and immorally, and cruelly, even when they know is wrong to do so; furthermore, they will do it just to escape their own suffering, dishonesty, their dark and anxious side…
“You will know people by their actions, and you know yourself by your actions. Enlightenment. Morality. Love. Truth. These are indeed actions. Not philosophies. Not thoughts. Not feelings. But actions.”