Dating and marriage advice – – Asa Rodriguez

True love is constant development

And that is the whole problem in society today, in how people have programmed themselves to recognize love. Just because you have opened your heart and mind to somebody, you think you deserve the same in return.

Or just because you are married, you start expecting unconditional and unquestionable affection and loyalty. But being human, when it comes to love, involves passion, commitment, desire, respect, always understanding more and more of how to keep that flame alive.

True love is wholeness

So love is not a given. We must develop ourselves further, better, and expand our understanding of that love. This includes all of it–the emotional part, the psychological part, the physical part, the sensual and sexual parts.

True love is wholeness, not just your poor understanding of it, not just what is known on the surface, not just what everybody else does. Learn more, because love is a mixture of many things to be mastered; and those things start as knowledge in different topics to expand your understanding, which never ends because it’s a journey to grow and grow until your last breath.

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True intelligence in life.

Throughout the years I’ve learned that knowledge does not really make you a better person, it does not bring illumination or any true intelligence. Unless you apply an expansion of the right knowledge, unless you let go of attachment to that same knowledge, your self-awareness will not increase and your intelligence will not grow. Don’t be attached to any knowledge at all, for it will only make you bias and stupid.

And when I talk about knowledge I am referring to any at all. All information, from any source. Beliefs. Popular philosophies. Scientific data. Politics. Personal opinions. Family traditions. Cultures. And whatever tries to guide you a certain way. Whatever, no matter intention, tries to lead you and take you through a certain path. But all knowledge is good though, we can learn something from it; however, any attachment makes your mind a follower of this particular knowledge while ignoring or condemning any other information which does not fit that first knowledge you worship.

So, we can clearly see that if you follow any particular knowledge then your mind becomes rigid and a believer of that knowledge. This rigidness makes you prideful, arrogant, even violent with others who do not share your particular knowledge. This is important to have in mind specially in relationships. In relationships, to be successful, you must have an open mind and accept the other person as they are. To be truly intelligent, awakened, wise, you must let go of worshiping any knowledge at all; and so, become more open-minded and connected to yourself, to others, to life, without any rigidity.