The more I grow in personal wisdom and also in my writing craft, the more I think about what style and uniqueness mean in my life. And I like these following quotes, which made me think deeper about it:
-“Elegance is refusal.” ~ Coco Chanel.
-“Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.” ~ Orson Welles.
–“One of the really bad things you can do to your writing is to dress up the vocabulary, looking for long words because you’re maybe a little bit ashamed of your short ones.” ~ Stephen King.
Creating your style
So, for style to be wholeness you must create yourself in all aspect. Whatever you do, the way to be different and stand out is the way of uniqueness. So, If you have a unique style and you want to create a new way to go about things, then practice to master it. Do not listen to others.
Most people are attached to the path society has already established for them. But in order for you to achieve greatness, you have to leave the close-minded masses and the way they choose to enslave themselves to the established thought.
Break the rules properly
A billion people may do the same you do, but if you are unique and bring your own style to your work then you’ll be recognized by your originality. See, no one is better or worse. That feeling of being more or being less, that is your own ego.
Achieve self-control over it, then you can create your own image and reach your uniqueness. I always say that rules are meant to be broken, but it’s only acceptable to break them when you master your own style–in your writing, in business, in fashion, in dating, in marriage, in everything.
Push yourself to give your best. Make sure at the end of the day, as you go to sleep, that you feel proud of the work you did. Life is really about nurturing this feeling. It took me a long time to truly understand this, but it is real because all that really matters is how you feel about your work.
Knowing that you are giving your best in your creative process, in your career, in your job, in your relationship, and in whatever it is. Even if things do not go as you planned, just having that safety and accomplished feeling inside you knowing that you did your best. This is what we all want.
Just do your best and let the rest go
So, please, do not let yourself be troubled if life is tough right now, or if nothing seems to be working at the moment. Keep pushing, but do it always giving your best and knowing that you are confident in yourself. Let all overthinking, overanalyzing and judging go.
Don’t allow yourself to be full of doubts and fears, just make sure you are certain you did your best. Doing your best builds a strong character. Doing your best speaks of your self-discipline and professionalism. And this, with patience, leads to great life success in general.
Life is always testing us, people, things, events, new situations. Really what it is, of course, is evolution, the way things happen, the path of evolving through this thing we call time. So, mistakes are made, no one is perfect; so we suffer, we act impulsively, and we may even adopt bias perspectives based on the frustration we feel when something goes wrong. This is being human. No biggie. One must learn that this is how things are, no matter how intelligent and mature and evolved you think you are. ‘Shit happens’ as they say, right??
But one secret is that life is not what happens around you, not the events, not the people who annoy you, not the dating or marriage situation, etc. No. Life is a feeling, each moment, in you. Life is about how you feel about what happens around you. This is very different. Pay attention. You may lose a loved one, or lose a job, or suffer discrimination, or bullying, or a thousand things. Terrible. Appalling. But you choose how to feel about those things. Obviously, being angry, frustrated, down on yourself, is normal; because this just happens to everybody at some point. That negative and dark feeling is what we all go through, at different levels, in different experiences; but we all live this, and it is up to each one of us to remain feeling like this, or wake up and choose to move on and feel better.
Obviously, choosing to move on is difficult. It took me years after my father died. So I am not telling you that is easy. It can be extremely challenging. But you know what it is?? The attachment to feeling like a victim, to feeling down, to living in what happened to us. This attachment must be removed at once from our daily mindset. That begins confidence. That removal of attachment, however difficult for you, is what brings you that empowerment, that self-confidence needed in life. And life indeed requires the confidence being born from you moving on and believing in yourself.
All those bad things happening in life, they ask constantly for strength from you; that’s inner strength, and that’s why removing attachment from the hurt is vital in life if you want to move on and be awesome. Now, being awesome, feeling great, no matter your past, is really nature, human nature. It is innate to each one of us. Really, it is. The problem, or challenge, is the mind and the attachment to the negative. This attachment gives you lack of belief in yourself. When you don’t believe in yourself is when you start thinking negatively, finding flaws in others, even hating yourself; and then you feel hurt and bothered by the world. And yes, is true. Politics, religion, racism, prejudice, greedy businesses, whatever. These can really disturb us, one way or another; however, we don’t have to let it, we can rise above it.
So, choose to feel better about yourself without giving attention to the world. This is how I do it. It is not being selfish. It is called Self-love, Self-care, and it is actually the true essence of love lacking in the lives of most people now-a-days. So, I focus on activities, habits, daily behaviors which bring me health and good, strong thinking, great self-awareness. I exercise. I meditate. I cook my meals and make sure I have plenty of fruits and vegetables every day. I take time for myself to write, to connect to myself and to find out how I really feel and think without the influence from my family, friends, TV, and society in general. I never follow thoughts or feelings without finding the truth with empathy and rationality, no matter who has said it.
When you do all this, patiently, faithfully, your attention shifts inwards and it leaves the world. So now you’re focused on you. And you gain confidence. And whatever happens around you seems petty now, becauseyour energy is not focused on the outside but on the inside. And remember that life is not about the events happening around you, but it’s about how you feel about them. So if you focus on you and on feeling positive, you don’t really have time or desire to react impulsively to what happens around you. And then is easier to move on and move forward with great confidence and belief in yourself.Life only improves this way.
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