We enter this world empty. The baby does not know his purpose and he doesn’t know about this life. As he grows up, through trial and error, he discovers many things about how to be, how to act, even how to think and feel.
But this shouldn’t stop him from looking into himself once he is an adult. As this adult, he is on his own, so he should master himself, or at least begin his journey to self-mastery. If true love and happiness is to bloom inside him, then life requires him to stop following the influence of the world and look into himself.
Using what you find within
And looking into oneself then can be scary, or it can bring you some discomfort. I know that my childhood, my youth growing up wasn’t perfect; so I lived many losses, heartbreaks and painful things. Sometimes looking inside oneself as an adult can move and bring to the surface all that pain or burden that we have from childhood.
All the hidden, subconscious trauma and personal issues we may carry around. But to get better, to heal, to move on and better your life, you must dig all this and bring it to the surface of your conscious so you can use it as strength. Painful trauma, or any negative memory we carry, is energy. Knowing how to use this energy to our advantage is the responsibility of each one of us.
I think to be entirely oneself one must be brave, adventurous, not focused on the way others think and feel. I must connect with me, by focusing entirely on me. And the same goes for my activities, because in order to be successful I must create and do with freedom.
Creating and doing with freedom makes me feel joyful and confident. And life, in any aspect, requires this level of commitment from me. Commitment is not scary, or a burden, or a chore, if you feel joy and confidence in you.
Gaining experience as you go
And I often have felt afraid or overwhelmed when initiating a task, an activity, especially when writing the beginning of a story. But then again, creating and doing with freedom. So, I have come to understand that the biggest hurdle is the start of something, but that the start only asks for my adventurous spirit, my devotion for discovery.
It’s like exploring a place in which you’ve never been before. It’s all new, but as you start or enter the place then you become curious, and then more curious, and then you keep going with new ideas and driven by a passion to learn more about the place. And that is how experience comes to you, as you have the bravery to start and push yourself to keep discovering.
Don’t feel bad, out of place, weird, if you don’t really like what others like. The truth is that most people in this world, especially some of us men, pretend to like or love something. They pretend because they seek to belong to a group in society, they are scared to be themselves so they ignore who they really are just to fit in.
They lie to themselves. Pretending is a way to neglect who you really are deep inside, and this manifests as many psychic disturbances even as they don’t know it. One gets angry easily. One gets frustrated easily. One becomes depressed easily. And many clinical anomalies as well appear.
Reach deep within
So, you can see how unhealthy it is. Pretending is the disease that many ignore because it festers in the subconscious like a tumor in the brain–slowly and in secrecy until it becomes a big problem. The brave and real among us must then reach deep within us and be ourselves entirely in order to remain healthy, boost confidence, and be truly happy with who we are.
Life is always testing us, people, things, events, new situations. Really what it is, of course, is evolution, the way things happen, the path of evolving through this thing we call time. So, mistakes are made, no one is perfect; so we suffer, we act impulsively, and we may even adopt bias perspectives based on the frustration we feel when something goes wrong. This is being human. No biggie. One must learn that this is how things are, no matter how intelligent and mature and evolved you think you are. ‘Shit happens’ as they say, right??
But one secret is that life is not what happens around you, not the events, not the people who annoy you, not the dating or marriage situation, etc. No. Life is a feeling, each moment, in you. Life is about how you feel about what happens around you. This is very different. Pay attention. You may lose a loved one, or lose a job, or suffer discrimination, or bullying, or a thousand things. Terrible. Appalling. But you choose how to feel about those things. Obviously, being angry, frustrated, down on yourself, is normal; because this just happens to everybody at some point. That negative and dark feeling is what we all go through, at different levels, in different experiences; but we all live this, and it is up to each one of us to remain feeling like this, or wake up and choose to move on and feel better.
Obviously, choosing to move on is difficult. It took me years after my father died. So I am not telling you that is easy. It can be extremely challenging. But you know what it is?? The attachment to feeling like a victim, to feeling down, to living in what happened to us. This attachment must be removed at once from our daily mindset. That begins confidence. That removal of attachment, however difficult for you, is what brings you that empowerment, that self-confidence needed in life. And life indeed requires the confidence being born from you moving on and believing in yourself.
All those bad things happening in life, they ask constantly for strength from you; that’s inner strength, and that’s why removing attachment from the hurt is vital in life if you want to move on and be awesome. Now, being awesome, feeling great, no matter your past, is really nature, human nature. It is innate to each one of us. Really, it is. The problem, or challenge, is the mind and the attachment to the negative. This attachment gives you lack of belief in yourself. When you don’t believe in yourself is when you start thinking negatively, finding flaws in others, even hating yourself; and then you feel hurt and bothered by the world. And yes, is true. Politics, religion, racism, prejudice, greedy businesses, whatever. These can really disturb us, one way or another; however, we don’t have to let it, we can rise above it.
So, choose to feel better about yourself without giving attention to the world. This is how I do it. It is not being selfish. It is called Self-love, Self-care, and it is actually the true essence of love lacking in the lives of most people now-a-days. So, I focus on activities, habits, daily behaviors which bring me health and good, strong thinking, great self-awareness. I exercise. I meditate. I cook my meals and make sure I have plenty of fruits and vegetables every day. I take time for myself to write, to connect to myself and to find out how I really feel and think without the influence from my family, friends, TV, and society in general. I never follow thoughts or feelings without finding the truth with empathy and rationality, no matter who has said it.
When you do all this, patiently, faithfully, your attention shifts inwards and it leaves the world. So now you’re focused on you. And you gain confidence. And whatever happens around you seems petty now, becauseyour energy is not focused on the outside but on the inside. And remember that life is not about the events happening around you, but it’s about how you feel about them. So if you focus on you and on feeling positive, you don’t really have time or desire to react impulsively to what happens around you. And then is easier to move on and move forward with great confidence and belief in yourself.Life only improves this way.
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Sometimes we may have difficulty seeing good results, or getting better opportunities to better ourselves, or accomplishing certain goals in life. We’ve all been there, when things don’t go as we wanted, or when we feel somehow cheated or neglected in our journey through life with its many pressures. But sometimes it is wise to stop wallowing in our self-pity and frustration, stop all overthinking and breathe deeply; like this take our time, through patience, and changing our attitudes towards the situation.
This requires also that we act, better habits, new behaviors. It is about shifting your mindset and choosing other ways to go about things. Just because things are not going our way currently does not mean we have failed or that we cannot do more to navigate forth. No matter how difficult things turn, please, remember that you must walk and focus on each step you take, and change the steps, the approach if you must.
In whatever we do, if important to us, we need passion and commitment. Many people fail at this, but don’t focus on them. Focus on yourself and creating the new. And for this, passion and commitment, on anything we do, is created in us as we analyze things carefully and take the necessary steps to go after what we want. It is extremely important that we find our self-worth in this, because life is riddled with difficulties; and so, the inner strength helps us through them.
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It is true that we are One, in the sense that we are all going through suffering and an inner struggle to find value in this life. We are here, alive, with our flaws, with our past mistakes and current burdens because we must learn as we experience our journeys here. And to see and understand this, and to take it to behavior, is wisdom. That is why to help somebody else, or to motivate somebody else, is to do the same for ourselves. Because inspiring others makes us feel better about our own worth as human beings. Inspiring others also connects us, it opens possibilities to become even better in other aspects of life and to influence others further. Doing this creates self-confidence, and self-confidence is indeed required to grow in life in any aspect.
A life well lived is a life where you feel value within you, where you feel love, compassion, truth, and confidence in your own humanity. Your humanity is your innermost. Your humanity is your essence and what makes you connected to others. It is what gives you that compassion, that love, that link to their suffering and to whatever they are experiencing. This is the value we all seek, but that many bury under heavy layers of ego and pride. Now, to truly look within yourself and awaken is to see past your ego and pride. In order to better your life, as that of others with your example, you must understand that your ego and pride are enemies, that these are not helping you but blinding you from the truth and from making your life better.
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“So many things are possible, just as long as you don’t know they are impossible.”
–Norton Juster
What happens when something negative, some extreme anxiety, some fear, enters the mind…?? We become just that. Just that negativity. Just that anxiety and fear. Society shows you what could go wrong, or you pay attention to the failure or suffering of another. Or perhaps you just cling to past mistakes, or to the example of others, or to whatever they say it does not work. What does it do in your mind…?? It closes you to the possibility of creating and discovering something new. And life is all about exploration, new chapters to begin, another point of view, other visions and goals to pursue and make happen for yourself.
If you are not moving forward and creating new things, new experiences, new and better feelings in you, then life loses spark, meaning, purpose, joy. What I’m trying to say here is that we must never remain and cling to negativity, to fears, to drama. Let us say that we have a vision of a future, we are working towards something of value for ourselves, we have a purpose for creating something great in our lives; however, there is drama, difficulty, challenges, people who tell us that is never happening for us. In this case, we must not become overwhelmed by all the negativity. Even if the negativity sounds rational, one must always keep going, with faith, with a positive thought and vision. Because this process creates self-confidence.
And the truth is that what helps us grow in life, better our relationships, improve our finances, develop further our personas, is exactly self-confidence. Things evolve. Things become what you are. If you carry fear, drama, and attachment to negativity, then you are just that; and so, whatever thing you want out of life will become just that for you. But if you carry faith, self-belief, positivity and vision, then you are just that; and so, life will become just that for you. It is all about the content of your mind. The content of your mind creates the feelings that drive you. If you want success, love, happiness. If you want to better yourself, your finances, your relationships, your life in all aspect, then you need the best and most positive feelings to drive you.
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And my story is the epic account of what happened to Michael Vega, a young man who comes back from the beyond. He might come back for love. He might come back for revenge. He might come back to right a wrong. Or he might come back to the world of the living just because he rebels against any authority. Who knows??
You’ll just have to read it to find out.
But one thing is for sure:‘NOT EVEN HELL CAN STOP HIM.’
Love is inherent in us. In all of us. For all of us. One may have the greatest challenges, problems, heartbreaks; however, we are ALL worthy of love, and capable of giving love. As long as you are breathing and not in a comatose state, you can give love and receive it. But, in order to do this, we must become love first. What is that mean…?? It means we must move forward, not remain attached to the past hurt or failure or mistake. Maybe our childhood was tragic. Perhaps someone cheated on us in our past. Or many other terrible things. But, for this reason, moving on, focusing on building a new purpose in us, in our activities and daily habits, is what we must do to create love in our experience.
To open your heart and let yourself be loved by someone, you must stop following the heartbreaks and disappointments your past brings, and stop devaluing yourself and judging yourself based on past mistakes or in the way someone treated you in the past. Love, and your worthiness to be loved, is not measured by your self-pity and ego. Being loved is about moving on and opening yourself to new experiences for yourself without looking back. Love is a manifestation of moving forward with purpose and faith in yourself.
Now, of course, it is easy for us to feel hurt and remain attached to this, pity ourselves and live in hurtful memories. Sometimes, without knowing, we find pleasure in feeling like a victim. But feeling like a victim is letting our minds increase ego, and this increase lowers our chances to truly become better persons and build a better life for ourselves. And life is all about moving forward, is it not…?? We are meant to move on and leave the past where it is, behind us. Whether that past has been good or not, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you become aware that love and happiness resides in the passion and commitment to move forward. You create yourself anew by moving forward. So, never tell yourself that you cannot move forward into better things; because this is what true living is, moving forward, feeling accomplished by creating new purpose in your day to day.
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So, sometimes we may feel depressed, neglected, miserable even. Perhaps something didn’t go as planned. Maybe somebody else didn’t share our same feelings. Or it might be that certain outcomes in life just don’t seem to agree with us at some level. Whatever that is, we have the capacity to make it better. One may not see it at times, due to being anxious, angry, overwhelmed; but we all have the capacity to turn things around or make them better. This takes patience, of course; however, it also requires that you keep a peaceful mind, a mind that is strong and committed to keep going.
If we allow our minds to fall into fear. If we tell ourselves that we are incapable of doing something. If all we do in our minds is complain, curse, feel intimidated and shy about our own progress. If there is no desire to keep going in spite of the drama and difficult situations we live, then we are letting fear rule our decisions. And this makes you weak, unable to see your true capacity in your life, and it keeps you chained to this lack of self-love. Lack of self-love makes us paranoid, afraid and angry in our relationships.
The true purpose in your life is found once you let go of all that stress and anxiety, pain from the past and guilt you carry, and all that harmful intimidation and feelings of inferiority preventing you from becoming truly free. Whether a woman or man, the power begins in your determination and confidence to move forward in this.Now, please understand, if you don’t find your true purpose by letting go of all this fear, then you will fail in your life, in your relationships, in the treatment to yourself even. You will ask yourself why things are so bad in your life. You won’t see solutions.
You won’t feel strong and confident to become a better person in your relationship with yourself and with another.And without a sense of purpose, and without strength and confidence, we cannot really make ourselves feel proud, truthful, valued; but exactly this is what is required to live a happy life. So one must always remain aware of our minds, and so let go of any anger, frustration, anxiety, fear we may feel. This works for me, as it will work for you as well. So, keep your head up, remain honest, committed and confident in your mind.
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That which gives you passion, fills you with joy, and makes you a better, more talented human being. Follow that.
Why is it that most people tend to use the excuse of not having time…??
Sometimes excuses are just fears that we keep on feeding while time passes by.
Life runs forward without asking if we are comfortable, or if we need more time, or if we may change choices to have advantage on the outcomes. And putting excuses only hurts our opportunities as we live. One must follow what is true, not what gives us quick satisfaction and sure wins; but the secret is in following your heart, not your head. And how do you do this…?? By doing what’s right for you. By seeking to better yourself, making yourself stronger, more decent, more talented. It is about following something which helps you become more confident, more proud of your strengths and character.
Sometimes one says “I do not have time,” or “I’ll do it next time.” But quite often these are just excuses, perhaps out of fear of failure, maybe out of disinterest, or could be that one is used to laziness. But, truth is, whoever really believes in something, or if you feel truly passionate about something, then you’ll make time. Life is not about excuses. This life is about moving forward, experiencing change, getting better; and you can only progress in this if you commit to something truly important for you. Whatever that is, take it seriously, make plans in your head, and step by step work to build more and more. Little by little. Without excuses. With heart and commitment.
And for this, you must become patient. No one attains anything truly great without patience. Patience is self-discipline. Patience gives you the character and inner strength to wait and work intelligently towards building a better life. Remind yourself that life must give you joy, so the process of building your future must also give you joy and strength to keep going. This means that you must choose something important for you, no matter what others say. Choose whatever fills your heart and mind with passion, such passion must make you a better person. There is fleeting, bursting, not committed passion; and I’m not talking about this, of course. But use your mind, envision the future, think about what your pursuit will get you and what kind of a person you will become.
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This is some of what people are saying in their reviews:
“A story of a young 12 years old orphan boy who get guided by Indian Spiritual Guru Adit Acharya. Being Indian, I got attached with the story easily. Story line is very good. Lot of things to learn. Author Asa Rodriguez has written very good life quotes on True Love. The story is very much inspiring. I recommend this book to youngsters as adults.” ~ Ashish Jain.
“I loved the Percy Jackson feel of this quest, full of memorable monsters and an interesting mythology! If you’re looking for an epic quest packed with danger, creatures, magic, and great characters, come seek the orb with Benjamin Jones.” ~ J. Grant.
- Asa Rodriguez - 