One of the most attractive and successful traits to have in life is confidence. No matter what you go through, you must believe in yourself. Belief in myself is what got me through breakups, and deaths in the family, and financial troubles.
Because the fact is that terrible things are going to happen in life, unexpectedly, whether we want it or not; however, if we believe in ourselves, in the capacity to get through it, in the ability to re-build and triumph in the future, we then become strong and firm before any problems we may have.
Committed to your purpose
And there needs to be a vision, a purpose, a goal, in order to believe in yourself and get through whatever life throws at you. Our minds have to seize this positivity and vanquish all negativity, and with this comes the commitment to keep going.
This commitment is paramount. You have to train your mind to let all the worry and frustration go, so the strength to keep moving forward emerges and stays where is supposed to stay in order to bring you clarity and passion to desire to be better.
The human spirit has always been strong, nothing can affect it; however, the unruly one, the one that needs our full attention, is the mind. Too many things can alter the mind and bring it down, to the point that we start believing we are not capable, or worth it, or even deserving of any love and happiness.
But look at your life, minus the troubles and anxiety your mind creates. There you find your source for strength. Self-awareness is this exercise I’ve mentioned, when you stop using your mind so much and stop accepting whatever thought pops up in there.
You get up the eighth time by becoming aware of yourself. “The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” ~ Paulo Coelho.
You know, one thing about purpose is that is a requirement in life, especially the older you get you realize it more and more. Having a purpose is something that creates real passion in you, and also great motivation that is born from you without the approval from the people/society around you.
As you all know, my greatest purpose is the constant development of my writing and creativity. But I admit it is a challenge for me. I sometimes get so immersed in the story and in the purpose driving the characters that I deviate from the plot, or branch out from the plot altogether.
So, I usually have to go back, even re-edit what I’ve written, fix the scenes, and then describe the new events to attract the reader. It might sound funny, but it happens in our lives, when we get so excited or overjoyed with something that we have to stop ourselves and look back to where we are going.
How to treat a great purpose
Many of you won’t understand this, perhaps, but it is extremely important to be patient and pay attention to detail when following a purpose. Let’s say, a relationship, for example: It takes time and dedication.
Maybe we have to fix what we did and change our attitude towards such and such. Because love, poured onto any purpose of great value to you, must be treated with love, kindness, and great patience for it to bloom like the most beautiful flower and give us that sense of great meaning in our lives.
Imagine a life without misery, without suffering, without challenges, without any great worry. Imagine we are all happy, we get what we want always, we satisfy ourselves and everything works out for all of us.
Now, this “perfection” obviously takes away the mystery, the hidden lessons, the capacity to learn and come up with our own ideas and strengths to find solutions and ways to understand life.
If everything is happiness then there is no need for struggle. But the only capacity for growth is in the struggle. I lost people I loved and suffered much in my life, and so I gained the capacity to learn wisdom and strength. If I never go through suffering then I remain dull and weak, unwise and without experience.
Welcome the chance to grow
It is really difficult, to lose people you love, to see your life not working out, to feel like you are trapped in your own story. But that is also where the possibility to gain strength, wisdom, and grow as a better person hides. I personally have learned not to see life as punishment or as something I should experience in fright.
I have learned, and it took many years, that life is made of choices. As a grown up, each choice I make, whatever it is, hides a lesson I must discover. Discovering the lesson, accepting the lesson, and welcoming the lesson is only up to me–and always through patience.
Sometimes we worry too much about achieving something. Perhaps we look how others are doing, and we desire to reach that status that they currently have. Maybe we believe that if we don’t rush or haste we will lose our window for success.
All this anxiety and frustration. This is not allowing us to see the truth, that speed does not matter, that only persistence does. As long as we work consistently on something, with real passion, giving our best, always aware of new ways, then we can be successful.
What is success…??
See, success is unique, because each one of us is unique. So, the success we can have at something cannot be compared to the success of others. We are all different. Go our different pace. Have different ideas. Have different dreams. Have different views on life.
So, success is about how you feel, not tomorrow but now. And you will feel successful as long as you persist and work hard at what you do. But if you start comparing, or becoming frustrated, or angry with how things are going for you then you won’t feel or be successful. Because success is always a state of mind.
“Why do you do things…?? Anything, any experience, any behavior you consciously or subconsciously choose to have, any activity created by this human society. Why?? Why indeed?? Your behaviors have always a purpose, whether you are conscious of it or not…
“You have been programmed since birth to attach a purpose behind every behavior you express. You pursue something all the time. What is it…?? It is the very thrill of the chase what keeps you going. You know that, right??…
“It is the very thrill of the chase what keeps you wanting to live your life, to exist physically. So what is that thrill?? Let us carefully ponder this: you wake up, go to the kitchen, choose a breakfast you like; but not necessarily because it’s healthy. Then go to work, whether you like what you do or not…
“Later you choose a place for eating lunch, have a conversation and some fun with co-workers. Keep on working. You smile at the boss and tell him something nice, even though he is repulsive to you. So perhaps you curse the hell out of your boss in your head, just to release that frustration…
“Then you go on a date and act charmingly to be liked, have good fun. Or maybe just stay home, make your plans for the next day, work on your short-term or long-term goals, think about your future, deal with family, etc etc. Why…?? Why do you do this??…”
Thanks for reading.
This has been a section of Chapter 1 from my nonfiction, self-help book, “I ALWAYS LOVED YOU. – Creatures of Eternal Love.”
This is a highly spiritual and psychological approach to the very depths of our minds. It’s about freedom from our habitual patterns to increase self-esteem and reach the greatest confidence and value in us. Most people let themselves believe less of themselves, they fall into frustration and jealousy easily, they even end up hating themselves and their lives.
This leads to addictions, which is a subconscious pattern of the mind that affects the addict without their knowledge, but also it affects the ones around him through his relationships. But this is not a book about addiction per se, but a book about you and increasing your knowledge of yourself to increase the value in yourself. And it is about bringing success into your relationships.
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It is true that we are One, in the sense that we are all going through suffering and an inner struggle to find value in this life. We are here, alive, with our flaws, with our past mistakes and current burdens because we must learn as we experience our journeys here. And to see and understand this, and to take it to behavior, is wisdom. That is why to help somebody else, or to motivate somebody else, is to do the same for ourselves. Because inspiring others makes us feel better about our own worth as human beings. Inspiring others also connects us, it opens possibilities to become even better in other aspects of life and to influence others further. Doing this creates self-confidence, and self-confidence is indeed required to grow in life in any aspect.
A life well lived is a life where you feel value within you, where you feel love, compassion, truth, and confidence in your own humanity. Your humanity is your innermost. Your humanity is your essence and what makes you connected to others. It is what gives you that compassion, that love, that link to their suffering and to whatever they are experiencing. This is the value we all seek, but that many bury under heavy layers of ego and pride. Now, to truly look within yourself and awaken is to see past your ego and pride. In order to better your life, as that of others with your example, you must understand that your ego and pride are enemies, that these are not helping you but blinding you from the truth and from making your life better.
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