The greatest gift mankind has is empathy. Man becomes angered, violent, jealous, hateful, and all negativity without empathy. Connecting with the world around us, making our relationships better, creating ourselves in any way, it all requires that we listen to our heart and not to the voices of our intellect.
The intellect may help us at some level to look inwardly and find the knowledge we seek, but the intellect is not what connects us to one another and is definitely not what allows us to become better human beings. Letting go of our heads to trust with our hearts is challenging, but it’s also what we must discover within us in this life.
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Relationships, even the one with ourselves, are difficult. They can be challenging, but truly rewarding in terms of feeling that acceptance and nurture we all seek. Now, even if you seek a relationship with another, it all begins in you, in the inner relationship, in the relationship you have with yourself. So, greater empathy is about you and your relationship with yourself.
Letting go of all your troubles, reminding yourself that you have great value, believing in your inner strength even when things seem to go wrong in life. These things, they will cement a great relationship with yourself; and, because of this, you will be full of love and so you will know how to better the relationships you have with others as well.
No one is fated to remain the same from our past. No one is doomed by the hurt of what was. We are what we choose to do now, looking forward, by thinking consciously and accepting that we can change and be better. And to be better than we were is always about moving on, and is always about discovering the value and honesty in yourself.
The mind can be a solitary place
All that burden. Perhaps bad memories. Maybe things we regret. Or just neglect from loved ones we feel. It all can get pretty heavy on us and make us start thinking that we can’t progress on our own. This is the darkest of our thoughts, and this can really become a solitary place filled with anger and frustration. Who would willingly like to live in a mind like this??
We don’t heal by re-living bad memories, thoughts, and the things that were. I find that if I have a physical wound, for example, in order for it to heal I must not touch it. It might itch, sting, even hurt; however, if I keep touching it I make it worse and the wound starts to bleed more and more.
Now is a terrible pain that makes me weak and unable to feel healthy and happy to enjoy my life. The same happens with our memories, our past and all those things we must leave behind. We must be light and our minds free of burdens.
How I move on
1- You must create a purpose in your mind, and it has to be something truly important for you, something which makes you feel passionate and excited to work towards it daily.
2- You must give yourself the respect you deserve, which means not allowing thoughts of negativity, of doom and gloom to control the way you feel. It’s all about self-respect. All of it.
3- Trusting yourself is accepting that you will make mistakes and can move on from those. Trust is letting go from seeking perfection. You’re human, thus you will make mistakes. Accept this so your mind is ready to be strong when the time comes.
When you are very different from people, they don’t just not understand you but they misunderstand you; which means they judge you based on their own concepts, labels, ways of thinking and believing.
They cannot see you for who you really are because they may not have the capacity to project themselves into your unique mind, so they just might ignore you and label you something you’re not since they only understand people like themselves.
You are who you are, and the best thing in life is to be proud of it, to own it, to walk around with your head held high. Commit to your health of mind and body. Watch your behaviors. Always seek to increase your human value by seeking the truth of things.
But never pretend or downplay yourself for others. People will judge you based on their minds. Not many have the capacity to actually use empathy and project themselves into your mind to understand you, and that’s okay. You seek your path. Worry not about what others think and feel about you and your life.
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This is a highly spiritual and psychological approach to the very depths of our minds. It’s about freedom from our habitual patterns to increase self-esteem and reach the greatest confidence and value in us. Most people let themselves believe less of themselves, they fall into frustration and jealousy easily, they even end up hating themselves and their lives.
This leads to addictions, which is a subconscious pattern of the mind that affects the addict without their knowledge, but also it affects the ones around him through his relationships. But this is not a book about addiction per se, but a book about you and increasing your knowledge of yourself to increase the value in yourself. And it is about bringing success into your relationships.
There is no perfection. Life is a journey of discovery, for any of us. Sometimes we see people who smile and seem to have it all, and this could make us feel like we are failing in our lives, maybe doing something wrong, perhaps even jealous of another. But I’m writing this message to remind you that we all struggle from time to time, and it doesn’t matter who we are, or if we have money, or fame, or knowledge.
We are all here, on this earth, to struggle with something, very personal for us, and then learn from it to become better. No one is exempt from this. So, please, do not belittle yourself. That is the worst thing you can do. Belittling yourself, or your efforts, in any way, is exactly what troubles your mind further. Now, to feel inner value, love, happiness in you, you must not belittle yourself.
Strength to keep going is in the way you treat yourself, in your daily self-talk, in the kindness and acceptance you have with yourself. We are all carrying burdens, struggling with something; and, to me, that is just energy I can use to push forward, to create better things in my life. And I create better things in my life by focusing on me, not on others; and so, using that energy from struggle in me and convert it into strength to keep going through better, more conscious actions.
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Any good relationship in life, no matter which kind it is, requires that we let go of pride and ego. Any success comes because we are able to look within ourselves, stop the judgmental voices, and then project ourselves in the mind of the other person. No matter how irrational we might think the other person is being we can always try to understand his or her side, and we do this by letting go from the attachment to our side, to our opinions, to our beliefs of how things should be.
Now, forgiveness requires courage, uniqueness, and a person who is willing to let go and move on, relaxed and easygoing. And so, forgiveness is the trait of the better person. The better person is the one who seeks great success in relationships and in life in general. Forgiveness is about you and your inner power to let go of pride and ego. And when you find that inner power, then you become happier, more attractive, and more able to love yourself and others.
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The strength to keep ourselves positive. The motivation to keep going even in the face of difficulties. The inspiration to lift ourselves and keep on dreaming and pursuing those dreams. Where do you get it?? What do you do to feel this accomplished in life??
I find that most of the time it is just there. The inspiration is just waiting to be discovered. In the little things, like in a pet, like in a song, like in a walk through the park, like in our family, like in happy memories. While the mind is concerned with the negative happening in our lives, we have anxiety and we miss the little things in life. While the mind is focused on winning and on being better, we bring tension into ourselves.
As a writer, it can get hectic and difficult to find motivation and inspiration, and even to find the time to write and give my undivided attention to what I’m creating. But so is life. The richness lies in these challenges of the day-to-day. And if we can remind ourselves of that, then we may just stop overthinking, step back and relax; then perhaps focus on the motivation and inspiration needed to continue and feel great while doing it.
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How do you become stronger, sharper, more able to lead yourself in life with success??
When you start saying in your head that you are love, that you are beautiful, that you are enough, then you start feeling that in time. And when this happens you give yourself the charm, the magnetic pull, the energy to be more and to attract more in life–in relationships and in all situations. But how do you accomplish this…?? One day at a time. Don’t expect everything to come to you when you want it. Be patient with yourself. Each thought, each day, creates your feelings; and this feeling becomes you, and in time it becomes your persona, your character.
This happens subconsciously and it makes you either weaker, shyer, more influenced by society, or stronger, more confident, less influenced by society and more unique. It all depends on your thoughts about yourself daily. Do you remain anxious?? Do you forgive yourself, your mistakes, your past?? Do you belittle yourself in any way?? We are all possible of being great, confident, to achieve our goals; however, we need to become aware of our self-talk, and we must raise ourselves from feeling down and unsuccessful. This is an individual process, nobody can help you; but you have to do it, train your own mind daily to react and respond better to yourself and to others.
When you carry a lot of guilt, anxiety, anger, and even frustration in you, then you become a magnet for bad things, for more of the same. But if you keep your mind free of this and calmed, then you attract good things into your life, and so you get to enjoy more your life. And you become more attractive to yourself and to others, and this gives you confidence to explore other ways, to find solutions, to raise yourself above your problems. And your mood improves, which means you can now understand life better and act more positively in it.
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What makes people act in harmful ways towards themselves and towards others…??
What they carry inside becomes quite often the monster and the tragedy of their present lives.
The secret is to let go, lose your attachment, practice better habits, and create new inspirations and new ways of thinking. Because we all carry our burdens, our challenges, and even past memories which might be coming back to haunt our present; but it is extremely important for your health to be more easygoing, more accepting, without less judgment and without making a big deal out of everything. Your mind and body requires you to accept yourself as you are, with all the burdens, flaws, mistakes, and things you secretly struggle to hide. This is the enemy. By hiding it, by escaping it, you give it more strength, more energy to alter your personality and make you choose wrongly in life.
And nothing is more damaging to the way we think and feel than being uptight and not flexible to life’s up and downs. Whatever happened, let it go. And whatever is bothering you now, is not actually bothering you. What presents itself as annoying, burdensome, challenging, is your own ego, your preconceived notion of things and your attachment to the way you want things to be. Let your mind rest, without all this anxiety and rigid perspectives of things. Your ego makes you act out and subconsciously you create a toxic program, a mental habit which creates more burdens and problems for you to believe as real
So, you are your own enemy; but you don’t even know it. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Become acquainted with your enemy (ego) and learn to become more relaxed and adventurous. Don’t put the effort into thinking more ways to be anxious and upset; but put that effort instead into creating better habits, new thoughts, new perspectives, and to make yourself more understanding and creative in terms of life changes. Life goes well. Life goes not as well. We all go through this roller coaster. But the secret is to remain new all the time. Don’t let it consume you. Think freshly. Be more flexible. Not only for your relationships with people, but also for the relationship with yourself, with your past, with your present, with your thoughts of a future, and for that relationship with life itself.
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Why do people sometimes put you down, others criticize you nonstop…??
What is the hidden reason for them to act this way, specially when it comes to family and people close to you??
It is many times subconscious, so quite often they themselves don’t even understand why they do it.
Most people will only help you as long as you stay in their level. If truly helping you means that you will surpass them, whether in knowledge or position, whether in love or happiness, they won’t do so; however, they will smile and tell you something nice here and there just to keep up with appearances and hide their jealousy.
Why am I writing this…?? Because if you are to never give up in life, go after what you want with passion and honesty, then you must be prepared to see people that are around you, and people that before supported you with nice words, become strangers and even obstacles in your path. This is not perfect, or the way is supposed to be. I know. But humans everywhere are like this.
Most people, even though they don’t know it, are fake and wear nice masks. Most people just want the superficial appearance to fit in with others and with how others see them. And what I’m telling you here is relevant information if one is to go after his passions and dreams. One must be psychologically and emotionally prepared for this global fakeness. One thing to understand is that people have been programmed since childhood, and taught, to act this way. Others are really unhappy in their own lives, so they bully others and try to make them feel as bad as they feel.
Try to understand this yourself, such in order for you to raise yourself and keep on your journey. Life is beautiful and about progress, but many human beings make it difficult and ugly even for others. The first thing to strengthen in you is self-respect, which means to stay away from entertaining the criticism and negativity of your family, friends, and others. You want to achieve love, happiness, success in life, then you must be unique and not let others bring you down in any way. Life requires strength, and strength requires your commitment and perseverance in this.
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Life can be challenging. One can experience loneliness, doubt, jealousy, anger, and a myriad of other darkness. This goes with being human, with exploring ourselves in this physical existence we call life. I went through so much after my father’s death several years ago. I’m sure we have all experienced the impotence and anger in these terrible moments. Our minds make our experiences. From a thought to a feeling, and from a feeling to a constant experience in us. The constant experience can be negative or positive, depending on the first thought we had and nourished into a feeling which grew constant and powerful in us.
There is a well of hope and faith in us in spite of all negativity and struggle. This well is deep inside us, but it cannot be fed by the outside. Sure, you can have people supporting you. Sure, you can also have great self-help books remind you, and religious scriptures too. Sure, you can even have the opportunity to travel and introduce yourself to more inspiring cultures and people. All this may help, but it won’t last. Not unless you find the strength, faith, hope in you in the form of self-belief. Because even if you lose something important to you, or fail at something, or encounter tragedy in any aspect, inner belief will get you out.
Inner belief says “I don’t care what happens in life, I will keep going filled with patience and passion.” Inner belief says “Nothing will stop me, nothing will bring me down; because my focus is on moving on and progressing.” And so, how do you get that strong self-belief…?? By developing yourself, by seeking your passion, by immersing yourself in habits which keep you feeling great about yourself. Great habits are the key in life. Sitting around watching TV and drinking beer with friends, or even by yourself?? Not a great habit. No, I am talking about habits which push you outside of your comfort zone. Habits which add value to your character.
Habits which help you understand yourself and your strengths, like writing, like painting, like sports of strategy, like exercise, like cooking healthily, like educating yourself on science or on any other passion you have. The secret or aim here is to grow as an individual, patiently, step by step, daily; however, it is also about doing something fun, something which ignites your passion and sense of wonder in life. I am personally a big advocate for better habits. I write about self-development, through non-fiction works and now through fantasy works which bring magic, adventure, and also insights into what it is to be alive. I hope you can see the truth in this, and so begin to nourish that belief in you, making yourself unstoppable.
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