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How do you gain confidence…??

How do you become stronger, sharper, more able to lead yourself in life with success??

When you start saying in your head that you are love, that you are beautiful, that you are enough, then you start feeling that in time. And when this happens you give yourself the charm, the magnetic pull, the energy to be more and to attract more in life–in relationships and in all situations. But how do you accomplish this…?? One day at a time. Don’t expect everything to come to you when you want it. Be patient with yourself. Each thought, each day, creates your feelings; and this feeling becomes you, and in time it becomes your persona, your character.

This happens subconsciously and it makes you either weaker, shyer, more influenced by society, or stronger, more confident, less influenced by society and more unique. It all depends on your thoughts about yourself daily. Do you remain anxious?? Do you forgive yourself, your mistakes, your past?? Do you belittle yourself in any way?? We are all possible of being great, confident, to achieve our goals; however, we need to become aware of our self-talk, and we must raise ourselves from feeling down and unsuccessful. This is an individual process, nobody can help you; but you have to do it, train your own mind daily to react and respond better to yourself and to others.

When you carry a lot of guilt, anxiety, anger, and even frustration in you, then you become a magnet for bad things, for more of the same. But if you keep your mind free of this and calmed, then you attract good things into your life, and so you get to enjoy more your life. And you become more attractive to yourself and to others, and this gives you confidence to explore other ways, to find solutions, to raise yourself above your problems. And your mood improves, which means you can now understand life better and act more positively in it.

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Breaking the rules.

What is love to you…??

Without putting labels and concepts to it, how do you love…??

Can you leave the rules, ways of thinking and believing when it comes to loving…??

How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love. And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.

Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves. People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.

So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.

I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.

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A mind of awareness.

What is anxiety if not attaching yourself to thoughts obsessively??

What is mastering yourself if not keeping a mind free of anger and overthinking??

I once had a high school friend who invited me to a dinner with his family. I didn’t know where I was going really. It all started like a nice meal and gathering, but then it turned into a debate about politics, different political parties, different opinions. Everybody was preferring to argue about that than to keep it harmonious, cordial, friendly. And somebody got upset, started with the name calling. The other one followed. They had asked for my opinion, but I didn’t have one. Long story short, nobody enjoyed the meal.

Their minds were full of anxiety. And this happens to the best families, I know. And this happens to the best of us as well. And that is the stress created by following your controversial thinking, overthinking, trying to demonstrate that you are right and the other one wrong. This is the enemy. Your own ego. That neediness to feel superior and display your knowledge or your opinion of something. I just think this kind of behavior is what divides people. And the fact is that the state of your mind will dictate the way you experience life.

So, to me is really important the state of my mind. To remain aware of it. Specially with Christmas coming up. Specially with all the anxiety this Covid situation brings. Holidays, whether physically apart from family or not, are about joy, harmony, giving thanks for our lives as they are. Maybe your life is not perfect. Maybe you have a thousand and one problems. But I know you can find at least one thing to be thankful for. And our lives require it. Life requires our minds to be humble and intelligent enough to reject anxiety and seek peace. So our lives can improve.

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Reconnecting.

Nothing is more hurtful and it brings more anxiety to your mind than to hold on to the past, to the loss, to the tragedy, to the injustice, to what did or did not happen. How can someone possibly be happy like this…?? No, you can pretend; but you can never truly be happy attached to your past. This is very personal, but at some point in your life journey you must stop your stressed, anxious and stubborn mind to see this, to acknowledge that you cannot heal if you feed your addiction to what happened.

Your path to healing is one of love, but you cannot fight yourself and struggle in the process; because if you do, you are just widening the gap between unhealthy and healthy. Widening the gap is to resist to healing, because you are attached to whatever hurt you, or to whatever you allowed to hurt you. This is what intensifies the hurt or the chaos in you. Can’t you see this…??

So, it is about reconnecting with yourself, with your happier self and the one part in you which is not attached to the past. You are responsible for this reconnecting. You can feel you need it. And in order to achieve it, you must detach from the old to build the new. We always talk about love, but love cannot truly exist in your mind if you remain attached to the hurt, to the loss, to the struggle.

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Hidden miracles.

Life might shake us, but there is always a reason. Sometimes life tries to tell you something important, but your mind is too busy. Silence your anxious mind and listen. Learn. Grow.

I remember when my father had just died. The confusion, the anger, the fear and intimidation of facing the world without my father. I was alone with my little brothers and my mother. Barely making enough money to survive. Living in Texas, and in a place very different from where I’d been born and had spent my childhood years. But, after years and years of self-hatred and self-pity, I started to see a light in me. I was so exhausted of failing and torturing myself that I was pushed to observe my own suffering. I had never wanted this life, but I had to deal with it anyway.

Nothing that I did worked and, even worse, I didn’t understand why. I was going to church back then. I was praying. I was taking care of my family. I was a good and decent human being. I was lost. But this light I saw in me was growing. And, not too soon, I learned that quite often our minds are so overwhelmed with our own problems that we miss life. The wholeness of life. And the wholeness of life is where the miracles hide. The miracles are not in religion, or in family, or in the nation, or in the money we make; but they are in the observation.

The observation is the attention we put into life’s moments. But this observing action must be done firstly by silencing the mind. You know, by not being so attached to thoughts of misery and anger, and envy and frustration. Plainly put, by not overthinking and filling the mind with anxiety. Our minds dictate how we feel about life. Life then is filtered through our minds. Life will be whatever the content of your mind is. So, let go of the stress, and of the frustration, and of wanting to control and possess. Flow with life. Do your best, and then let it go. Let it be. Listen to life, but for that keep a mind that is silent and not arrogant. Arrogance and thinking that you must always win and have your way. This is what brings suffering, and failure, and tears into your experience.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my currently published work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Out of the rut.

I usually encounter people who talk a lot about their illness or problems, like anxiety, like OCD, like anger issues, like frustrations, etc. etc. They go on and on trying to get attention and pity from others. Specially social media is plagued by people venting their illnesses, problems, frustrations. But, unbeknownst to them, they are making their issues and frustrations more powerful; for the attention you give to thoughts makes them even stronger and assimilated by your entire biological system.

Assimilated by your entire biological system means that these thoughts of frustration and negativity become powerful feelings, and these feelings become your experience in life–i.e., your whole identity, or how you experience yourself. But, on the other hand, if you were to empower your positive traits, your talents, your dreams, your strengths, then you would become free and you would feel capable of being love and happiness.

With this, I am not saying you are not going through a rough patch, or that your traumas are fake; but I am saying that you should think and talk about your positives, to empower yourself, to not live tied to misery, and to not feel trapped and doomed. You define yourself by this. Your true identity is discovered only if you have courage to detach from the negative. Life is about self-discovery. You are life. I talk about this in my books very clearly, with many examples to help you understand this and thus change your mindset and behavior. Because I am all about this.

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And if you enjoyed reading my article, please take a moment to visit my currently published work.  I write about self-development, the poetry of the better life, love and relationships.

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “I really loved the depth of your approach, specially because sometimes I struggle with low self-esteem and that gets into my relationship with my new wife.  Thanks for helping us become aware of all these things.  Much love to you and yours.”

REVIEW OF MY BOOKS: “It allowed me to see another explanation of love..with a touch of humor i was able to find a sensible place to kick back to enjoy knowing I have always been Loved!!  YOUR advice is like finding a treasure. Thank you so much sharing!”

“I ALWAYS LOVED YOU.” A book about love and relationships.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 1). A book about self-esteem and individuality.

“LEAVING THE HERD” (part 2). A book about enlightenment and the renaissance of the leader in you.

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Nature of mind.

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Keep positive.  Keep calm.  Seek your growth by cultivating a mind that is not anxious.  If the mind is anxious, then you won’t enjoy life.  If the mind is agitated, then you will not be able to go deep into life and find solutions to your unrest.

The nature of our minds is to always run, to always direct one way or the other; but in this very running we distortion clarity.  And we need clarity to find solutions and see reality as it is.  So it is rational and illuminating to remain self-aware of our own minds all the time, right…??  What do you think??

 

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Freedom to love.

 

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Even with our loved ones.  We cannot truly love if we do not love being alone with ourselves without anxiety.  Without envying the love in others.  Without resulting to desperation to possess others.

It is the whole point in my book, “I Always Loved You – Creatures of Eternal Love.”  And it is also something I have very clear.  Attachment is just a desire born from a lack of self-love.

Attachment is the need to belong and to possess, thus stealing the freedom from someone else and from ourselves.  You might say ‘easier said than done.”  But unless our minds agree to actually change, our behaviors will be the same always.  It has to be about self-development, self-improvement.

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Pay attention.

 

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Be patient.  Be humble.  Be committed.  Stay on course and focused.  Don’t let negativity, loud and anxious voices in your head, and your stress, bring you down. 

Nothing can disturb you more than your own mind, so focus on self-discipline specially in the midst of hard times.  Keep your mind and body sacred.  Watch what you eat.  Be careful of what you allow into your mind.

Be mindful of your thoughts.  Pay attention to the time you give to others, because people can suck you into their dramas and anxieties.  In order to lead your life successfully, you must be self-aware at all times.

 

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Awakening.

 

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Your loss.  The troubles in your relationships.  Your struggle to detach from painful memories.  Your desires unfulfilled and obsessive which bring you that anxiety and frustration you carry.  It is all suffering, isn’t it…??  It is meant to be that way for you.  Do you truly realize that…??

If you really do understand why you suffer this, that all has a purpose, then learn from it, study the mechanics of that suffering, accept your weaknesses and do not make more excuses.  Awakening is a process you initiate when you become aware of your own garbage.

We all carry unhealthy habits, issues that are personal, garbage we have been carrying for long, things to better in our character and behavior.  But don’t look at others; look at yourself.  Change yourself!  Analyze yourself and accept your own garbage.  Accept and be humble enough to understand that you have to work on self-development.  Do not just agree or disagree here.  Do your inner work.

Awakening is about doing something to understand your own suffering and darkness, and as soon as you understand it then you can improve your life.  Period!  Wake yourself from your own slumber.  Don’t just read about awakening and repeat it like a damn parrot.

 

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