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Anxiety

Feeling anxious

Anxiety is what happens when we obsess about the future or even about the past. Maybe something or someone we lost. Perhaps some tragedy or very personal issue. This overthinking becomes a terrible dread which splits our focus and makes us lose sight of the moment.

And, of course, to feel anxious is very normal, very common, especially for women; but it can become a serious mental illness and truly distort reality, even bringing acute paranoia and serious depression. It is a very serious matter in the world.

Train your mind

Feeling nervous, restless, tense. Having a sense of panic or doom. Having an increased heart rate. Breathing rapidly. Feeling weak or tired. I met some people in the past with these symptoms. It can make you afraid of even going out, being social, or opening your heart to someone.

But anxiety really is your ego (your lower self, the one who wants control) fighting your higher self (the one who wants to live in peace). So, it’s really a dissonance deep-rooted within your psyche. It’s a lack of silence in your mind.

So, seek ways, habits, to silence your mind; ways to train your mind to accept silence as the new normal. So when you feel anxious you can easily switch to a silent mind and focus on something more inspiring.

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All thoughts…

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Self-deception

Thinking is important, obviously. Thinking, but not overthinking. Overthinking is tied to feeling frustrated, angry, jealous, unworthy, and the rest of the negative burdens. But it is so easy to overthink, and quite often we are not aware of the damage this overthinking is doing to us.

It’s so easy to get lost in thinking, because we feel pressure in life so we may believe thinking and seeking answers in scenarios and images in our minds will somehow fix whatever is wrong. And, of course, this is the damaging self-deception that overthinking brings.

Being alert

So, what really matters is what happens in our heads. That is where everything starts. Everything in life starts with a thought and with all the thoughts of a group. So, this is the inner world. Truth is, the outer world does not matter. Why…?? Because in order to remain alert or vigilant of my own mind, of my overthinking, I need to focus 100% on my inner world.

If I lose myself in the events of the outer world then I will become a slave to them. Becoming a slave to them means that I will easily be influenced by the outer world, which means society will dictate how I should think and feel. I don’t know about you, but I want to dictate how I think and feel. It is my life, after all; like your life is your life, and only your life.

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Where is found…

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Worry

I find that most of the time worry, stress, excessive preoccupation, serves no purpose. Most of the time, it just brings us overthinking while creating all these negative scenarios in our heads. So, if I cannot change it, I let it go. ‘I let it go’ means I cut cords with the thought and feeling, or I stop thinking about it, or I became detached from these.

I move on

Becoming detached from overthinking is not that easy, right?? But we do have to move on, start a new activity that keeps us away from the worry and overthinking. I find this very important, especially so I don’t become obsessed with the past or future. Because moving on is found in the present. So, make sure you stay in your present.

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Growing relationships

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A clear mind

Dates. Getting to know each other. Romance. Not appearing too clingy. Trying to show your best side. It’s all very challenging, isn’t it?? That’s the human experience, trying to form relationships, any sort of connection.

But, quite often, the problem is the anxiety in the mind, the nervousness, having a lot questions in there, all this pressure. It took me a long time, but now I understand that it is all about having a mind free of all this. That is, a mind which can be relaxed and not overthinking.

The damage is overthinking things, trying to answer all questions, seeking to be the one who understands how to do everything in a relationship. But letting it go, flowing with what is, just letting it happen–that’s what is required.

No expectations

Relationships are important, but they can be easy to damage. As mentioned, sometimes we put a lot of pressure on us to be this and that. But this only makes it worse, because no one is free and happy if we feel like we carry big burdens. And expectations can be burdens.

Expecting something to be the way we want, or trying to make another person like us or love us the way we want. Any expectation becomes a program in our minds, and it affects the way we interact with each other. And we may get angry easily, or tend to have no tolerance, or get frustrated with ourselves or with the other person easily.

So, I’ve learned that relationships become a success when we carry no burdens. Love is like a garden of flowers, and weeds are the expectations. Weeds choke the beautiful flowers. Get rid of the weeds, so the garden grows.

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Digging deep…

What’s feeling sorry for yourself…??

That feeling of anger and frustration when things don’t go as planned, and when others don’t treat us the way we want, and when we make certain mistakes.

When we focus too much on this misery, our minds decide that to keep being positive is too much effort; and that is then when our minds shift to feelings of worthlessness and self-pity. Victimizing yourself takes little energy or effort.

How I deal with it.

I don’t let myself overthink things. What happens, happens. I concern myself with moving forward. And for this purpose, I make a schedule in my mind every day–cleaning, cooking, exercising, getting up at such and such time, my writing, walking the dog, learning new ways to market my books, etc.

It is all about the purpose you give yourself every day. Not about keeping busy, but about conditioning your mind to better habits far from any pointless overthinking.

What Ben has taught me.

For those of you who don’t know yet, Ben is the main character of my series “BENJAMIN JONES.” He is a 12-year-old shaman boy who has become an orphan.

In going on a magical journey to discover himself and his magic, he has taught me, and still teaches me, so much. I have created him, of course; however, he is a perfect reflection of me.

Sometimes we hide ourselves, or the truth about ourselves, deep beneath all we think we are; and so, through self-expression I have found freedom to dig deeper. He helps me discover myself and life.

All the self-pity, anger, and frustration goes away once you dig deeper into yourself. Not saying you don’t feel these anymore, but saying that your mind becomes free and doesn’t get attached to these negative feelings.

The strongest theme in the series

There are shamans, spiritual leaders, gods, demons, magical creatures, friends and foes in my series.  But the main theme is what we all experience, such being self-discovery.  It is because all that matters in this life is to grow our spiritual and moral values.

From becoming more spiritual and moral then we become better, and we start discovering ourselves and life; and thus everything in our lives turns to be better as well.  Magic exists and it is within ourselves, because, just like the main character in my series, we must experience that beautiful miracle in us through daily self-expression.

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Don’t follow. Lead yourself.

Have no fear of being yourself. There is no normal. There is no oddity. There is no way to be. We have been influenced to believe that this is the case, that we should be this or that. But people are different. We carry different hurts, different pasts, different experiences. So, the strength, the confidence, the attractive quality does not lie in pretending to be something we’re not, or in falling in intimidation of others for being so-called “normal.”

But everything is really about saying how you think and feel. No fear of messing up. No fear of not being understood. Because any fear you have, even if you think you hide it well, it becomes your burden. This fear becomes an overactive imagination, and overthinking, and anxiety. And as long as this anxiety rules your mind, you remain a slave, you become subconsciously paranoid, and you begin feeling less than others while losing respect for yourself.

And life is really about becoming better morally, learning more, changing to better habits, new dreams, great accomplishments which bring us joy. Self-confidence is required for all this. To gain self-confidence, you have to improve the respect you have for yourself; and this can only be accomplished when you are not feeling less than others, and when your mind is not anxious or trying to be this so-called “normal” like the rest. No, in this life you create yourself; and you lead yourself without letting others influence you. You learn to love by loving as yourself, not by copying others. You learn as you go, by exploring yourself and by becoming active in what you want. Ignore the rest, and do it yourself.

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Breaking the rules.

What is love to you…??

Without putting labels and concepts to it, how do you love…??

Can you leave the rules, ways of thinking and believing when it comes to loving…??

How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love. And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.

Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves. People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.

So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.

I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.

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To stay in love…

Love can be difficult at times. Why??

Why does people turn to suicide??

Why can someone fall into great depression for a long time, even bringing down the immune system??

So, love. Love this. Love that. We can say that it is full of concepts. “Jealousy love.” “Angry love.” “Anxious love.” “Obsession love.” “Frustrated love.” And all the “loves” the mind interprets, right…?? But surely you can understand that these concepts are deviations, corruptions of our minds. Because if love is to be the greatest thing in life, in existence, then love cannot be these aforementioned. And love is the greatest thing in life indeed. Think about it. Love is a connection to life. It must inspire you. It must help you become confident, moral, strong in your own life.

So, if someone is to find true love without deviations and concepts, then this someone must get out from his head. Your mind overthinks everything. Love is distorted in this thinking. So, thinking, as tempting as it can be, to judge, to interpret things, to analyze this and that, doesn’t do much good if you seek to be in love. People kill themselves from overthinking in life. Suicide, depression, OCD, anxiety of all kind. Most mental illnesses exist because people overthinks and allows themselves to make concepts in life and in love. Can you see this?? Because it is extremely important. It’s not about being a doctor or about having lots of experience, but it is about leaving your concepts and think for a second about what I write here.

And I am not talking about the concept of romantic love, friendship, or some philosophy; but I am talking about true love. True love is that sensation of morality and goodness in you. And that feeling of positivity and strength in you. This love is about your everyday living, not relationships. No depression. No overthinking. No anxiety. Just love. Just being. If things don’t go as expected in life, don’t depress yourself, don’t pity yourself; but seek hard in you for some positivity. Stop overthinking and analyzing things to death. Life is to be lived. Do your best. But don’t let your mind bring you down, your immune system and all you are. So, you simply give love to life. Every day. You give your best and move on. Don’t think too much. Let it be.

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Are you frustrated about something…??

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Are you frustrated about something…??  Suffering??  Struggling??  The problem with most adults is that they have forgotten their inner child and lost the sense of wonder and curiosity in life.  Can you see this…?? 

Now immersed in their struggles and burdened by their frustrations, they tend to gravitate towards too much overthinking and serious anxiety about their current lives.  What they have.  What they do not have.  What could happen?!  Why is it so?!  When will I find someone who loves me?!  Why don’t I feel whole?! 

All this comes to the adult’s mind because there is no laughter, no positivity to see opportunity in struggle, no sense of wanting to discover the depth of life further.  This is something to ponder deeply, because, when we lose curiosity and laughter in life, we then fall into struggle and suffering easily.

 

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In the present.

 

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Don’t block yourself from that warm feeling of wholeness in you.  Don’t fill your mind with desires for something and/or someone.  Leave all the overthinking and planning obsessively.  The worst you can do is to be here while your mind is somewhere else.  Be present wholly.

To be present wholly, be actually present, stop thinking so much, and learn to value the moment you are living.  It all stems from the moment you are living right now–happiness, love, success, confidence, etc.  Don’t let your mind wander and steal from you the value of this moment.

You have one life to live, lead it from the present moment.  Many times people engage in an activity while their minds are somewhere else.  This is not productive.  This is not being aware of yourself.  This is seeking the illusion of love and happiness in your mind, instead of being yourself love and happiness in your body and in the moment.

 

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