So, like the Sun is filled with energy to give life to Earth, you must be filled with love for yourself in order to be able to give love to someone else, or even to give love to the things you do in life. Any real success in your journey requires this.
Signs you are healing and succeeding on yourself:
-More observing, less judging. -More thoughtful responding, less reacting. -More self-care habits, less overthinking sabotage. -More acceptance, less resentments. -More attention on inner peace, not on outer chaos. -More clarity in thought, less confusion and anxiety routines. -More being and finding satisfaction staying put, less going out and trying to pursue pleasures and excitements. -More faith in yourself, less fear of failure and ruining your future.
There is nothing like feeling inspired to get up in the morning and live a great day. But, sadly, most of us expect the day to bring inspiration, to make us feel like it’s a great day, to push us through. Truth is, you are the inspiration, and your attention allows you to feel it.
If I seek to feel inspired then I will put my full attention on what I do; but I won’t stop there, because I will choose to see everything I live, especially the hard times, with positivity and faith. I create my path and the way I feel; thus I create my inspiration.
Ways to turn things around
-If I encounter rude people, I ignore them or I do not engage myself emotionally with them.
-If I lose something or someone important to me, I do not let it pull me down but I try to get on with my life and envision a better future for me.
-If I see that things still do not go as expected, I use the frustration I feel as energy to seek other, more creative ideas and come up with other ways to create my success.
-If thoughts of any negativity start to creep in my mind, I use their energy and transform those same thoughts in ones of hope and strength. I create better scenarios in my head, ones which give me the capacity to feel better about myself.
As a human being doing my best, as an indie author especially, I understand how hard it is to believe in yourself. Sometimes I doubt myself, my art, the way I do things; because life is challenging, and that is exactly the journey. Sometimes one may look at others and feel inferior or intimidated.
Some other times it could be that others around us are not conducive to a positive and supportive atmosphere. But one must look past these, focus on oneself, and tell ourselves to keep going no matter what; because that is what it takes to make it, thus constant self-belief.
A reason to believe
It is the most important thing. Each day. A reason to believe in yourself. Prove to yourself how worthy you are, because love is an action towards yourself. Work on your body’s health. On your mind. Schedule times to work on your craft. Strengthen your capacity for reading. Seek to bring more value to you.
The #1 reason why people fail in self-belief is due to focusing on the achievements of others, on how others are doing. But if you have strong talents, if you focus entirely on your own growth, then there is no time for procrastination and focusing on others. I struggle with this sometimes, but I remind myself of my own strengths to conquer even the struggle. It is my wish that you too remind yourself of this.
In my life, I suffer a lot. Well, we all do, of course. It is very personal, isn’t it?? But inspiration is whatever gets into our minds and fights and wins on these negative thoughts of worthlessness giving us pain. Whatever you go through in your life, always seek inspiration. Don’t wait for a big promotion or payday, or for someone you want, or for the expectation to be met; but seek inspiration in the day to day.
The small things…
And inspiration must be sought in the small things, like in music, in books, in movies, in a walk outside, in cooking foods you like, etc. Break the pattern of self-pity and self-neglect by seeking inspiration daily. And how do you do this?? By training your mind to always change the negative thoughts for the positive thoughts.
Not easy, obviously, especially if you are suffering for something very close to you. But it is vital. Life is about enjoying yourself, being in a good mood to move on and progress; and for this, we all need to be inspired. And seeking inspiration in the midst of your troubles is not naïve but brave. Easy to let negativity swallow you. Not that easy to change negativity into positivity. Be brave.
I don’t care if you are Black, White, Brown, Yellow, Red, Green, and all the colors of the rainbow. As long as you respect me, think for yourself, and strive to be a good person, then I will gladly treat you like my brother or sister. Too many of us live in the past, maybe because we’ve been wronged by a group, by an ethnicity; or perhaps because we follow the politics and religion that divide peoples. Whatever it is, I do not subscribe to it, and neither should you. No truly intelligent person should.
To be mature and think for yourself is to understand that people are always changing and that they are not all the same. It’s not okay to point fingers and label someone violent, or bigoted, or lower class, or dirty, or this or that, just because they belong to certain group. I judge people by their actions. That is what a human being is, their actions; not their thoughts, feelings or intentions. Only behaviors in the present matter. I am not saying that people’s past do not matter. If one’s been wronged in the past, then trust is broken. I understand that trust must be there for someone to accept another.
But why keep feeding hatred and anxiety in your mind about the past?? Let it go, which means not to fall into attachment of the past, not to allow yourself to be bullied by it, and not to become a slave to that past. In order to actually think and see people for what they truly are then, your mind must be clear from any attachment to the past, free from hurt, and able to love your own life without the burden of past memories. I am Latino in United States. I’ve been bullied and segregated due to my color and accent. But I do not let that define me. I move on. Focus on my growth. And so, I share this message with you in hopes I can help you in any way; because life might be struggle at times, but we are all trying to make it in this world.
“The subconscious can play us against progress, and it can block us from becoming better. Low self-esteem is something which affects all our interactions in life, and it’s a defect running in our subconscious…
“So, you may feel somewhat afraid to say the wrong thing, or intimidated around certain people, or unable to express yourself in the proper way. This might be low self-esteem. Have you wondered why that is…?? The origin of it. Explore it right now. See what’s causing it. Inquire into the content of your mind…
“You may carry good intentions, be the most caring person, even have great and profound feelings towards others; however, if you occupy your time with the wrong influence, then this could be the origin of your low-self-esteem or lack of confidence at some level. What do you do during your day…?? Is important that you are honest with yourself…
“Do you strengthen your mind properly?? Are you truly aware of what you watch?? I am not asking you if you enjoy it. I am not asking you if you feel you must watch it. I am not asking you if people you admire watch it. I am indeed asking you if what you watch is strengthening your mind and increasing your positive vibrations…” ~ I ALSWAYS LOVED YOU. Creatures of Eternal Love.
Life is about finding the inner strength, the positive in the negative, the greater capacity to move on and better ourselves. And for this, we must look at change, which is building the new, whatever the new is for you. The new could be another perspective, it could be a new way to do something that before didn’t work in your life, it could be a more passionate and positive approach to the hardships in your journey, and so on and so forth. But whatever we do, we must work on strengthening creativity.
Greater creativity is the greatest achievement one can get individually, because any suffering, any drama, and any attachment to old ways and lack of insight to build the new exist in our lives because there is no creativity. Greater creativity has created the world as it is, with the good and the not so good. Strengthening the creative muscle is the most important thing we can do, to understand more of life, of others, of ourselves.
Greater creativity improves our relationships, our perspectives in life. Learning more, reading more, practicing talents more, letting go of the old and stubborn ways, changing our habits into better ones. All this increases our capacity to become more creative in life.And while our minds increase this capacity, we become more able to fix whatever needs to be fixed or improved in our relationships, because now our perspective, our tolerance, our ability to project into someone else’s mind, and ourunderstanding of the important things in life has become more clear and in tune with empathy.
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“Now, these creatures from the necro world moved quickly through the air. Seen from afar, they were of a smoky substance; but they could still hurt the living if they wanted to do so…
“And these were slaves for eternity. Not just tortured souls, but their egos had been given so much power that no love whatsoever existed in them. Man has light and darkness, but these ghouls only had darkness within them.”
In my own experience with meditation. Take it easy. Don’t rush into an outcome. Don’t expect great results fast. The main things are commitment, persistency, patience. These are a must if we are serious about meditation. Now, this is about the kind of meditation where you focus on your breath and in time you increase you’re awareness. Many people sit on a chair, peacefully; and for them this is meditation. I respect that. But that is not what this post is about. For me, meditation is all about increasing self-awareness, creativity and cognition, and also easier detachment from all suffering–like anger, frustration, the thought of death, society’s influence, etc.
So, meditating. When I started, more than 10 years ago, this was very difficult for me. I had rage issues and became really anxious and bothered when I first started to feel the deep silence of meditation. Thoughts and feelings which had been buried deep inside had started to come out, and this was very disturbing, it was hard for me to face them. Once you truly meditate, your thoughts will rush. Your innermost troubles and burdens. In my case, this really irritated me–physically, psychologically, emotionally. But I stuck with it through the years and saw myself awakening, I witnessed my creativity improving, and my understanding of myself and my own faults mainly became clear and undeniable. This made me change and become superior to the person I was.
But, let me be honest here, meditation is not a quick fix, or a cure-all, not in any sense; and whoever tells you it is, might be because they’re trying to sell you something. One thing to have in mind though, you will see improvement if done right; however, not judging here, but you must understand that many people frustrate themselves because they do not do it right. It’s all about your slow breathing. Focus on it. Because breathing is what connects the state of physical life to the state of physical death, so to master your breathing in meditation gives you greater access to wisdom to understand both states of existence. If you deviate and become distracted, come back to it. Come back to your breath as many times as you become aware. This is practicing awareness, when you come back to your breathing. Meditation is not about becoming perfect or doing the practice perfectly; but about committing and not quitting, it requires inner strength and focus. So, never quit. Keep going.
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There is no worst enemy than one’s self-pity. There is no greater obstacle you bring to yourself than overthinking and analyzing something to death. Life is to be lived with courage, the successful life that is. But, of course, we all feel lack of confidence, some self-pity, maybe sadness about ourselves and where we’re going in life at times. Or perhaps, when one is lacking self-awareness, we tend to secretly compare ourselves to others. That is human and we all do it. But the truth is that this kind of mental behavior does not help us in any way. We human beings are meant to be ourselves, unique; and it is why each of us has a different experience, each of us feels different, each of us carries our own styles and ways of thinking.
This might sound harsh, but a great life is only for the brave among us. By brave I mean the ones who leave our pasts behind, the ones who are absolutely ourselves, the ones who do put importance to what others think and feel about us. It is my life and I experience and learn from myself, for myself.
This is not selfishness. This is empowering ourselves. This is saying ‘I create what I want, with patience, with courage, with love for myself; and it might go against what society teaches and does, but still it is all about my happiness, growing in character and in confidence.‘
The fact is that we are what we daily think. If we daily think we can’t do something, or be something, or achieve something, than we are that. And we so become what we daily think. Because what we daily think about ourselves becomes great part of our subconscious, which means it becomes who we are in all situations in life. Life is no more than this. Life becomes this. What I do is to be positive in spite of whatever goes on around me. People do not matter because they cannot live your life. Each one of us lives our own. So focus on your life. What do you think about yourself right now?? How is that helping you?? Why do you think that?? Are you comparing yourself to others?? Are you living in past mistakes?? Are you living in past, hurtful memories??
Thanks for reading.
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Without putting labels and concepts to it, how do you love…??
Can you leave the rules, ways of thinking and believing when it comes to loving…??
How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love.And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.
Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves.People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.
So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.
I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.
Now, this one following is my first YA fantasy/mystery novel. It is similar, as in epic adventure type, as “Harry Potter” and “Lord of The Rings.” See if it is your kind of read.
“A story of a young 12 years old orphan boy who get guided by Indian Spiritual Guru Adit Acharya. Being Indian, I got attached with the story easily. Story line is very good. Lot of things to learn. Author Asa Rodriguez has written very good life quotes on True Love. The story is very much inspiring. I recommend this book to youngsters as adults.” ~ Ashish Jain.