- Asa Rodriguez -
Free from attachments
The greatest attribute of a person is friendship. Because friendship means honest communication, great patience, the willingness to understand. Because it comes from an open mind, and such is a mind not attached to its own beliefs and opinions.
Any attachments do you harm, without you noticing perhaps. Any attachments make you addictive, irrational, biased, and it takes away your capacity and willingness to accept and even care about the experience of the other person.
Understanding her journey
Pay attention, men: She won’t say to you how much, or how severely, she has been hurt by a past flame, a past relationship. A man was talking about how strange a woman he likes was acting, and it made me think that most of us men oftentimes ignore what women do not really tell.
See, most women tend to emotionally invest a lot in relationships, and as most men are not mature enough they hurt them. The average man tends to mature by his 40s. The average woman by her 30s. The way genders are raised in most cases.
What it takes
So it takes patience and understanding for a woman to see herself and find how special she really is again. The process is not so easy when your heart’s been broken and your dreams crushed. I like to think of the line in the movie ‘Notting Hill’ – “After all, I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her .”
She was a famous and rich actress in the movie. He was a simple worker in a bookstore. But it doesn’t matter her beauty, her fame or riches, because a woman deep inside just wants to feel loved. After all, the greatest gifts nature has bestowed upon women are their beauty and empathy.
Patience and dedication, men. If you find her worth to pursue, if she truly inspires you, give it all your patince and commitment. Be a real man, give her freedom and time to find herself. That’s all love is–freedom to discover yourself.
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The lesser man
There is never a good reason to cheat. Cheating, concealing the truth, not being honest, is all about fear of losing control, fear of confronting your own failures as a man and thus your deep-seated unhappiness. It’s the greatest weakness of the lesser man. The lesser man is the man who lacks self-awareness and chooses to blame others for his inner turmoil and lack of understanding.
If a woman is loved right
And so, if your woman lacks self-care, if she does not offer the same attention, if she changes her demeanor towards you, by this you will know this is because of you and the way she feels you treat her. It means your own daily habits as the man are lacking as well. If a woman is loved right, she becomes fused by the man and she gets influenced by his superior and loving habits.
See, it’s a matter of self-respect, so the man becomes better mentally and physically; and when his woman sees this, out of pure love, she becomes like him. In a relationship of commitment and intimacy both, man and woman, resemble each other, whether they want to or not. In time, as they live together and share a life, the subconscious of each starts to self-program and resemble each other’s programming. No more, no less.
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Loving another
It’s all about empathy. When somebody talks, listen and feel the emotion in their words. When somebody needs your support, offer it without measuring what they have done in the past. When it comes to loving, you must let go of overthinking, specially judging. If your mind is judging them, there is no room for loving them.
Where it all starts
But, truth is, everything starts with honesty to yourself. Loving yourself is doing what is healthy for you, not doing what your ego wants. For example, your ego wants to drink alcohol, it wants to keep reacting to the world aroung you instead of exploring yourself, it wants to blame everyone but yourself, etc. This is not caring for yourself, less being honest with yourself.
A person living in their ego cannot truly love, which means they will always have difficulty being happy and loving others. These persons will live frustrated, suffer from mental and physical issues as they age, and fail at committed relationships. So, loving others starts by being honest with yourself and truly taking the steps to become healthier.
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The power in silence
Silence is not empty. Silence is energy, it can be communication, and it can be more meaningful than words. Oftentimes our minds are nervous, anxious about how to say something and how to express what we feel. Oftentimes our minds struggle to understand and let others know that we understand.
But instead of all this anxiety in the mind, we have silence, the power of silence, that we can certainly use to our advantage. The quiet evening at home with people we care about. Choosing to hug instead of arguing and trying to be right. Just making your mind quiet and giving all that mental energy to listen to somebody else.
Words can convey the wrong message
It’s not unusual to say the wrong word or the wrong sentence in sensitive or emotional communication. Sometimes we don’t mean to offend or hurt somebody else, but our words may sound insensitive, impulsive, or even harsh. I have found that silence can be much more effective in communications. Coupled with the right attitude, silence can better relationships.
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Small gestures
Sometimes we don’t have to do much to show that we care. Sometimes just giving a hug, or listening to someone’s problems, or helping with cleaning, can really show our appreciation and display great empathy. And great empathy is what love is all about. Whatever the relationship, and even if we don’t know the person, small gestures go a long way; and sometimes even do more than big gestures.
It’s about just giving
Many times a big gesture means that we expect some kind of recognition from our actions. Many times it means that we are seeking to feed our egos rather than helping someone else. But, because in reality is about doing for someone else entirely, you must give the most precious to you, which is time and attention.
Giving time and attention means that you truly care about another from your heart. It means that your cunning mind is not really expecting to impress anybody, but instead your mind is humble and so you give yourself to the other person entirely. You can never get back time. Your attention is the only gift unique to you. These two things combined show your true personality, your pure heart.
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Loving with purity
You only get hurt when the way you love has attachment. Pure love has no attachment. To love with this purity, you must first love yourself above everybody and anything else. Pure love then only exists when there is higher understanding in you.
An understanding that the very existence of pure love in your life is only created by you, strengthened by you, and sanctified by you. The world suffers from lack of this higher understanding. Don’t join the world. Live in it, but don’t join it.
Problems when loving yourself
Our love is not pure, not true, non-existent, when we allow our minds to become overwhelmed by the world around us. If something bad happens, the mind is allowed to suffer for it, via self-pity, via anger and frustration. This distorts love and it shifts our attention to the illusion, and the illusion is what is out there. What matters is what is inside you, because how you feel is what’s real.
Feeling better
The journey is about self-discovery. Self-discovery cannot exist without our complete attention. So, we have to let go of what happens in the world, in our lives, the suffering, the childhood traumas, etc; and then we can focus 100% on how we feel, on working on feeling better, on self-discovery and healing. Once we do this, we can start to accept and love ourselves.
The habits
There is nothing more important than accepting and loving ourselves. This is not being selfish, but this is about filling yourself with empathy, kindness, love, in order to live a more positive, happy, successful life while giving the example to others. And for this, we must work on self-healing habits. Habits which make us feel proud of ourselves, joyful, and of great value to us.
I only seek the magic that’s within me. While most grow up and forget, I just desire to remember it again.
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When you are very different from people, they don’t just not understand you but they misunderstand you; which means they judge you based on their own concepts, labels, ways of thinking and believing.
They cannot see you for who you really are because they may not have the capacity to project themselves into your unique mind, so they just might ignore you and label you something you’re not since they only understand people like themselves.
You are who you are, and the best thing in life is to be proud of it, to own it, to walk around with your head held high. Commit to your health of mind and body. Watch your behaviors. Always seek to increase your human value by seeking the truth of things.
But never pretend or downplay yourself for others. People will judge you based on their minds. Not many have the capacity to actually use empathy and project themselves into your mind to understand you, and that’s okay. You seek your path. Worry not about what others think and feel about you and your life.
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This leads to addictions, which is a subconscious pattern of the mind that affects the addict without their knowledge, but also it affects the ones around him through his relationships. But this is not a book about addiction per se, but a book about you and increasing your knowledge of yourself to increase the value in yourself. And it is about bringing success into your relationships.
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“Why do you do things…?? Anything, any experience, any behavior you consciously or subconsciously choose to have, any activity created by this human society. Why?? Why indeed?? Your behaviors have always a purpose, whether you are conscious of it or not…
“You have been programmed since birth to attach a purpose behind every behavior you express. You pursue something all the time. What is it…?? It is the very thrill of the chase what keeps you going. You know that, right??…
“It is the very thrill of the chase what keeps you wanting to live your life, to exist physically. So what is that thrill?? Let us carefully ponder this: you wake up, go to the kitchen, choose a breakfast you like; but not necessarily because it’s healthy. Then go to work, whether you like what you do or not…
“Later you choose a place for eating lunch, have a conversation and some fun with co-workers. Keep on working. You smile at the boss and tell him something nice, even though he is repulsive to you. So perhaps you curse the hell out of your boss in your head, just to release that frustration…
“Then you go on a date and act charmingly to be liked, have good fun. Or maybe just stay home, make your plans for the next day, work on your short-term or long-term goals, think about your future, deal with family, etc etc. Why…?? Why do you do this??…”
Thanks for reading.
This has been a section of Chapter 1 from my nonfiction, self-help book, “I ALWAYS LOVED YOU. – Creatures of Eternal Love.”
This is a highly spiritual and psychological approach to the very depths of our minds. It’s about freedom from our habitual patterns to increase self-esteem and reach the greatest confidence and value in us. Most people let themselves believe less of themselves, they fall into frustration and jealousy easily, they even end up hating themselves and their lives.
This leads to addictions, which is a subconscious pattern of the mind that affects the addict without their knowledge, but also it affects the ones around him through his relationships. But this is not a book about addiction per se, but a book about you and increasing your knowledge of yourself to increase the value in yourself. And it is about bringing success into your relationships.
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Life is about finding the inner strength, the positive in the negative, the greater capacity to move on and better ourselves. And for this, we must look at change, which is building the new, whatever the new is for you. The new could be another perspective, it could be a new way to do something that before didn’t work in your life, it could be a more passionate and positive approach to the hardships in your journey, and so on and so forth. But whatever we do, we must work on strengthening creativity.
Greater creativity is the greatest achievement one can get individually, because any suffering, any drama, and any attachment to old ways and lack of insight to build the new exist in our lives because there is no creativity. Greater creativity has created the world as it is, with the good and the not so good. Strengthening the creative muscle is the most important thing we can do, to understand more of life, of others, of ourselves.
Greater creativity improves our relationships, our perspectives in life. Learning more, reading more, practicing talents more, letting go of the old and stubborn ways, changing our habits into better ones. All this increases our capacity to become more creative in life. And while our minds increase this capacity, we become more able to fix whatever needs to be fixed or improved in our relationships, because now our perspective, our tolerance, our ability to project into someone else’s mind, and our understanding of the important things in life has become more clear and in tune with empathy.
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