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Steps to loving…

Loving another

It’s all about empathy. When somebody talks, listen and feel the emotion in their words. When somebody needs your support, offer it without measuring what they have done in the past. When it comes to loving, you must let go of overthinking, specially judging. If your mind is judging them, there is no room for loving them.

Where it all starts

But, truth is, everything starts with honesty to yourself. Loving yourself is doing what is healthy for you, not doing what your ego wants. For example, your ego wants to drink alcohol, it wants to keep reacting to the world aroung you instead of exploring yourself, it wants to blame everyone but yourself, etc. This is not caring for yourself, less being honest with yourself.

A person living in their ego cannot truly love, which means they will always have difficulty being happy and loving others. These persons will live frustrated, suffer from mental and physical issues as they age, and fail at committed relationships. So, loving others starts by being honest with yourself and truly taking the steps to become healthier.


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Growing together

Women & Men

Women and men are not so different in reality. Well, society has always told them they are very different. But when it comes to wanting to be understood, accepted, loved, acknowledged for who they are, they are not so different. We all need space, time, room to grow as individuals.

The key to any relationship is being there, showing your affection, with honesty; but not smothering people, thus giving them access to their own personas in order to understand themselves and their role in the relationship. It’s about freedom, because freedom is where true love grows.


And relationships require openness with each other, and this openness is about exposing our feelings. This can be scary, I know this from personal experience; however, I also know now that opening your heart to somebody is about unselfishness. It’s easy to be selfish and remain safe in your emotional cocoon, but it takes real courage and true love to open yourself to someone.

That is being unselfish, because by opening your heart to someone you are sharing yourself with others, even running the risk of not being accepted. That takes a great human being, especially if you’ve been hurt in any way in the past. I wish you the best in your relationships moving forward.


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Relationships of honesty.




In any relationship what matters is your daily behavior towards the other person.  One truly knows the affections of another by treatment, by living it, by observing the relationship and its course.  Words are desires in the moment, how we feel; but, as nice as this sounds, they are not reality.  Behavior is reality.

Truth is honesty.  A strong character showing sweetness and respect.  This is what is required to connect and grow a relationship.  And it needs a silent mind.  A mind which does not seek self-satisfaction but honest communion.


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Your power.




Do not pretend.  Do not try to sell yourself to others.  Do not specifically act in order to be approved by others.  Be always yourself, with your ignorance, with your great understanding, with your flaws, with your strengths.

The first thing you must realize is that your happiness, your joy, love for your own life, dwells in your very character; therefore, you must be true to yourself, always, without excuses.

Your power as a human being is in acting completely honest and true to yourself.  Life will be a mirror to you, so if you pretend, or if you are fake in any way, then life and what you experience will be measured by this–by your character.

You have to mature and see that the only person to love and to dignify, value and respect, is you; and then you can be a true individual and light the path in your life’s journey.  Meanwhile, lighting also the path of others.





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See something useful.




There has to be a sense of dignity and honesty in all you do, from talking to yourself each moment to going to work hours and hours.  It does not matter what it is you do, it must originate from a positive and proactive place in your mind.

If your full attention and heart are not in it, then you will start to hate the task; and you will complain and begin to bring some negativity into your life.  And then things will get worse.

Because when your mind starts dwelling in the ugliness, in the negativity, in the drama of something in your life, then your whole experience in all aspects will get tainted, poisoned; thus, your persona will become affected, your choices will become affected as well.

Love is the deep connection that you need in all things you do; no excuses, no overthinking it, just make yourself see something useful in each activity you engage.





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If you stay…




Love is not something you force, design to your whim, or manipulate; for the mind, the ego, seeks this.  Love is something which cannot be explained, something which unites people, something which does not seek to judge or control.

To love is not to judge, it is to accept somebody else as they are; so, you either walk away or you stay with them, but if you stay you accept them and nurture their growth alongside you.

Trying to “fix” people, trying to force them into doing what you think is right, trying to influence the outcome of any relationship is a political move, it is competition, it is to seek control–and it is NOT love.

That is why a human relationship, ANY human relationship actually, is a “leap of faith” as they say.  You get into a relationship with the best desires to progress together, with your lover, with your family, with your friends, with whomever.

But you do not know what is going to happen next, because love for us is something we build each moment, with each decision, with each behavior.  Something bothers you now about the other person, you must accept it then; we all have flaws.

Something appears to be hurtful to you, you must communicate your feelings and explain it; be direct, honest, but do not try to force people.  You either show care and love each moment, or you opt for walking away and doing exactly what you want; however, you do not try to control or judge if you stay.




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The Kindness Given.


A woman did help a desperate friend to cope with life and mental anxiety right after a sudden divorce, after her friend was left by her husband and two grown up kids.

She was also helped with a new job and moral support.  The woman helping her friend was a very nice and kind person, morally upright, and saw herself as doing kindness in helping her friend without expecting anything in return.

But at the same she carried a little resentment after she had helped her friend for almost a year, because as nice as she was she had subconsciously been expecting a thank you and a heartfelt speech of gratitude from her friend who was now traveling to live with her mother and doing much better.  



Now, this can be misunderstood by people when you are not truly awakened and aware of your ego.  Expecting a thanks or some kind of recognition or gratitude is actually doing business, and doing business is a trade for your own benefit, your own profit–i.e., I help you, you give me psychological and emotional rewards by giving me gratitude and by owing me one if I ever need your help.

This business, which you might carry out unconsciously, is not doing something out of your kindness, no matter what society says or teaches about this.  If you do help somebody, you do it ENTIRELY out of your heart and without ANY expectation of benefit whatsoever.

If you expect something, even small, in return for your kindness, isn’t that turning into business…??  So, when you do something, you do it right because you feel morally guided to do right, and not because you seek some emotional benefit for the building of your ego.

Study yourself in this.  Do not allow yourself to be unconscious when it comes to giving; for love only gives, expands outwardly, it does not make business or trades–only the ego trades and expects some sort of reward for kindness given.




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A Powerful Personality.




The character, the morals and ethics, the integrity of someone shines in his personality, in the way he moves about things in his life, in the way he interacts with others and in the handling of situations.  Personality shines brightly in the better behavior and attitude towards others and towards life situations.

This is opposite to what many people believe, that personality is mostly in your intentions and thoughts, and in your words and personal life philosophies.  Of course, all this is also important, as thoughts, intentions, words, philosophies of life, are the origin and the glue of the better person and society; but, however, they DO NOT create your actual personality.

Your personality, as stated, is shown and strengthened in your daily behaviors; therefore, if you think kindness and say kindness, then you also have to live kindness through better behaviors.  Higher morals and ethics only exist if the personality is shining brightly in better behaviors.

Now, a good personality based on true integrity must not be rigid.  You cannot be attached to one way of being or behaving, leaving out the better understanding and tolerance of others different from you; so, the superior or better personality must be able to adjust to different environments and to different people, different lifestyles, different views and even behaviors different from yours.

This way of seeing life and universally behaving, without rigidness, without any attachment to your own ways of thinking and behaving, allowing tolerance and understanding towards others, brings power to your very presence, it attracts opportunities and people to your better personality.

You enter a room and you shine, you approach people and they immediately feel your persona, you become attractive in deeper ways, and your character makes you more able to accept your own life and that of others with love and openness, without getting frustrated easily, without stressing yourself easily and without any rigidness whatsoever.



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No escape…



There is no escape, because all you think, feel, experience, even things which annoy you in life, is your own mind, your own intolerance and self-designed suffering; thus, everything happens in your mind, so escaping in any way is pointless, it all comes back to you–especially memories and all life’s problems.

Transformation from one sensation, way of thinking, feel, experience, into another one which begets positive vibration, positive experiences in you, is what you must do.  Transformation from within is to create yourself; so, a better you who does not seek a pointless escape from life.

And so many people try to distract themselves from themselves, from their deep feelings and experiences, that it has become “natural” for them to avoid unpleasant feelings and even responsibilities in their lives by seeking pointless entertainments, drugs, alcohol, overeating, relationships, group activities, travels, etc. etc.

They all seek some form of escape either from themselves or from their current lives, not knowing or realizing that this ignorant process only adds to the emptiness and annoyance they feel.

Everything that annoys you or makes you uncomfortable about your life or about yourself, indeed, is there to stay whether you like it or not; however, transmutation or transformation is the internal process of change and creation to reach that peace and harmony you might seek–which you definitely need to love yourself, your experience, and your life.

All origins are born within you, and all can be mended and created from within you.  Your life and everything you experience in it is born from within you, so you must remain aware of this and create or transform, build or fix from within you.


No escape, but transformation.




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Allow it to guide you…

You must realize what is really important in your life.  You must make a conscious decision between what your intellect tells you and what your heart tells you.  A good and prosperous life is not a life guided by intellect, but one guided by the empathy and understanding of your heart; thus, you must live and love untainted by the rigidity and vanity of the ego.

Be aware of the people around you who is decent and who desire the best for you, quite often not perfect but with a pure and honest heart; for these persons might not be well-educated or even have the same ideas, aspirations, and beliefs you have, but they may bring you the emotional drive you need in certain moments of struggle.

History is full of people whose vanity and pride was so big that they left behind their loved ones and the people who truly cared for them just to follow their egos and chase after superficial conquests–i.e., women, men, money, higher class, more hours at their job, etc. etc.  Sometimes what we chase is not better per se but pure vainglory, because we are trying to escape our own emptiness, insecurities, feelings of inferiority, and any fears perhaps from past memories.

Honesty is the best policy and so you must be honest with yourself, and make sure you surround yourself with the people that truly loves you and cares for your development; and no matter what happens learn to understand them and forgive their faults, because no one is perfect and we all need each other…  In a world which is so vain and superficial, where family, friendship, and love is just the second-class citizen, you must raise yourself above this and become a free and compassionate individual–i.e., remember what is truly important, be guided by your heart…



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