Love is not something you force, design to your whim, or manipulate; for the mind, the ego, seeks this. Love is something which cannot be explained, something which unites people, something which does not seek to judge or control.
To love is not to judge, it is to accept somebody else as they are; so, you either walk away or you stay with them, but if you stay you accept them and nurture their growth alongside you.
Trying to “fix” people, trying to force them into doing what you think is right, trying to influence the outcome of any relationship is a political move, it is competition, it is to seek control–and it is NOT love.
That is why a human relationship, ANY human relationship actually, is a “leap of faith” as they say. You get into a relationship with the best desires to progress together, with your lover, with your family, with your friends, with whomever.
But you do not know what is going to happen next, because love for us is something we build each moment, with each decision, with each behavior. Something bothers you now about the other person, you must accept it then; we all have flaws.
Something appears to be hurtful to you, you must communicate your feelings and explain it; be direct, honest, but do not try to force people. You either show care and love each moment, or you opt for walking away and doing exactly what you want; however, you do not try to control or judge if you stay.
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- Asa Rodriguez - 