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Are you frustrated about something…?? Suffering?? Struggling?? The problem with most adults is that they have forgotten their inner child and lost the sense of wonder and curiosity in life. Can you see this…??
Now immersed in their struggles and burdened by their frustrations, they tend to gravitate towards too much overthinking and serious anxiety about their current lives. What they have. What they do not have. What could happen?! Why is it so?! When will I find someone who loves me?! Why don’t I feel whole?!
All this comes to the adult’s mind because there is no laughter, no positivity to see opportunity in struggle, no sense of wanting to discover the depth of life further. This is something to ponder deeply, because, when we lose curiosity and laughter in life, we then fall into struggle and suffering easily.
You forgive for you. You move on for you. You clean your mind, your body, from the anxiety and frustration which comes from holding on to a grudge or anger.
Forgiveness is love. To truly love is not for the weak. To hate, to give in to anger, to keep a grudge, is what the weak of mind does. Are you weak…??
You must worry about your own state of mind, because this is what creates your experience in life; thus, you see life through the filter of your mind.
If that filter is filthy or stained with the colors of anger and frustration, with pain, then you will experience life in those terms. When this happens, your mood changes and your life choices get affected as well.
All you do in life is a way of expressing yourself, a way to express what you carry inside. When you get angry, you do it because there is anxiety and some form of suffering in you–provoked or not.
When you love without demands, without expectation, just giving for the joy of giving, you do it because you feel free and joyous inside. When you do not love like this, it is because you feel some hurt, imprisoned by your arrogance and expectations.
When you stress over money, position, ambitions, you do it because you feel frustrated with your life right now and imprisoned in your image of the future.
All this must be accepted, recognized, embraced in you; because you are all these expressions. There is really no good and evil, but just expressions of what you are; thus, you choose to filter this through your mind according to your attention.
If your attention remains inwards then you will become harmonious and blissful; but if your attention remains on the world, on competition, on comparison, then you will become agitated and frustrated.
So, understand that all about you is natural, godly, normal; but also understand that all is energy which transforms into modes of expression in life. You must watch your mind, your feel, to transform into the proper, ethical and moral expressions of yourself.
Are you stuck and you feel trapped and frustrated…?? It is all an illusion of your anxious ego; for you might have pressures, but you always have room to breathe and choices to make. It is your ability to see that, what you must have in your mind.
Indecision, overthinking, attachment to your expectations and old habits is the origin of your troubles, isn’t it…?? The prison is your own mind. Life is just evolving naturally. Situations and moments are not to be the leaders of how you think, feel and behave.
The situations and moments you live are there for a reason, but they are not there to either lead you to joy or to misery. You must lead yourself by self-discipline and training your own mind to experience what you desire to experience.
Experiences exist only within you, for what you think is outside you is just really a mirage, a reflection, the way in which physical reality manifests to your senses; but this must not trick you, deceive you, because all you ever experience lives in you and nothing can change that.
Each one of us sees life differently, feels it differently, and chooses differently, just because of that: Because life, as beauty, is in the inner eye of the beholder, which is within you creating itself by the filters of your mind. Filters (voices, images, ego, etc) that you must arrange according to your own desires.
Anger is anxiety at its peak, it is a very dark and low vibration, toxic energy and enemy of any clarity. It possesses someone and shuts down the ability to rationalize and find harmony to enjoy life.
And it is so because it originates from fear, such may be a subconscious fear of not being loved, or of your beliefs being challenged, or others.
And people sometimes say that there is righteous anger; but the truth is that any anger transforms the mind, it brings violence, frustration, anxiety, dark thoughts to your mind. So, how can anger be righteous…??
Something righteous by definition is something virtuous. Now, something virtuous is highly moral, brings love to the mind, and peace to the mind. So, is anger a virtue…??
You may not like what someone else does or says, or the way she speaks to you, or the way he treats others, or how difficult your situation is, or such and such life moment. And this is fine. We all have different personalities and reactions.
But it is your mind the one you must master so it sees this and does not create anger, because if the mind is anxious with anger you are the only one poisoned. Poisoned because you lose clarity and harmony, and because you are now the puppet of that something or someone stirring the waters of your mind.
So, I can remain confident, clear, peaceful in my mind, and still react or behave in a better way to resolve a situation or respond to a person. Always keeping a clear and rational mind is key to self-awareness.
Anger, desperation, anxiety, blinds you and leaves your mind weak and crippled. It is like a storm of smoke or heavy fog has filled the mind. You are at the mercy of the storm, lost and without seeing better direction.
This is why the mind must become a sacred place, the sanctum sanctorum, the harmony and reason you need; therefore, in your problems, arguments, life challenges, you can trust your mind to give you reason and strength.
In a world where everyone becomes angry, violent, unconscious, attached to beliefs and points of view easily, you must rise up and become better than this world, so you can face life and its events with poise and understanding.
If you are to be the best fighter, your own hero, the confident and faithful character of your life, then you must rule your mind and not allow it to fill you with anger and frustration whenever something or someone does not agree with you or with your way of seeing things.
All that is needed in life is a mind that is filled by peace and harmony, so that the best strategies and solutions may be clearly seen with wisdom and reason. No need for anger and frustration, is there…??
Your mind will react to situations the way it has been programmed to do so, so if you must practice a better way, a more focused and reasonable mental program to fight your battles, you must stop procrastinating and begin now changing the way your mind operates.
How is it really helping you being upset at someone…?? Is it because you think that somehow you are punishing them with you childish attitude…?? Are you really so full of fear and hatred to keep that grudge and resentment alive, and so allow your ignorant ego to guide your moods and behaviors…??
Rain must pour and shower, be really heavy and cold, in order for an awakening, an illumination, a deeper understanding to reach your very conscience; however, it is your choice to remain stubborn in your ignorance and reactive ego and miss the rainbow the rain brings, or it is your choice as well to understand the role the rain has in your life and see that colorful rainbow which changes you for the better. And for this better change and illumination to reach your conscience, you must allow it to happen; yes, allow it, because the automatic mode or program of the mind is to resist and not let go, so you have to be self-aware and change the program thus allowing change in you to happen–thus allowing illumination to happen.
If you do not do this then you will infect yourself with the darkness of fear and resentment, which only affects you and not others; and without illumination in the relationship things will slowly crumble to dust, you might lose something important to you because of ill will to change. You see, it is not about them (even though society teaches so); it is about you, it is all about your own mental peace and harmony. Why…??Because in all aspects of life (romance, friendship, education, finding a job, etc.), to thrive and become successful in all, you need love, comprehension, discipline, a good and happy attitude; but you can only invite all these into your mind if there is already peace and harmony there.
When there is any resentment and jealousy, upset or anger, in your mind, then fear is there. This is why you must welcome the rain as a blessing, let it shower you while you remain alert in this downpour, keep your mind steadfast to invite love and higher understanding to illumine you. While it rains, think about yourself and your own inner peace, immerse yourself in the heart of the relationship or situation instead of letting the thunder and lightning to fill you with pain and anger–and maybe become someone you do not want to be!
Challenges and moments of confusion, arguments and disagreements in absolutely any relationship must become sources of illumination to you, seek the further understanding and the wiser acceptance; otherwise your mind will agitate and you will react out of fear and anger, perhaps even ruining all your possibilities for further growth.
What is deceiving another….?? What is the origin of the desire to deceive another…?? Is deception born out of love, confidence, and understanding…??
What is the human mind if not the playground of the ego, where joy, misery, desire, fear, deception, and the rest emerge and pull on you…?? All desire of lying or deceiving another is born out of fear–i.e., fear of a particular reaction, fear of losing attachment, fear of unpopularity, etc.. Now, this ignorant and misguided behavior means we are allowing fear to lead us into our relationships, into our sense of identity, and in general into life; hence, we are blocking love and understanding from entering our own minds, and so we have found a false sense of security to overwhelm our minds and to rule our behaviors.
In the way of lies and deception you are not allowing the truth to flow and you break the bonds of any relationship. You hurt others emotionally. And soon you hurt yourself.
And, of course, one cannot really know oneself if the mind is being guided by fear; for one can only know oneself if love fills the mind, thus if one truly loves oneself truth will guide one’s behaviors. That is, behaviors with oneself and with another are guided by love and understanding, so one feels confident and there is no reason to lie or deceive. Can you see then why deceiving another is the same as deceiving yourself…??
When you interact, communicate, do anything with another, your behaviors are guided either by love or fear; thus, if you form the idea in your mind to deceive another then you are deceiving yourself because fear is your master. And when fear is your master, then all the anger, the frustration, the lying, the misconduct you brought upon another, stays also with you, in your own mind, stressing you and agitating your mind, and soon it becomes your persona and it shapes your daily thinking pattern in all of life’s aspects.
“You can’t know your real mind as long as you deceive yourself.” ~ Bodhidharma; Buddhist monk, Shaolin Kung Fu master, first Chinese patriarch, and writer.
- Asa Rodriguez - 