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A mind of awareness.

What is anxiety if not attaching yourself to thoughts obsessively??

What is mastering yourself if not keeping a mind free of anger and overthinking??

I once had a high school friend who invited me to a dinner with his family. I didn’t know where I was going really. It all started like a nice meal and gathering, but then it turned into a debate about politics, different political parties, different opinions. Everybody was preferring to argue about that than to keep it harmonious, cordial, friendly. And somebody got upset, started with the name calling. The other one followed. They had asked for my opinion, but I didn’t have one. Long story short, nobody enjoyed the meal.

Their minds were full of anxiety. And this happens to the best families, I know. And this happens to the best of us as well. And that is the stress created by following your controversial thinking, overthinking, trying to demonstrate that you are right and the other one wrong. This is the enemy. Your own ego. That neediness to feel superior and display your knowledge or your opinion of something. I just think this kind of behavior is what divides people. And the fact is that the state of your mind will dictate the way you experience life.

So, to me is really important the state of my mind. To remain aware of it. Specially with Christmas coming up. Specially with all the anxiety this Covid situation brings. Holidays, whether physically apart from family or not, are about joy, harmony, giving thanks for our lives as they are. Maybe your life is not perfect. Maybe you have a thousand and one problems. But I know you can find at least one thing to be thankful for. And our lives require it. Life requires our minds to be humble and intelligent enough to reject anxiety and seek peace. So our lives can improve.

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Reconnecting.

Nothing is more hurtful and it brings more anxiety to your mind than to hold on to the past, to the loss, to the tragedy, to the injustice, to what did or did not happen. How can someone possibly be happy like this…?? No, you can pretend; but you can never truly be happy attached to your past. This is very personal, but at some point in your life journey you must stop your stressed, anxious and stubborn mind to see this, to acknowledge that you cannot heal if you feed your addiction to what happened.

Your path to healing is one of love, but you cannot fight yourself and struggle in the process; because if you do, you are just widening the gap between unhealthy and healthy. Widening the gap is to resist to healing, because you are attached to whatever hurt you, or to whatever you allowed to hurt you. This is what intensifies the hurt or the chaos in you. Can’t you see this…??

So, it is about reconnecting with yourself, with your happier self and the one part in you which is not attached to the past. You are responsible for this reconnecting. You can feel you need it. And in order to achieve it, you must detach from the old to build the new. We always talk about love, but love cannot truly exist in your mind if you remain attached to the hurt, to the loss, to the struggle.

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Freedom to love.

 

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Even with our loved ones.  We cannot truly love if we do not love being alone with ourselves without anxiety.  Without envying the love in others.  Without resulting to desperation to possess others.

It is the whole point in my book, “I Always Loved You – Creatures of Eternal Love.”  And it is also something I have very clear.  Attachment is just a desire born from a lack of self-love.

Attachment is the need to belong and to possess, thus stealing the freedom from someone else and from ourselves.  You might say ‘easier said than done.”  But unless our minds agree to actually change, our behaviors will be the same always.  It has to be about self-development, self-improvement.

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To know intimacy.

 

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So is your mind.

 

The lack of deep and intimate relationship with your own nature is what makes you want to seek out there–seek philosophies, seek religion, seek God, seek validation from people, seek love, seek happiness, etc.

To know your nature is to be content, without seeking anything, and truly knowing that you already have everything you need.  Loss of intimacy with life results in trying to find answers, meanings, purpose for God, for your existence, for your emptiness.

Intimacy is to know yourself in deep, it is to go beyond the petty desires and conflicts of your mind.  Your mind is always seeking, attaching itself to ways of life, religions, and to human creatures close to you.

Leave your mind, because your mind does not know intimacy in life; and you must become intimate to truly love and be happy without addictions and dependencies to your outside.

 

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Weakness.

 

 

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Don’t ask what makes you weak, mediocre, immoral; for you already know.  You may lie to yourself and say that you do not know, and then play that intellectual game of always seeking and seeking answers to escape the truth; but you do know deep inside.

Extra fatty foods, physical laziness, gossip, hiding the truth, clinging to past memories, attachment to expectations, impulsive reactions, chasing money desperately, and so on and so forth.  Don’t you know then…??

What is your life if not greater development, always moving forward in you, through your better health, through your rational ideas, through your moral behaviors…??  And what are you if not your life, which is how you think and feel–so your developing experience moving forward…??

Anything that makes you weak, lazy, stubborn, envious, angry, unhealthy, etc., must not be made part of you; because, in very fact, whatever you add to you, in thinking, feeling, eating, certainly becomes you.

And you cannot live a happy life, in love with it each day, if you become weak in this aspect.  Weakness brings suffering, confusion, immorality, wrong decisions, delusions in your ways of thinking; thus, it slowly destroys your life, it slowly destroys you.

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Free from illusions.

 

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Why belief??  Believing in yourself is absolutely different, evidently.  But ideas about the future, trust in books that your mind claims as holy, this obsession with the words of others who are proclaimed saints and/or “learned.”

And not to mention stupid trust and obedience of traditions, cultural history and ideologies.  You might be old in age, but you do not have to remain attached to this nonsense.

Or you might be young and full of knowledge and fantastical ideas from other people, from gurus, from books, and from your own imagination even; however, you want to see the truth and awake, but beliefs are not the way–beliefs are what keep you asleep and ignorant or unwise.

A healthy mind is an empty mind, which is not actually empty; but it is indeed empty of any attachments to beliefs, ideas, traditions, cultures.  In order to know yourself and ALL existence, you must empty yours from any attachment whatsoever.

It is your own mind after all, and it shows you your life based upon its content.  If all you have in your mind are beliefs, traditions, attachments to ideas and philosophies, then you will live in this illusion created by the attachment to all this.

Free yourself from the illusions you carry.  Practice an empty mind, such mind is fresh, insightful, open-minded, young no matter your age, wise and ready to accept any change and new idea.

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Are you the fool??

Once upon a time a young man who had been reported killed in action came home from being a prisoner of war.  His family and his buddies, and even his girlfriend, had mourned him as dead and then, more or less getting over their grief, moved on.

His sudden reappearance was disconcerting, to say the least.  They had all loved him, but they had in effect written him out of their lives.  And his girlfriend was engaged to marry someone else.  Moreover, he didn’t seem like the boy who had gone off to war.  He was thin and haggard and haunted by horrible memories.

So, what do you think he did…??  Even though it was difficult to accept for him at first, he soon realized that change is a reality and that is wise to accept it with joy and forget the past, your old life, your old memories.

Because life is the reality now, not the past, not the future, not your memories, not your desires; but now you adapt to it, and you do whatever you have to do to enjoy life.  Adjusting to change, to new conditions, is indeed what intelligence is.

To remain attached to your old life, to your views, to old ways of behavior, to your beliefs and desires, is what being a fool is; because the fool cannot accept the progress of life, new moral values, and new change.  The fool has not developed his capacity for greater adaptation. 

So, you must ask yourself with honesty, who are you??

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Without End.

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EXCEPT,  I AM NEVER SORRY ABOUT DESTROYING YOUR IGNORANCE.
So, what part of you gets hurt, troubled, disturbed…??  Isn’t your ego the one which becomes attached to things and people??  And isn’t that attachment springing from fear of loneliness, fear of feeling neglected or inferior in some way, fear of being taken for a fool because you compare yourself to others who seem happier than you??

So, to be hurt, to remain depressed, to compare yourself with others, to feel angry and revengeful, is to be attached; hence, it is to live your life egoistically and immaturely.  Of course, you might want to deny this right now, but that is because your own immaturity currently makes you blind to the depth of it all.

To see beyond your own hurt ego in relationships, and in ALL situations in your life, is to acquire great understanding, which is to analyze yourself and realize that you can observe the ignorance of your own ego activity because you are above and beyond your own stupidity.

When you do this, when you access and expand your self-awareness, you become aware of another, even deeper, mental plane beyond that of your own egoistical vanity and beyond your own illusions of life and the relationships you have in life.

When you access or become aware of this other mental plane, which is harmonious and seeks no self-satisfaction, then you realize you cannot get hurt or “broken-hearted,” and you also realize you are the one who is in control of how you think and feel.

This powerful KNOWING brought by this inner realization brings you the eternal affair with life, such which goes beyond any desire and pleasure you might feel from time to time–i.e., love which never ends and never stops, and happiness which never ends and never stops.

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Cutting the strings of the puppet.

 

One great impediment and sickness in the world is that many people struggle, suffer, seek to be liked by others.  I do not mean just being nice and true to others to be appreciated, but I mean to obsessively try to fulfill other’s expectations and seek their approval.

When we are children we have our parents or caretakers, and so we look up to them and seek their approval to feel loved and to feel we are on the right direction in life; however, when one is a mature adult this behavior must stop, and you must take care of yourself, seek your own approval and direction.

As a wiser person, who you should be, there is no worst enemy than attachment, following others just to seek a form of “identity,” try to please others to be “cool” or stylish in society or with friends; for this begins due to a mind that is fearful of not fitting in, and thus a mind which knows no self-love.

To be unique, to be yourself, to be free or a “free spirit” you have to be able to live your experiences without being attached to the expectation of others, attached to situations, and attached to the thoughts of wanting to be the center of attention of others.

You must feel whole and love yourself completely in order to be happy and confident in your life; opposite to this, to remain a sheep to the shepherd and to choose to stay as a puppet for some puppeteer in life is indeed to feel empty and desperate within yourself, and this inevitably will lead you to feelings of profound worthlessness and great confusion.

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Behind difficult moments.

 

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When we attach to beliefs and certain philosophies, we are being too serious; and thus anyone can come and attack us and bother us.  When we become to rigid and strict on our lifestyle, we might damage relationships by asking the same level from our partner; and thus ruin connection with people.

All this and more is being too into our own ego, too strict, too serious in life; and so, when this happens our minds become intolerant, easily insulted, extremely proud and insensitive.

If we become too proud and insensitive then we fall into negativity, tyranny, and a dark abyss in our subconscious; however, we might not see it happening in ourselves, as our personalities become blinded by this strict and serious poison affecting our minds while we lower self-awareness.

Life can have its ups and downs, your mind might make life difficult, and you might drown in a glass of water, emotionally speaking that is; and so, that is why your mind must be harmonious, peaceful, ready to take things lightly and laugh at the challenges you meet.

And, especially in relationships, you must be flexible, understanding, tolerant, loving, accepting of the other; hence, you must laugh and see the good side of situations and people, be positive and dare see the beauty behind your life, your situations, and behind difficult moments.

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