One great impediment and sickness in the world is that many people struggle, suffer, seek to be liked by others. I do not mean just being nice and true to others to be appreciated, but I mean to obsessively try to fulfill other’s expectations and seek their approval.
When we are children we have our parents or caretakers, and so we look up to them and seek their approval to feel loved and to feel we are on the right direction in life; however, when one is a mature adult this behavior must stop, and you must take care of yourself, seek your own approval and direction.
As a wiser person, who you should be, there is no worst enemy than attachment, following others just to seek a form of “identity,” try to please others to be “cool” or stylish in society or with friends; for this begins due to a mind that is fearful of not fitting in, and thus a mind which knows no self-love.
To be unique, to be yourself, to be free or a “free spirit” you have to be able to live your experiences without being attached to the expectation of others, attached to situations, and attached to the thoughts of wanting to be the center of attention of others.
You must feel whole and love yourself completely in order to be happy and confident in your life; opposite to this, to remain a sheep to the shepherd and to choose to stay as a puppet for some puppeteer in life is indeed to feel empty and desperate within yourself, and this inevitably will lead you to feelings of profound worthlessness and great confusion.
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