So, I think that to understand what intimacy really is, one must go to the origins of it. What is to be intimate…?? Where is this substance of intimacy created…?? Is it part of love, or a creation of society…??
Let’s see, love is deep connection and understanding, and it is dwelling within you; and to experience it in your everyday life you must make it conscious, you must create and bring this love into your mind.
Now, intimacy, being that love is intimacy itself, is also within you. Intimacy then has nothing to do with sex, or a relationship with another. Of course, you can bring intimacy into a relationship with another; however, intimacy, being love, must be first cultivated and developed within yourself, consciously in your mind.
Do you know why people have sex, get into relationships, get married, and still have problems which lead to separations, trust broken, and lots of pain…?? No intimacy. And the problem is that they never developed intimacy within themselves first.
How can you truly love another if you do not know love….?? How can you cherish and respect another if you do not cherish and respect yourself first…?? How can you be truly intimate with another if you do not know intimacy…?? People fail in creating love within themselves, so they cannot, even if they try, truly love another.
Getting in touch with your emotions, integrity in character, accepting and respecting yourself–this creates intimacy in your mind. Seeking love and happiness outside yourself because you feel empty and needy inside–this creates lack of intimacy, lack of love, and suffering which you bring to another in a relationship.