Why is it that most of us find value in not letting go?? Most of us feel that letting go somehow makes us selfish, disloyal, isolated from others who do not desire to let go either. Most of us, I’ve found, live in this illusion where attachment is real love.
This is not progressive. This is not spiritual. This is not moral. Because love has nothing to do with the pettiness of attachment, neediness, hatred of change. It is the main reason I wrote this book, because life is about observing yourself and your own attachment.
That’s the only way to any true progress.
Please read a sample below:
The Work
This work is about the individual and the creation of greater self-awareness. Self-awareness is what is required to live a better life. A life of success. A life of self-development. We focus on the existential chaos of the person. What ails the mind…?? What is the solution…?? And from then, we enlighten ourselves…
Don’t cry for your dead. Don’t cry for your loss. Don’t cry for what was. Attachment to feelings of great loss are just insecurities brewing in the mind. These insecurities are baseless and originating from the fear of change–contempt for the new, addiction to the old.
Grief is nature’s answer from love. But holding on to this grief is the selfish answer from attachment. Constantly drowning in your sorrow is the choice that paralyzes you, and whoever drowns himself is doing it because he enjoys being paralyzed.
And who said that death, loss, hurt, is the end?? It is but a distorted idea, a crude concept, a piteous mirage of the unaware mind. It is designed by groups, by families who mourn, by a broken society of noise, by people without introspection.
Loneliness is poor quality of existence. Loneliness is when the mind falls in a state of fascination with the noise of the crowd. Loneliness is the disease born from the lack of friendship with yourself.
Someone disrespectful to you, or aggressive, or unsupportive, does not deserve your time and attention. People have different experiences, so they see things differently in life.
We can change, but most of our subconscious programming comes from childhood; so people might be unaware as adults of the damage they’re causing you due to their own early burdens. Try not to remain attached to their ignorance.
After all, is your life
Your life is about your self-development, and this requires your full attention, and this requires that you let go of any resentment or frustration you may feel towards another. Do it for you, not for anybody else. Because it is always up to you to become free.
We all have proplems–financial, in relationships, personal, etc. And the mind can be a prison. When one lives in one’s own mental world, great distress, great overthinking. This can really drive a person mad, and make this one aggressive towards others as well.
We may even lose focus of what is important in our lives, neglect ourselves and those close to us. I personally let it go. It’s a mental practice, never becoming attached to anything at all; but especially to those things I have no control over.
The greatest freedom
And letting go is not so easy at times. But is freedom what we must seek in life, not more debt, not more beliefs, not more traditions, not more commitments to something we are not passionate about. But freedom. Always freedom.
Freedom is psychological. To feel free to think clearly. To feel free from overthinking and the burdens it brings. We will love life according to how we feel. If we feel positive, there’s a bigger chance and capacity for us to be happy and in love.
And there is a lot more to be learned. With my 41 years old, I think that everything is a lesson. I look back to my past and learn something new all over again. For example, you can take a painful memory, ask yourself why pain exists and what can be learned from it.
Perhaps on the surface, you tell yourself that nothing can be learned from it. But if you stick to it, if you allow yourself to let go of the pain and extract just the memory experience, then you can discover something buried even beyond all that anxiety and pain.
Extracting the inspiration
Noticed that I’ve said ‘if you allow yourself to let go of the pain’?? That’s key. It is very important you do not experience that pain again, because if you do then you will mentally try to run away and not learn anything.
So, letting go of the past pain is essential, and in fact the inspiration lies not in the pain but in what’s beyond the pain. And that’s what we’re looking for: Inspiration to create a better future.
It is vital to move on. Self-acceptance means you respect yourself enough to forgive all the mistakes, the guilt, the shame, the negativity you carry and feel. Could be your burden. Could be the fault of somebody else. It doesn’t really matter. In order to accept yourself and gain peace, you must let it go.
A clear mind
Our minds are always chattering, loud voices telling us this and that. That is what being human is all about, and that is the challenge we all face to follow the right voices, to be influenced by the right voices. Because in order to find peace finally and accept yourself you have to follow the right voices.
And following the right voices, or allowing the right voices to influence you, means to clear you mind of toxic voices from the outside–toxic friends, toxic family, toxic movies, toxic music, etc. It’s extremely important you bring clarity and positivity into your mind to have the energy and strength needed to accept yourself and let go of the past.
Freedom is the most important in life. Without freedom, we don’t feel love. Without the feeling of love, we become miserable and thus make others miserable too. But freedom then lies in our minds, because it all starts in our minds. Letting go of what others say, I become free. Letting go of the past, I become free. Letting go of all expectation, I become free.
Freedom is being yourself entirely
So, letting go of all I have mentioned leads you to being unique. Being unique means finding yourself. Because only by letting go of all this you can have the time and the energy to actually look into yourself and free your mind from carrying the burdens from the past, from others, and from all pressure. And being free requires you to become free of burdens, friend.
Any good relationship in life, no matter which kind it is, requires that we let go of pride and ego. Any success comes because we are able to look within ourselves, stop the judgmental voices, and then project ourselves in the mind of the other person. No matter how irrational we might think the other person is being we can always try to understand his or her side, and we do this by letting go from the attachment to our side, to our opinions, to our beliefs of how things should be.
Now, forgiveness requires courage, uniqueness, and a person who is willing to let go and move on, relaxed and easygoing. And so, forgiveness is the trait of the better person. The better person is the one who seeks great success in relationships and in life in general. Forgiveness is about you and your inner power to let go of pride and ego. And when you find that inner power, then you become happier, more attractive, and more able to love yourself and others.
And if you are into the ‘Harry Potter’, and also the ‘Percy Jackson’ novels, then you’ll enjoy this series about gods, demons, magic, and self-discovery.
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“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Lately I’ve been thinking about my twin baby sisters, which died before birth due to complications with contractions and the umbilical cord. Don’t really want to bring it up with my mom, in case there is still some painful memories in her. But, questions still linger in me: What would they look like today?? Would they be religious like my mother or in the path of awakening and self-discovery like me?? Interesting how things happen in life, and that everything happens for a reason.
If they were alive today, and so was my brother and father, how different life would be for me. How evolution takes its course in the direction set by each change, and so life takes shape. The main thing is to be grateful of how things are, however the situation might be currently. We evolve, take certain paths, and we have the opportunity to learn as well. I wouldn’t be who I am today if things were different. I learn from the pain. I either evolve from it or not. But absorbing the lessons in my life is always up to me. Remaining stuck to my past does not help me build my life and move forward.
One must acknowledge first that life is now, and that from being totally present now, then we can successfully evolve. Because we all carry burdens, pain, things which were tragic for us; but the real key to love and happiness is creating new experiences, and to do this we require courage. Now, courage, being brave, even strong willingness to move on, does not exist if we remain attached to the past. The past, the hurt, the things lived. These are there to make us stronger, to allow us to become better, to learn and move on. Stepping stones, and not burdens to stop us from creating a better future.
Reading time. Because as a lover of knowledge and expansion of mind, I live it very strongly. Great reading for you:
What makes people act in harmful ways towards themselves and towards others…??
What they carry inside becomes quite often the monster and the tragedy of their present lives.
The secret is to let go, lose your attachment, practice better habits, and create new inspirations and new ways of thinking. Because we all carry our burdens, our challenges, and even past memories which might be coming back to haunt our present; but it is extremely important for your health to be more easygoing, more accepting, without less judgment and without making a big deal out of everything. Your mind and body requires you to accept yourself as you are, with all the burdens, flaws, mistakes, and things you secretly struggle to hide. This is the enemy. By hiding it, by escaping it, you give it more strength, more energy to alter your personality and make you choose wrongly in life.
And nothing is more damaging to the way we think and feel than being uptight and not flexible to life’s up and downs. Whatever happened, let it go. And whatever is bothering you now, is not actually bothering you. What presents itself as annoying, burdensome, challenging, is your own ego, your preconceived notion of things and your attachment to the way you want things to be. Let your mind rest, without all this anxiety and rigid perspectives of things. Your ego makes you act out and subconsciously you create a toxic program, a mental habit which creates more burdens and problems for you to believe as real
So, you are your own enemy; but you don’t even know it. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Become acquainted with your enemy (ego) and learn to become more relaxed and adventurous. Don’t put the effort into thinking more ways to be anxious and upset; but put that effort instead into creating better habits, new thoughts, new perspectives, and to make yourself more understanding and creative in terms of life changes. Life goes well. Life goes not as well. We all go through this roller coaster. But the secret is to remain new all the time. Don’t let it consume you. Think freshly. Be more flexible. Not only for your relationships with people, but also for the relationship with yourself, with your past, with your present, with your thoughts of a future, and for that relationship with life itself.
“Life is a dream to be deciphered only by a dreamer,” he said. “To lose yourself in the dream, to learn how dreams are built, that is the point of life”
So, let’s learn how dreams are built. And for that, the best book promos.
- Asa Rodriguez - 