Breaking the rules.

How many rules for loving each other! Humankind has grown too attached to rules, hasn’t it…?? When you’re dating, you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or you’re afraid of what they could think about you, or you try to hide the way you truly feel so nobody really knows. One gets so anxious, and condemns oneself really, just because one overthinks love. And this confuses you, and it distorts what love truly is as you grow up and experience life. And this creates your character as a human being, and it affects you in all your choices and ways you feel in any aspect in life.

Once in a relationship, the same overthinking happens, maybe less anxious, perhaps less intimidating; however, the mind still seeks to control and assign labels to the experience of being with each other. People seek for a meaning to be together, they judge what the other one does, they live trying to change one another; and yet nobody sees their own flaws, their own ugly side and what needs to be improved in themselves. People argue and blame each other, and they focus on the problem as they relive the past over and over again. This sick pattern is about finding fault in the other person, and never about finding fault in oneself.

So, who creates all these things, this drama, these petty arguments…?? Too much thinking. And it always involves the other person, doesn’t it?? See the pattern of self-deception here?? Because this is not true love. This is something else. This is the “love” of the intellectual. Always looking outside himself, at the other person. Always thinking, strategizing, judging, condemning. When true love, in reality, is so much easier because it doesn’t involve thinking anxiously. Can you see this?? Can you let it go?? If you can, then love becomes magic, which means it becomes unburdened by the mind, by its labels and prejudices. And this gives you more peace, less anxiety, more wisdom, less need for control, more openness emotionally, less obsessions and stubborn thinking.

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I hope you enjoyed that and apply it in your relationships.

Now, this one following is my first YA fantasy/mystery novel. It is similar, as in epic adventure type, as “Harry Potter” and “Lord of The Rings.” See if it is your kind of read.

Goodreads review:

“A story of a young 12 years old orphan boy who get guided by Indian Spiritual Guru Adit Acharya. Being Indian, I got attached with the story easily. Story line is very good. Lot of things to learn. Author Asa Rodriguez has written very good life quotes on True Love. The story is very much inspiring. I recommend this book to youngsters as adults.” ~ Ashish Jain.