One of the most attractive and successful traits to have in life is confidence. No matter what you go through, you must believe in yourself. Belief in myself is what got me through breakups, and deaths in the family, and financial troubles.
Because the fact is that terrible things are going to happen in life, unexpectedly, whether we want it or not; however, if we believe in ourselves, in the capacity to get through it, in the ability to re-build and triumph in the future, we then become strong and firm before any problems we may have.
Committed to your purpose
And there needs to be a vision, a purpose, a goal, in order to believe in yourself and get through whatever life throws at you. Our minds have to seize this positivity and vanquish all negativity, and with this comes the commitment to keep going.
This commitment is paramount. You have to train your mind to let all the worry and frustration go, so the strength to keep moving forward emerges and stays where is supposed to stay in order to bring you clarity and passion to desire to be better.
-Nothing is more attractive than self-acceptance: To allow yourself to forgive your past, your perceived failures, the injustices done unto you, the less evolved person you were back then.
-Nothing is more empowering than self-belief: To give yourself room to breathe, to stop labeling yourself this and that, to push yourself to be more because you seek to evolve into the best version of yourself.
A person who does this becomes what he/she is supposed to become. This person is ready to take on the world with strength and confidence, knowing that all that is truly needed cannot be taken away from him/her by whatever happens in the roller coaster of life.
One of the main things in life is to remain true to yourself, which means to follow your own path and not copy others just to fit into their narrative of what life is supposed to be. Sometimes problems arise because you want a relationship to be like others, or your success like others, or this or that.
But we are all different, and so copying each other lessens your unique ability for success in life. I must use empathy, creativity, my own vision; and so do what is best for me, create my own path. It requires bravery to be unique, to say no to the way others do things, to be your own voice and create your own style in this world.
Going beyond society
One thing I don’t do is copy the style of other authors for writing, for building plots and characters. I know that most authors do this, that they read and copy from the way bestsellers do it. And if that is you, I can respect that. But I don’t. I aim to create a new style. Some people will like it. Some others love it. But that is not my problem, because my sole purpose is to bring you ‘me’ in those pages.
I believe that if you truly look to be different, unique, and share with others your own style, then you must be brave and stop fearing not being accepted by others. If you have read my books then you know what I’m saying. I do not pretend to be better or worse than others out there; I am just different and creating my own style. After all, great minds go beyond the established norms in society.
The time we have is all we get. Living in past memories, past hurt, the expectations of others, carrying all this guilt and negativity about some believed failure. Nothing good comes from all this. It’s of value to always remind ourselves that time is precious, and that we are here to be happy by moving on with something that makes us feel worth, success, happiness.
Nothing is a failure if you don’t let it be.
That’s very real. Failure is just a label, a belief, a philosophy put into your mind by family, friends, society in general. The only thing that is true is the belief in yourself. And when you believe in yourself everything becomes a learning lesson, not some failure.
When you truly believe in yourself you do not give up or become sad about not accomplishing something. Life is full of lessons. Believe in yourself throughout life and you will see the lessons.
Life might be challenging. Life can have its ups and downs. Life can feel right down miserable at times. But know that you matter, and that is why you struggle. It is all about experiences to help you become stronger and see your own worth.
What matters is self-belief
To know that you matter, to find your worth, to feel better about yourself, is all a belief you have to create. A self-belief. That’s what gets you through all the things you don’t like or suffer in life. Focus on growing a strong self-belief by making better habits for yourself.
Laughing at your life/yourself
But while at it, choose to let it go and keep a smile on your face. Carrying anger, frustration, sadness and self-pity does not help you in the creation of better habits to help you feel better. So, what I do is to choose to see the positive, even if difficult, especially if difficult. I train my mind to seek the positive instead of the negative.
It’s about how you manage it
See the comedy of it all, because life itself is a comedy and not a tragedy. People choose to make it a tragedy, and they suffer it more like this. When you feel neglected, or wronged by others, or when you suffer a loss, etc. What matters is how you manage these. So raise above your pain, and remind yourself that these are all lessons/experiences we all have to go through one way or another.
When Ben meets Adit, a spiritual author and guru, he starts on an adventure to find out his shamanic roots, his magic, and his link to a wicked necromancer.
A war going on in the alien world. A terrible war between gods and demons. The wicked necromancer has invaded full force, and he seeks the ancient book of witchcraft thought to be long lost.
Freedom is about us being able to let go from our self-limiting ideas, traditions, beliefs, and ways of thinking. Too many of us observe the success of others and shrink from jealousy or envy. Too many of us let society tell us how to love, when to love, and why is important to love. The fact is that as babies we are free, we don’t have these limitations; but as we grow up we become burdened and bitter. Maybe deeply hurt and with lack of self-belief due to our difficult experiences growing up.
I ask you to look into yourself and see your own self-imposed limitations. What are they?? Why are they there?? Who created them in the first place?? Are they helping you grow as a person?? Are they stopping you from selflove and confidence?? That’s what I do with mine, as every day I seek to become a little bit freer than yesterday. See, freedom to fly means freedom to feel self-love and happiness, along with the faith and positivity to claim your place in the world.
Because if we lack this freedom, then we become self-conscious, afraid of moving forward, petrified and intimidated by others and by the challenges in our own lives. So, it’s about seeing yourself for who you are. Perhaps reminding you that, even though you are a grown-up now, you still have the freedom, curiosity, confidence of the baby you were once.
Life can be challenging. One can experience loneliness, doubt, jealousy, anger, and a myriad of other darkness. This goes with being human, with exploring ourselves in this physical existence we call life. I went through so much after my father’s death several years ago. I’m sure we have all experienced the impotence and anger in these terrible moments. Our minds make our experiences. From a thought to a feeling, and from a feeling to a constant experience in us. The constant experience can be negative or positive, depending on the first thought we had and nourished into a feeling which grew constant and powerful in us.
There is a well of hope and faith in us in spite of all negativity and struggle. This well is deep inside us, but it cannot be fed by the outside. Sure, you can have people supporting you. Sure, you can also have great self-help books remind you, and religious scriptures too. Sure, you can even have the opportunity to travel and introduce yourself to more inspiring cultures and people. All this may help, but it won’t last. Not unless you find the strength, faith, hope in you in the form of self-belief. Because even if you lose something important to you, or fail at something, or encounter tragedy in any aspect, inner belief will get you out.
Inner belief says “I don’t care what happens in life, I will keep going filled with patience and passion.” Inner belief says “Nothing will stop me, nothing will bring me down; because my focus is on moving on and progressing.” And so, how do you get that strong self-belief…?? By developing yourself, by seeking your passion, by immersing yourself in habits which keep you feeling great about yourself. Great habits are the key in life. Sitting around watching TV and drinking beer with friends, or even by yourself?? Not a great habit. No, I am talking about habits which push you outside of your comfort zone. Habits which add value to your character.
Habits which help you understand yourself and your strengths, like writing, like painting, like sports of strategy, like exercise, like cooking healthily, like educating yourself on science or on any other passion you have. The secret or aim here is to grow as an individual, patiently, step by step, daily; however, it is also about doing something fun, something which ignites your passion and sense of wonder in life. I am personally a big advocate for better habits. I write about self-development, through non-fiction works and now through fantasy works which bring magic, adventure, and also insights into what it is to be alive. I hope you can see the truth in this, and so begin to nourish that belief in you, making yourself unstoppable.
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