Failure is not a fact
The very thought of defeat shouldn’t be in your mind. Defeat is failure, which makes it a belief in your mind. A belief is something you choose, and that you might start thinking is a fact. But beliefs are not facts. They are thoughts, feelings, things they have introduced in your mind and that you have chosen as reality.
You see others with great success, and you might feel bad about yourself. You might think that you’re lost, or doing the wrong things, or not capable. But all this overthinking you do is what leads to believing in failure. Failure does not exist outside the mind. It’s not a real thing. In life, you learn, if your mind sees the lessons, if you are positive and strong enough mentally. That’s it. You learn.
Life is about exploration, and about self-discovery; and all this requires your commitment, your passion, and most importantly your positivity. There cannot be positivity in your mind if there is the thought of fear, the thought of defeat, the thought of failure and self-victimization. This is for all of us, because the thought of defeat can creep in all of our minds.
Now, if life is about exploration, then you must become adventurous. I don’t mean to go bungee jumping, or to go parasailing, or to climb a tall mountain. No, I mean to become adventurous in your mind, in your points of view, in your capacity to be open-minded to new ways, to new strategies, to new horizons.
About that positive self-talk
If something is not working out for you, do not just give up, do not just give in to your thoughts of failure or any fear. First step, stop looking at the life of others, and stop comparing your life to theirs. Second step, seek information, great knowledge, different points of view from many sources.
Whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish, learn whatever you have to learn; and learn it better so you can keep going and modify whatever you have to. Because it’s all about, again, passion and commitment; but, above all, is about that mental positivity, about that positive self-talk, and about not accepting those thoughts of fear.
It took me years and years to learn this, to put it into real practice; but I can tell you that this is the most important thing you can learn in life. To strengthen yourself. To lift yourself up. To lead yourself through the troubles of life. And to remain positive to help others with their own troubles.