We are all of it. We are the good. The not so good. The love. The fear. The capacity for joy. The capacity for misery. The voice that lives in the past, in the present, in the future. And I personally do not deny it, because I see it as a strength.
Never escape your troubles, your feelings of pain and misery, whatever you carry from your past, your struggles to be healthy, etc. It is all about embracing who you are, and then using all you are to become the best you can be.
That is the journey to seize in life. The journey of self-discovery, of uniqueness, of creation. If my mind tries to escape or label something as bad, then fear grips me and I am its slave. The key is doing things from love, not from fear.
Quite often, we think we are being rational, true to ourselves, moral in our choices and behaviors even. The politicians we choose. The moralistic approach in relationships. How we judge what’s right and what’s wrong. Etc.
But, per science, 90% to 95% of what we choose and do, the way we see life and act, is highly unconscious; meaning we do according to our subconscious programming, just like robots or computers following their programming.
So, to truly think for ourselves and be rational, guided by intelligence and empathy, without bias and emotional outbursts, we have to truly know ourselves and study our thoughts and feelings without being so impulsive. Following your anger, your frustration, your self-pity, your indignation, is letting yourself be enslaved.
Life is about freedom, because that is what true love is. Mental freedom is the first and most important step. Freedom so you can think clearly and not easily fall into the influence of others. Freedom to truly be yourself and not fall into the game of thoughtless groups. And freedom to see life, yourself, and others in the purest nature.
How good is challenging yourself. To say “I can do more,” or “I can be more”. To find something we like, make it into a passion, and pushing ourselves to mastery. I personally have the example of my writing. As an Indie author, I carry my own style, my own voice, and the way I write and describe things is different than other authors.
Not better or worse, just different. It took me years to developed my craft, even more than a decade before publishing my first book. But I can say that there is no other feeling so great as to know you are really good at something you’re passionate about. And the fact that I’m always practicing and perfecting myself gives me great joy and purpose.
Training that feeling
And to increase that feeling of joy, of mastery, of knowing your craft, you must develop a schedule. Wake up early, exercise your mind and body, then take the time to practice what you love to do. This is my life, and that is why I write about this.
Because anyone with a strong desire, passion and purpose can do it. Never belittle yourself. Never look at others and compare yourself. You are unique. And you find that uniqueness in you by finding your passion and challenging yourself to become better and better at it. Practice! Practice! Practice!
I feel that in order to craft the best ideas, the best characters, the best plot in a story, you have to be emotionally in touch with yourself. That you must accept yourself, your past burdens, your flaws, your pains.
After all, whatever you create, in any artistic form, must be born from you. And also must deliver the strength of your emotions, without, of course, overwhelming the ones who will appreciate your art form.
It is very personal, I know, because the way we create is based on the personality and the experiences we have; and, obviously, each one of us is different, which makes art forms potentially excellent. So, as an author, I find that pouring my personality and experience in what I write gives me artistic freedom.
And, I’d humbly suggest, that in life, or in anything else that requires the subtlety of your art, you find also your artistic freedom. That you liberate yourself from the constraints of following others, or the ways they do things, or encasing your mind to think like them.
Parents mean well, most of the time; however, they can induce in the child their own ideas, beliefs, and ways to go about in life. This, even without the growing child’s knowledge, can really become a burden to the mind. The burden cements into addiction. Addiction even into illness. But the now adult cannot see it, because his programming has been set as the “normal”for him.
Stifling dreams. Creating beliefs and traditions. Patterns of overthinking and impulsive behaviors. Childhood can do this. Parents can do this. Butlife is not the way parents see it, because they have just their opinions and experiences. And you are different, it doesn’t matter what others say. A dead dream becomes easily a dead person inside. Make sure you become alive and aware of your dreams, of your ideas, of your own ways to see life; and thus leave the past taught to you behind.
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I’ve been on the other side, which is the side of attachment and self-neglect. When I was looking to fit in and to be like the rest, seeking their approval, seeking to belong to a group of thinkers, believers, philosophers. We all seek this when there is no knowledge of self. We seek to belong and to feel part of others and of what others do, and this quite often becomes an obsession, a corruption as we become more like others and lose our uniqueness. Most of us fall into this, because we cannot be with ourselves. We might feel empty, not worthy by ourselves, like something is missing; therefore, we look to others and to think like them.
We really are different and unique, each one of us; however, by trying to be like others, by following a belief, a philosophy, a behavior which is not truly ours we become distanced from ourselves and from our uniqueness. The world is full of people who seek an identity outside themselves, in a crowd, in culture, in tradition, in religion, in politics. This brings them more emptiness and loneliness. Happiness is in discovering yourself, to stand on your own, to lead your own thinking and feeling, to create better behaviors based on your uniqueness. Trying to copy others dulls the mind, and it makes the emptiness, the frustration, the loneliness stronger in you.
There is nothing more important in life than to be and feel whole, to discover ourselves by taking care of ourselves. Don’t focus on others, on what philosophers say, on what religions say, on what groups of people (whoever these groups are) say. Life is about being happy, and to be truly happy one must learn to think for oneself. There is no normal. We are all different. Think for yourself and don’t seek to copy the “normal” offered by society, by your family, by politics and religion. Nothing will make you whole, able to feel successful and happy, unless it is your own unbiased thinking. Forge your own path. It works for me. It will do so for you as well.
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