“What if I cannot do it??” “And what if he/she does not return my feelings??” “My life is already too difficult and I cannot do more!” “What if they do not like me??” “What if they don’t take me seriously??” “What if I am not good enough??” “I cannot accomplish my dreams ever.”… Too many “What if” and “cannot,” don’t you agree…?? So, let us think with clarity stepping out from any fear your mind might have, just for a moment– Who says “What if” and “cannot”…?? Who brings you down…?? Who gives you these defeating ideas and fears which keep your body paralyzed…?? Is it your mind/your ego/the one who likes to keep the status quo and things as they are…??
And we can all agree that sometimes, just a few times, fear may help us get inner strength and maybe also get some good analysis and critique of our situations; nevertheless, you must see that it can also cripple you and make you feel worthless, it can degrade you and tell you lies through overthinking and images of really damaging and speculative imagination. And imagination is a divine gift but also a curse.” Think about this for a second. Realize what it means for yourself.
Your ego does not know the real you, your mind is the content of the world, the content of your experiences, the content of what you have been taught and given by example since childhood; thus, your mind cannot actually see reality, it cannot see you and all you are. Your mind is in charge to protect you, and that is why it is bound to keep you safe and sound by not allowing you to see all you could be and accomplish if you dare say “I love you” to someone, or “I am a god or goddess” to yourself in all situations, or “I will get this!” to your passionate drive, or “I can overcome all my losses and challenges” to your aching heart or to the ego who produces this pain.
The ego works with imagination, your mind is imagination–imagination to create, to find greater ways to love, to accomplish more. But imagination which is not controlled or disciplined, but ruled by your ego, is tyranny which enslaves you and keeps you chained to a mental desk; it brings out voices of despair, of sadness, of misery, of hopelessness… This you must see and discipline your mind so you do not fall onto this trap; because you must recognize between the voices of your ego and the whispers of your Higher Self…
If I watch somebody else’s suffering, whether a human or animal or a tree being destroyed, and I feel as One with great empathy in my heart towards that being’s suffering–that is a prayer. If I keep a clear and truthful mind which sees through my own ego’s selfishness and frustrations–that is a prayer. If I consider my own body and mind sacred as the temple of the true God in me, so I eat healthily and feed my mind with compassion for others and for myself–that is a prayer. If I control my emotional reactions towards others and accept my own flaws and work on them–that is a prayer.
This is an example of what prayer really is. Because the ignorant people of the world believes prayer is a ritual, whether kneeling and repeating like a parrot stupid words or thinking about some saint and holding some religious object; however, this is the fantasy and ignorance of the ego, this is blasphemous and based on fear. The real prayer is Enlightenment, it is based on love, pure love for yourself and for all beings; therefore, the real prayer begins as a thought in your mind, then it turns into your better behavior–you eat right, you take care of your mind, you love yourself in all aspects, and thus this love expands onto others (thus it blesses others). Have you ever known real prayer then…?? Or are you still stuck in the prayer of the ignorant followers of the world…??
When you start living based on truth and see through the laziness and conditioning of your own ego, you will know true prayer; but until then you are bound to rituals, to empty words and religious views. Perhaps you are not religious per se, but still the influence of religions in this world is so vast that you see people kneeling and chanting mantras, baptizing themselves in some holy water nonsense, humiliating themselves in front of a crucified Jesus figure, or talking to some fantastical god in the clouds, and your own mind starts believing these forms to be prayers. These may fill the people with faith and good feelings, but these are just based on fear–they do this because everybody does it, they do this because it makes them feel superior as saints and good people, there is a selfish sentiment there, “I am doing it so people see me,” “I am a good person, a good saintly person,” “Look how devout I am, I deserve blessings!”
Do you see the mindset of these man-made creations…?? These people “pray” like this, as empty, as repetitive, as mere followers of some popular trend, and then what…?? They go home and treat their own bodies (their temples) as amusement–they think negatively, they argue, they eat greedily and unhealthily, they hate each other, they support wars and prejudice amongst different peoples, etc. Think about it carefully, answer yourself: Is this really praying…?? Do you pray like this…??
What is the daily task of the human being…?? Why do you have to become aware of the very thoughts which you attend…??
As your mind molds and shapes, gives intention and quality to raw energy, thoughts are given birth and summoned, consciously and subconsciously; then images appear, inventive or imaginative scenarios pop up in the vapors of your mind. And now that important and even vital factor we call attention comes into play, and as the new thoughts vibrate attention comes like the moth to the flame, sometimes unbeknownst to us as this happens quicker in the unaware individual. Attention is that which gives further boost of energy to a thought and makes it stronger, such strength in desire and passion; attention takes the thought-form from a mere essence in your mind into a passionate feeling which vibrates with great intensity. How intense…?? It depends on the thought.
It is then up to us to be aware and awake to the thoughts we allow attention to make powerful. We all know of the downfall of man, that the very thought which he attends and gives affection becomes his very destiny, whether sealed misery or sealed happiness he makes his own fate.
Mental forces are the very magical vehicle to create in your life, are they not…?? You must master these forces then, do you not…??
These forces are vibratory excitation, quantum particles given intensity to attract other, same-vibrational forces and repel those that vibrate at a different rate. The task of the human being given higher intelligence, endowed with the mighty will, or the mystical power of attention, is to become self-aware and recognize these forces as quickly as these thoughts are given birth and allowed to swim in the waters of your mind… You must keep a meditative mind and become aware of how your mind brings about thought-forms at all times, in order for you to realize and lead a positive and blissful life you can truly love…
One day a samurai came to Zen Master Hakuin and asked, “Where is paradise…?? Where is hell…?? And where are the gates of heaven and hell..??” The Zen Master looked a bit surprised, then asked, “Who are you??” Then the samurai proudly replied, “I am the leader of samurais and the Emperor pays tribute to my greatness.” Hakuin laughed and said, “Are you really the leader of samurais…?? You look like some poor ragamuffin!”
The samurai’s pride was hurt. He forgot why he had come in the first place, whipped out his sword and was going to kill Hakuin. Then Hakuin laughed again and said, “This is the gate of hell. With a sword, being in anger, with your ego you will open it. ” The samurai realized that idea, calmed down and sheathed back his sword. Hakuin continued, “And now, when you calm down, you open the gate of heaven.”
Your mind is the playground of demons and angels, the birth of heaven and hell, the origin of duality; and this is your very humanity screaming and pulling you to one extreme of the pole or to the other. And thoughts are your masters when you are asleep (when the human mind is in a mediocre state). And thoughts become your servants when you are awake (when the human mind has been lit by divinity and wisdom). One must see that thoughts do not have a reality of their own until you give them one, they remain part of you as your children–children you must watch and raise properly.
It is important you wake up to this and see that the thoughts you are having now must not become your masters and overwhelm you; but see, observe, meditate over each thought, raise your child properly, and discover that you must mature yourself over them. You must become a light unto each thought you choose, so you can create your feelings, own your behaviors, build your path with wisdom and truth instead of immaturity and lies.
“We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.” ~ Santosh Kalwar; software engineer, entrepreneur, philosopher, and poet.
Physical reality is your consciousness taking a specific focus, it is a reflection of the frequency that your consciousness puts out, like an image in a mirror. There is actually nothing out there, outside of you. It is all inside your own consciousness…
Most negative thoughts, as psychology tells us, are the result of childhood traumas, of our hidden subconscious persona, of the influence of others, of our lack of self-compassion and whatnot. Do you realize this as you react and behave…?? So, most of the time negative thoughts just appear “out-of-nowhere,” cross the edge between dark and light in the vast dimension of the mind, even so as we are feeling content and happy with what we are doing. And, let me remind you, this is why great thinkers have in the past stressed: ‘You are not your thoughts.’
Daily focusing upon conditions and experiences we love to create with calmness of spirit and peace of mind, profound self-compassion and acceptance of our own flaws and mistakes in life is called meditative practice; something closely related to mindfulness. And it is a self-reflective contemplation of one’s own state of mind, including emotions and thoughts. This is also, in a sense, why we are not our thoughts, because we can stop ourselves, watch our breathing patterns thus slowing our minds. We are certainly the watchers of ourselves, are we not…?? And isn’t God’s divine function to watch over us…?? Are we God then…?? I am a god every day. Are you…??
The edge between our thoughts is the line between that which brings intense stress and anxiety (fear) and that which brings total peace and bliss (love)–i.,e., a harmonious state of just being with yourself and creating how you feel. This is based upon our creativity and self-love because we must imagine mentally with detail and color what we want to experience in our bodies just as the master painter must see the painting in his head to then transfer it into the blank canvas. This is somewhat akin to the Law of Attraction or to the Law of Creation… Unless you practice daily this in your mind and create your own reality, you will suffer the reality of your memories and that of others…
You are made of vibrations. Your experiences are made of vibrations. The whole world is made of vibrations. So, it is vital for us to understand that because we are vibrations, then it is all about lower and higher vibrations, or it is all about the “manipulation” or management of these vibrations: The lower the vibration, the less spiritually awake we are, thus the less love and happiness we are able to experience. The higher the vibration, the more spiritually awake we are, thus the more love and happiness we are able to experience… Can you see this yourself…??
Humans are more complex beings, right…?? Animals and nature in general can access easier the management of their vibrations, they are more in tune with their godly states–i.e., less knowledge and intelligence means more innocence and simplicity. But we humans eat everything, go everywhere, create hell or heaven, read, have more intricate languages, our egos are much more poisonous, etc. etc.
And for that reason, we must be highly self-aware of the management of our vibrations; and so, you can see the turmoil and stupidity of the world we have made, because most of us do not know, or even ignore, the better management of our own vibrations–in health of body and mind, in thinking patterns, in words or language, in behaviors, in all emotional understanding. Much discipline is lacking in the common individual, is it not…??
So, in your daily living become self-aware, lead yourself to higher vibrations in order to be absolute and enjoy wholeness; but do not seek excuses because of age, culture, race, origin, gender, health. Excuses are just stupid and pointless, you are just lying to yourself; for no matter what your situation is in life, you can always be self-aware and manage yourself to higher vibrations… It all starts in your mind…
“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.” ~ Buddha.
Is an expectation real in itself…?? Is an expectation an attachment to a mere mental image…?? What causes someone to expect anything and lean on that expectation…??
The human being is ruled by his psyche, thus his thoughts in time become his greatest influences, his past and future slave-drivers; and so, this causes his ego to be as powerful as he ignorantly desires, for he lives overwhelmed by these entities called thoughts, which are always trying to escape reality by imagining, expecting, desiring, reliving past miseries or joys. But it is indeed this past and future seeking which causes all illusion in man, is it not…??
Expectation, for example, is an image formed in the mind, a mere construct of a future as seen through the eyes of the thought-illusion/thought-form. An expectation then is a strong desire projected into a future, and all projections are not realities (whether possible or not); consequently, this is attachment to this particular projected image, which in most cases brings a false sense of security and joy, or anxiety and misery, for as long as the projected image is given power and full attention.
To be free is an absolute state of present awareness where you entertain your behaviors in the Now, and where the mind is filled with love for what is happening around you instead of being filled with anxiety and the various forms of fear, pleasure and pain, which the past and the future hold.
It is extremely important to restrain ourselves from mentally roaming and living in an expectation, thus transforming ourselves into the awareness of this moment and so love and appreciate what is happening around us, whether positive or negative, seeing it as a blessing and a lesson.
“Whatever it is you’re seeking won’t come in the form you’re expecting.” ~ Haruki Murakami; Japanese writer.
Isn’t a thought of misery what makes life miserable…?? And isn’t a thought of joy what makes life joyful…?? Are thoughts how you experience life then…??
Your life is indeed seen through the screen of your mind, and whether that screen is filthy or not is what you will experience in life; so, life in its nature, as it happens around you, is neutral, neither positive nor negative, but the color of your screen, or depending on how clean or filthy it is, is what shall make the difference of your unique experience. Can you understand this…??
And certainly life can become a hell when our thoughts disturb us and get the worst reactions from us, but we may say that this is the extremely powerful illusion of our egos, which choose how to see life. Because the mind sees life in terms of time, thus past and future, what was and what will be but never what actually is; for what actually is right now is added flavor by a thought of the past pressuring you or a thought of a future making you anxious. If you are actually absorbed in the present, without thoughts from the past or the future, you are fine and without stress, are you not…??
The present moment, not 1 second before and not 1 second after but the very Now, is devoid or absolutely free of time and fear and all its forms of stress; furthermore, this Now is where your very existence is, is where happiness and love can be found within you, and this Now is the origin of all what life is. The Now is life. The past and future are not life, but they are constructs of your mind, of your ego and its screen… Ask yourself: “Have I ever actually lived the past or the future…?? Or have I lived always the present moment, the Now, and my mind designs the illusion of past and future…??“…Think about it deeply…
And so, to master life, to really enjoy life no matter the situation, you must see life as a lesson to deeper understanding, something to experience and to free you from thinking too much; which is what creates regrets and all stress in the first place, thinking too much and getting lost in your thinking…
Remind yourself then that life is to be experienced and understood. No more and no less…
“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” ~ Omar Khayyam; Persian mathematician, astronomer, and poet.
Thoughts, words, intentions, sincere or not, might be important to you, as a reason for hope, as senders of trust, as a message for or from someone you love felt in the moment; however, as I have said it before, all these are conditioned to the past because as soon as you pronounce them or feel them they are gone, up and down just like a roller coaster, and also they are attached to time, to your current moods, feelings.They are not actual experiences, they can mean something today and tomorrow something different, and the day after that they can be gone, forgotten.
The experience, the action based on love, as an apology, is the real thing; therefore; change is now, change is not of time, change is not tied to a word, a desire, a mere intention, change is eternal.
There is always change, moving forward onto better things, as life itself is change, as you bring love into the world by change, as you make others feel loved by your change; for this change says “I love you so much, I care so much, that I change and better myself for all of us; for I truly love myself.”
Change based on love then is what really builds and communicates a deeper connection–in friendship, in family, in marriages, in all relationships. But to change a behavior you must focus with steely determination and rest upon great motivation, become aware of your situation, feel in your heart the need and the want to change for your good and for the good of others. And the secret of change is not to do it solely for others, because if you do then at some point in time you will change back, you will allow your ego to pull you back into what you were before; because this change is superficial and based on fear and not love–fear because you are changing to please others, maybe because you want their love, their attention, popularity, etc. But true change is based on love, self-love; you do it for yourself, because you want to change, because you love yourself and you want to become better for yourself; furthermore, when you do this for yourself is true love because you do not get tired of working to better yourself, it makes you happy, and so it makes others happy.
That is why, in all honesty, if you want to trust, know, love and relate yourself with people, perhaps begin or strengthen a relationship also, always look at their actions, their behavior, as you change your behaviors as well; thus, never fully rely and love a word, a message, however loving and sincere. Trust the truth, which is changed behavior; because changed behavior is an actual display of love. And isn’t true love an action and not merely a word…??
“Apologies are great, but they don’t really change anything. You know what does?: Action.” ~ Stella Young; Australian comedian, journalist and disability rights activist.
“It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher.” ~ Joe Vitale; American life coach, teacher, and Law of Attraction author.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right.” ~ Henry Ford; American captain of industry, business magnate–the founder of the Ford Motor Company, and the sponsor of the development of the assembly line technique of mass production.
Impossible things to accomplish and irrational fears are created by the human mind, and the human mind is tied and under the influence of time and space (thoughts only exist because there is time and space, and vice versa); and time and space, as we all can understand, are not eternal realities, they are constructs which help develop our humanity, but they remain as chains because for as long as time and space exists, for as long as we have a human mind and decaying flesh, as awakened as one can be, there will always exist fear and doubt. Something which is not an eternal reality brings duality, and duality brings all fear and doubt.
So, allowing your mind to be positive and to desire for the best to come to you without overthinking–because overthinking brings doubt and fear–is to live without resistance, it is to flow with what is, it is to step out of your thoughts, out of your own head and accept whatever comes to you.
When you do this, your heart and your positive mindset become powerful magnets in attracting better opportunities and people to you; however, concealing and entertaining negative thinking, confusion, doubt, and the feelings which come with it, make you a repellent for better things and a magnet for what you fear might happen.
Obviously it is extremely hard to remain positive and appreciative of life when you have all these pressures daily, but if your life is to get better you must do this and stay patiently with it; therefore, you must be diligent in your new views of a healthier thinking, and bring those thoughts and feelings into your daily behavior as well.