The path to awaken from the slumber of thousands of years is not to fill the mind with knowledge and the experience of others, but it is the transition or passage from living in your mind to becoming acquainted with your emotional body. The body has intelligence, but the mind is only a bundle of memories without intelligence–it is the past and also the imagination of a future. To live in the head is what most people do in the world today, and as a result the same world is chaos–i.e., wars, religious and political division, intolerance, no comprehension of what love really is, etc. etc.
To see this in oneself and change! Change without a second thought or stubbornness. Change without blaming others. This is moving from your head/from your ego to your body/to your pure emotional content. And greater empathy and understanding shall fill your whole being then…
“The transmutation most pure.”
Of the earth I was once born And to the earth I shall return; Like the seed deep in the soil, As the seed forms into a flower– But what happens in between, What occurs as my mind develops, What befalls the blooming flower…?? Under time, self-awareness every hour.
Thus an awakening of the whole human being, An elevation of the very mind I must be seeing; For the mind is the greatest challenge to endure, For Awakening is the transmutation most pure. From the head to the heart, from ego to spirit, As I carry my burdens and seek my answers, It is the manifestation of love without fear, It is the mystical path which brings cheer.
You try to change her. She tries to change you. Both resist each other, both are stubborn to love or both lack the greater understanding of love. Resistance in the mind, in life in general, means there is fear, there is no acceptance, there is no understanding; furthermore, no relationship can really become strong, as One, as it should under the power of true love, if you cannot allow differences to enrich your very experience. Differences give you tolerance, wisdom, a different perspective in life, and freedom from your own ego.
And if you cannot allow differences to enrich your experience, and thus make you wiser, vaster in knowledge, greater in understanding, more accepting, more loving, is because you let fear and its impositions build your “relationships” and not love. Love is about freedom, which is freedom to be oneself; see, love only emanates love, it does not expect anything in return, because love is a concentrated force which is happy giving more and more. Why try to change others…?? Why not practicing a deeper capacity for love which focuses on just the process of evolving this same love…??
The individual tries to change the world because he does not like it, because he pays more attention to the pain and suffering in the world he sees out there. Everybody thinks like this. Each person tries to change others. But the illusion is in believing there is a world out there which is not you. So there is never a change. But the world is really inside you, so you change yourself. Do not ignorantly chase the reflection you see out there and try to change it, because the reflection changes once you truly change yourself–you are the origin of the reflection.
And this is the biggest relationship trouble, obstacle to happiness; everybody points a finger, every idiot believes there is an inferior person or an inferior world out there that they must change. But, the opposite is true, in changing yourself you invite true love into your heart, and this love then grows in you and brings acceptance, truth, wisdom. And as I personally know, this acceptance is what creates divine and wonderful relationships where you truly see the face of God as you evolve into a better human being.
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” ~ George Orwell; English novelist, essayist, journalist, and critic.
Thoughts are obsessive seekers, as in to become something, to find answers to something, to be guided by something, to attain something, are they not…?? And what are then human beings if not seekers, always searching and desiring to be taken somewhere by the hand…?? But true love and happiness reside beyond seeking, beyond the never-ending struggle for more. Have you realized that within you yet…??
That is the whole problem, as people spend their lives thinking for too long and asking others, always seeking for the thrill of the answer from others, never actually bringing change to their lives, missing the proactive way of living.
When most people think about meditation, thoughts come up, questions fog the answers, thus they seek without actually seeing the truth of it. They desire to know how. Techniques. What happens in meditation. What does meditation bring. How can they start. And they get answers from somebody else, they never meditate on them, and then they continue seeking and asking the same questions over and over again. And this does not bring any change into their lives, but it only fuels more questioning, more empty seeking, and more frustration because they are not developing the way they must.
It is Being, meditation is. Right now your intellect agrees with me; meditation is Being. But you really don’t know what Being really is, do you…?? You need to have the actual experience to realize in your heart what it means, and you haven’t meditated. Or have you seriously, deeply meditated…?? …
The witness knows all. Fish, sharks, whales, they all swim and roam the waters of the big ocean; so, they know only what they see and experience as they are swimming by, going from here to there. But the ocean waters stay always there, they witness the moon, the sun, the storm, the rain, the cold, the heat, and all beings swimming in them. They never change. The ocean waters are the ultimate witness.
Your thoughts are the beings swimming, and you are what holds them, what witness them. You are indeed the unchanging witness. And to know the silent and wise, Enlightened and divine, witness that you are, you must go beyond the beings swimming, you must be one with meditation. The witness has no questions, knows no effort, brings no fear and anxiety. The witness is life itself without the fogginess and chaos created by your humanity…\
Now, would you experience it yourself…??
“You should not be carried away by the dictation of the mind, but the mind should be carried by your dictation.” ~ A.C Bhaktivedanta Swami; Indian Gaudiya Vaishnavism spiritual teacher, guru, founder preceptor (Acharya) of the International Society for Krishna Consciousness, and author.
Thoughts, words, intentions, sincere or not, might be important to you, as a reason for hope, as senders of trust, as a message for or from someone you love felt in the moment; however, as I have said it before, all these are conditioned to the past because as soon as you pronounce them or feel them they are gone, up and down just like a roller coaster, and also they are attached to time, to your current moods, feelings.They are not actual experiences, they can mean something today and tomorrow something different, and the day after that they can be gone, forgotten.
All that is of time and space–i.e., thoughts, words, intentions, ideas, etc.–is not real, such not real in the sense that these are tied to moods of change, to views and opinions. The only thing that is real, eternal in the moment when is actually done, is action, behavior. Just like love, changed behavior, action, creates something real, brings evolution, brings the truth out. Always look for and create yourself change in order to love yourself and another; because the rest is truly meaningless.
The experience, the action based on love, as an apology, is the real thing; therefore; change is now, change is not of time, change is not tied to a word, a desire, a mere intention, change is eternal.
There is always change, moving forward onto better things, as life itself is change, as you bring love into the world by change, as you make others feel loved by your change; for this change says “I love you so much, I care so much, that I change and better myself for all of us; for I truly love myself.”
Change based on love then is what really builds and communicates a deeper connection–in friendship, in family, in marriages, in all relationships. But to change a behavior you must focus with steely determination and rest upon great motivation, become aware of your situation, feel in your heart the need and the want to change for your good and for the good of others. And the secret of change is not to do it solely for others, because if you do then at some point in time you will change back, you will allow your ego to pull you back into what you were before; because this change is superficial and based on fear and not love–fear because you are changing to please others, maybe because you want their love, their attention, popularity, etc. But true change is based on love, self-love; you do it for yourself, because you want to change, because you love yourself and you want to become better for yourself; furthermore, when you do this for yourself is true love because you do not get tired of working to better yourself, it makes you happy, and so it makes others happy.
That is why, in all honesty, if you want to trust, know, love and relate yourself with people, perhaps begin or strengthen a relationship also, always look at their actions, their behavior, as you change your behaviors as well; thus, never fully rely and love a word, a message, however loving and sincere. Trust the truth, which is changed behavior; because changed behavior is an actual display of love. And isn’t true love an action and not merely a word…??
“Apologies are great, but they don’t really change anything. You know what does?: Action.” ~ Stella Young; Australian comedian, journalist and disability rights activist.
To be stubborn and set in your own ways, beliefs, memories, lifestyle, and so forth, is to allow your mind to rust and to cut its own growth; for true development is adaptation to change, new ways of thought, new views, and the courage and determination to learn from your past.
You must stop your rushing mind, which is always active and filled with ideas and beliefs, and look back into the past, do not dwell there but learn, absorb the lessons in order to grow in the present.
Life has a way to be, and that way is wise, that way is the way to progress, to happiness, to success; so, you have to learn from life, throw away your assumptions and ways of behaving, watch yourself that you do not make the same mistakes from the past, teach yourself new ways to create your path.
Stop suffering in the same vicious cycle, get out of your comfort zone, create a new way which fits the new day; however, so many people do not see this, they remain stubborn and trapped in the illusion of their own egos, going nowhere but telling themselves that their way works better. Such pride is what kills the human spirit, because such pride traps the human mind and so freedom vanishes.
So many beautiful and creative things, relationships, deep thoughts, habits, can be built out of the deep love for change and the learning from the past. Remind yourself that change is the very beauty of life, because change and the adaptation to change yourself is what life tries to teach you with every breath you take.
It is why you are here, to master change, and to change for the best.
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” ~ George Bernard Shaw; Irish playwright, critic, polemicist, and political activist.
“To say of what is that it is not, or of what is not that it is, is false, while to say of what is that it is, and of what is not that it is not, is true.” ~ Aristotle.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” ~ Marcus Aurelius.
The Way of The Warrior
One cannot simply survive and each day hope for the best without altering what one does, but one must do anew, change one’s actions, change one’s ideas, become a warrior in one’s own life. To see life with different eyes, fresh eyes, such eyes that are not exhausted by stubborn views and oppressing situations; therefore, a new breath must bring a fresh start, which means boldly gather yourself and keep making yourself better without stopping to self-pity or to entertain the opinions of others.
Opinions are never facts for the warrior who is wise and based on truth, so opinions do not shake him one bit when the fools of the world open their mouths to spew their ego-centered garbage.
When everyone else sees darkness and chaos, you must see light and order; thus, your mind becomes the mind of a warrior whose only purpose is the truth. And the truth is that which lies within yourself, and the truth is what makes the warrior because self-love is the truth; then, whenever you see lies and deceit in the world, whenever people and situations try to pressure you into lying to yourself, into deviating from your own path, your mind will be strong and firm upon the truth which is deep within you.
This is what separates the warrior who sees and knows the light from the individual who only survives in the darkness because he does not see and know the light in himself; thus, the warrior is never lost, and the individual in darkness is lost even until physical death comes to claim him, and when that happens the fool has lost his time.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~ Lao-Tzu.
“Your problem is you are too busy holding on to your unworthiness.” ~ Ram Dass.
It is attachment to someone or to the idea of a relationship the one thing who distances you from self-love, and it clouds your rationale because it fills your mind with desire and obsession.
When this happens you only see and feel what your ego designs, and so you start believing you are being guided by your heart when you are being fooled by your own selfish ego.
If another does not accept you how you are, if they force you to change, if they are always arguing and complaining about the way you are, then it means there is no love from their part; and you must love yourself enough to end the relationship. Because happiness is not something you should struggle for, or beg for, and specially you must understand that happiness is self-love. And how can you have self-love if you allow yourself to be forced to change and be controlled by someone who says he/she loves you…??
Life is not meant to be hell, unhappy, chained to struggle and suffering; but life is meant for you be yourself and surround yourself with people who really understand you and support your happiness. Thus, life is meant for you to elevate yourself in self-love and wisdom.
Communicate how you feel deep inside to others, let him/her know your innermost thoughts and feelings, and if there is no change in how you are being treated, then you will know that there exists no real love in the relationship.
You must then do whatever is better for your own development, focus on your inner peace and embrace a strong self-love. This is key to be happy and grow as a human being.
“Aging gracefully means being flexible, being open, allowing change, enjoying change and loving yourself.” ~ Wendy Whelan; American ballet dancer.
“Ultimately spiritual awareness unfolds when you’re flexible, when you’re spontaneous, when you’re detached, when you’re easy on yourself and easy on others.” ~ Deepak Chopra; Indian-American author, public speaker, alternative medicine advocate, and prominent figure in the New Age movement.
Life is all about creation, change, always moving forwards; and one must measure up to life by assimilating this ongoing change, by building new ideas, by adopting new lifestyles, by acquiring fit approaches to understand life’s new challenges and events.
Let me tell you now, whoever does not see life each day as new, as the tides of the ocean are new, is not adapting and enjoying a full life.
In order to adapt and become flexible, you must not hold firm and stubborn to beliefs and ideas, to lifestyles and expectations; but you must allow your mind to be free of these chains, be an open mind, adapt to new views and stop expecting people and life to support you and give you what your ego thinks you deserve.
Wake up and recognize that you drive your own life, that you choose to adapt or not, and that nothing outside of yourself has real power but what you allow it to have.
There is a vast source of energy for adaptation to change which lives beyond the beliefs and ideas of your mind, and this vast source does not have anything to do with your outside situations and environment.
You must then reach deep within and love yourself enough to let your mind be silent and free of loud thoughts, then you must calm yourself and realize that change is good for your human development, for no happiness or great achievements can be embraced without having a mind that is truly free to change with life.
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” ~ George Bernard Shaw; Irish playwright, critic and polemicist.
“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash… Become like water, my friend.”
All over the world people confuse intelligence with knowledge–i.e., knowledge is information, rigid data which serves a purpose in analyzing and categorizing certain constructs and patterns; but, on the other hand, intelligence goes beyond it, because it is our inner strength and our imagination at work here, our adaptability to change, and the realization that life is ever moving forwards like the the wise but steady flow of a beautiful river.
It is not intelligence to have memory and recite Shakespeare or do math equations, because these are patterns you can re-construct and analyze in your mind from a data-base in this same conscious mind–most likely learned from school, a teacher, or a book. This is what the world praises and recognizes as intelligence and genius, but this is just the seat of thought/the ego–our conscious thought is just the surface of our mind/our humanity, but intelligence lies beyond the surface. Take for example your human body–even though ignorant people think you are what you see in the mirror, you really are the energy moving your body/the divine energy within each cell making up the physical body.
The photo below clearly states that intelligence is the ability to adapt to change, such ability that we all have; however, many people fall trap of a lazy and comfortable ego, they are attached to cultures and lifestyles, to traditions and memories, and they suffer because of this neglectful process against experiencing a richer, wiser life. Happiness, absolute bliss can only be embraced and experienced if we move along with life, within its wisdom and without being attached to something in the past.
It is the wise sage the one who sees change and enjoys change, because he knows that in this hides the secret to enjoy the eternal present which moves ever forward with life.
“There’s a natural law of karma that vindictive people, who go out of their way to hurt others, will end up broke and alone.” ~ Sylvester Stallone; actor, producer, and director.
“Change is the only universal law.” ~ Egyptian footballer.
There are many people in the world who do no realize that life is progress, change, adaptation; thus, this people seem to choose to remain attach to memories of events, objects, ways of living, beliefs, ideas, and even to people who are not in their lives anymore.
Attachment to these memories is extremely foolish and unwise, not only because you go against the natural forward flow of life, but because you spread poison into the lives of the ones around you. Remember, you guide others with your example; and if you are stuck in a belief, a memory, or a lifestyle, then you carry no real light in your example.
Carry the light of thriving change, of great adaptation, and transform your life and the life of others around you.
In adaptation to all these changes there is great wisdom hidden, because this is the way life itself teaches wisdom, through change, through new perspectives, through minds which can let go of stupid and old dogmas and beliefs, cultural habits and lifestyles.
Whosoever adapts to change and learns from this change without disturbing the peace of others, respecting the way others choose to live, indeed, he is enlightened.
Bruce Lee puts it so beautifully when he talks about the mind in change, adaptation, in this quote: “You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”
- Asa Rodriguez - 