Into a better human being…

You try to change her. She tries to change you. Both resist each other, both are stubborn to love or both lack the greater understanding of love. Resistance in the mind, in life in general, means there is fear, there is no acceptance, there is no understanding; furthermore, no relationship can really become strong, as One, as it should under the power of true love, if you cannot allow differences to enrich your very experience. Differences give you tolerance, wisdom, a different perspective in life, and freedom from your own ego.

And if you cannot allow differences to enrich your experience, and thus make you wiser, vaster in knowledge, greater in understanding, more accepting, more loving, is because you let fear and its impositions build your “relationships” and not love. Love is about freedom, which is freedom to be oneself; see, love only emanates love, it does not expect anything in return, because love is a concentrated force which is happy giving more and more. Why try to change others…?? Why not practicing a deeper capacity for love which focuses on just the process of evolving this same love…??

The individual tries to change the world because he does not like it, because he pays more attention to the pain and suffering in the world he sees out there. Everybody thinks like this. Each person tries to change others. But the illusion is in believing there is a world out there which is not you. So there is never a change. But the world is really inside you, so you change yourself. Do not ignorantly chase the reflection you see out there and try to change it, because the reflection changes once you truly change yourself–you are the origin of the reflection.

And this is the biggest relationship trouble, obstacle to happiness; everybody points a finger, every idiot believes there is an inferior person or an inferior world out there that they must change. But, the opposite is true, in changing yourself you invite true love into your heart, and this love then grows in you and brings acceptance, truth, wisdom. And as I personally know, this acceptance is what creates divine and wonderful relationships where you truly see the face of God as you evolve into a better human being.

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