Whatever we do not tolerate, or find truly annoying or disruptive in others, is a mirror to ourselves, it speaks to our higher conscience, it tells us that we must adapt, tolerate, or just walk away. A mirror to ourselves is a reflection of something WE have to change within ourselves, something that we see in others and annoys us (annoys our ego); but, of course, the ego, which is always seeking to blame others and seeking to feel comfortable itself, as a measure of security, conditioning, will tell us that we must not change but that others must change to fit our own lifestyle or own daily living.
Your mind, your ego, is the one which finds faults in others, and which feels frustration, and which feels anxiety and all anger, is it not…?? You are in charge of your ego, are you not…?? So, change! Take responsibility for what you think, for how you feel. Your mind expands with understanding, and in understanding and accepting others you are understanding and accepting yourself. Can you see this yourself…?? “We are one” is not just some spiritual or New Age philosophical saying or romantic phrase that’s popular. Have you ever thought about it in deep…?? I know you have heard about “we are one.” So what does it mean then…??
How did Osho, or Jesus, or Buddha, or any Enlightened Master talked to a group and yet the message felt as if directed to each individual…?? They only knew themselves, they didn’t know you; and yet they knew you and all of society from all ages. How…?? With observance of others, with tolerance and appreciation of others’ flaws and strengths, the conscience becomes illumined, the ego is thrown off its throne, you become patient and realize that in others you see your own thoughts, your own feelings, your own soul. If you truly observe the behavior of others without ego, without the voices in your head which complain and bring anger when something irritates you, you will realize what I am saying here, you will come to a deeper understanding than any intellectual one can give you.
I am talking about an emotional understanding which is not guided and ruled by your ego. I am talking about an emotional mirror where you can actually see your own faults and the changes you must make within yourself when you truly observe others. Your ego fights, argues, gets irritated, blames others, and so it depresses you; and if you step out of your ego then a deeper understanding of yourself will light your conscience–i.e., an awakening of conscience.
Who is your anger affecting really…?? Is anger the solution to a problem…?? When you are angry can you think clearly and make rational choices…??
Anger is also a condition in ourselves, a brain conditioning, a personality condition to explode and kill all patience and deeper understanding. Anger is a weakness, even though some ignorant people out there might think anger is a macho thing for the strong, and such is because anger robs us of all mental clarity and love to understand, compassion and humility to accept what has been and what it was; furthermore, anger is a weakness also because it is an intense feeling without control and without guidance, because anger destroys and it does not create.
Anger makes us ugly and powerless, it shows us how little we know about ourselves and about each other, and how immature and impatient we are; and so, it also disconnect us from reality to move forward, because anger leaves us stranded on a past memory, dwelling on it over and over again while we distance people. And relationship building, a deeper connection with ourselves and with others, is what this life is about, is it not…??
Anger originates from fear, insecurity, frustration, lack of inner peace and confusion; furthermore, emotions drive us, they are the content of our personalities, so when those emotions are not explored, when you bottle those emotions deep inside or run away from them is when you become a ticking time bomb, ready to hurt yourself, even though you don’t consciously realize it, and ready to damage your relationships.
So, even though at the start is difficult, be at peace and breathe deeply before following intense emotions of memories or when interacting to the reaction of others; for patience is gained through practice, and it is strengthened through commitment to peace and harmony of mind, which is true self-love while you live the moment with acceptance. This is real strength, to be in total control.
Are you strong or weak….?? And if you are weak, would you change your ways for yourself…??
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson; American essayist, lecturer, philosopher and poet.
“What is tolerance? It is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty and error; let us pardon reciprocally each other’s folly. That is the first law of nature.” ~ Voltaire; French Enlightenment writer, historian, and philosopher.
It is really easy to give in to anger and all sorts of anxiety, specially when dealing with really stubborn and illogical people–i.e., people of set beliefs, fixed ideas, attached to traditions of old, and all this nonsense people fall into out of sheer ignorance and a lazy mind. Basically most people fall into this category, but quite often these still can be good and decent people, people who try to do their best even with the mental conditioning they have, and sometimes people do not try to even do their best. It can be really frustrating to deal with this erratic crowd.
But we have to remind ourselves that people come from all sorts of places, environments, families, and with all different experiences that have shaped their minds one way or the other; so, for better or worse, these individuals must be seen from a psychological level, not just to understand what we can understand about them but to keep your own mind in peace when dealing with them.
And your mind must remain in peace and harmony, because, even though it can be difficult at times, it is all about you and not them, it is all about communion with yourself through a mind which is not in any agitation whatsoever.
Each one of us has a purpose for being the way we are, and we may not understand why this or that person reacts one way or the other, or why this or that person thinks one way or the other; however, life is conscious and wise, and it is not our business or concern to straighten them out or make them better. Your only concern must be your own self and to show respect and love for people, and if they don’t care for you then just walk away and keep your ego tamed.
Watch your own ego, which always wants to fix everything and everybody.
“When the dog looks at you, the dog is not thinking what kind of a person you are. The dog is not judging you. We have much to learn from a simple dog.” ~ Eckhart Tolle; German-Canadian spiritual teacher, public speaker, and author.
“I hate prejudice, discrimination, and snobbishness of any kind, it always reflects on the person judging and not the person being judged. Everyone should be treated equally.” ~ Gordon Brown; British politician.
Life allows us to make different paths, and that exactly shapes people, and by the choices we make under any circumstance we are forging our journey along this path; this is something unique which is the heart of our level of living and understanding.
And nobody is better than anybody due to having different experiences; we are all different, perhaps with a lower or higher thinking depth, perhaps we have taken our time to meditate on ourselves or not, but we are all here to learn from our unique and challenging experiences.
Sometimes people make the mistake of seeing a rich person, a bully, an angry person, a hateful person, etc., and think that they have it easy or that they are evil because of their words or because of the violence they commit. But, the truth that your untainted heart knows, and that your ego may quarrel with, is that we have all gone through experiences and lifestyles that have shaped us as the human beings we presently are, and many times the choices we have made out of ignorance were not the best ones.
But whether you understand this and tolerate it or not is a reflection of you, not of the people you judge.
This speaks of your own knowledge of self and of the control you have of your mind, such must be always a peaceful and harmonious mind in order to see through all prejudice and anger from the rebellious ego.
You must accept people the way they are, even if we are talking about Hitler himself; because nobody is born evil, but the choices and the experiences growing up make good or evil.Learn to be the sage, the wise one who can see through this veil of prejudice.
And with this I am not saying that we should hug and kiss every damn idiot out there who rapes, murders, bullies, and even that talks down to you; however, I am saying that we must keep our minds peaceful and free of anger and anxiety, and I am saying that we must keep the attention on ourselves and not on judging others, because while you hate and judge others you are distancing yourself from self-love, you are letting evil into your own mind to take over, you are the one choosing wrong now, you are the one committing the sin.
Think about it and be wise in your own daily choices.