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A better approach

A better approach

Composure and emotional control. There are things we cannot control, events we cannot even see coming, and tragedies we cannot avoid. It is pointless to argue and whine about it, and even more pointless to victimize ourselves and stay angry at the world.

Assume a better approach. Ease your mind. Strengthen yourself by controlling your thoughts, your reactions, and your expectations. Tell yourself that nothing is a given, that anything can happen, and that you are okay with any outcome. Because it is about relaxing your mind and adapting to the situation.

Whatever the event. Whatever the loss. Whatever the tragedy. Whatever the injustice. Move on. Detach yourself from any strong desire, need, expectation. If to be happy means anything is freedom. Freedom to let go. Freedom to adapt to whatever life throws at you.

A better mind

If you pursue something–a relationship, a financial situation, a very personal event in your life–do it without attachment. Attachment is born from obsessing over something, from overthinking, from desiring too much, from putting your entire mind, heart, and hope into something.

You could accomplish and have all you want. Absolutely everything in this life. But if your mind does not have freedom, then you really haven’t accomplished anything at all. The freedom to let go and adapt. The freedom to accept and move on. This is the source of all happiness.

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Something real

Question yourself

What really tell us that we are in love?? What makes us loyal, committed, passionate and decided to remain in our relationships even through the passage of time?? Ever thought about this…?? And maybe this will go against what is popular and has been taught to you. Because the reality is that love must be natural.

Love must be something that is born easily in you, not something forced or that you must chase. The same with others, because you really have no say in how they feel, in how loyal and committed they are. No, it is unique to the individual and it must feel awakening, inspiring, something that makes you happy to be alive.

Something that lasts

Physical attraction is very important, but only if it doesn’t make you feel obsessed, needy, and highly overwhelmed with passion; because these, the intensity of them, cloud your judgement and rob you of freedom, and because these, also when highly intense, do not last either.

Real connection, loyalty that lasts, is not like in the highly erotic movies, when they rip each other’s clothes off and become filled with animal lust. If you feel like this, then is not true love that’s going to last, especially when men feel like this. Loyalty is a choice, but the right mindset must be established first; a mindset of peace harmony in the mind–freedom from animal lust.

The right mindset

And there is no 100% safety. You can only understand and control the way you love. But you can look for the right signs in somebody else, in their actions. Look for a mind that is free from attachment, a mind that doesn’t have any obsessions; and, especially, look for a mind that does not worship you, that does not put you on a pedestal like some trophy, but that sees the true value in you.

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About falling in love

Let it go, beautiful. The worries. The fears. The insecurities. And all that weighs you down. Nothing is as bad as the overthinking mind makes it out to be. Love the new colors, enjoy the new tastes, and appreciate the excitement your heart feels.

Leave the past behind. After all, who you were and what happened to you is gone. Dear, be kind and fair with yourself; evolve and create yourself, your life, your world now.

Listen to your heart, not to your mind and the anxiety it creates. Be patient and carefully analyze how you feel, what you feel, what you really want and how to get it.

And if you look inside and some pain still lingers there, do not run away from it. Do not judge it. Do not make yourself a victim. Twist that pain, mold that pain, and build steps with it in order to grow and empower yourself.

Sometimes we chain ourselves. Sometimes we live in desperation. Big mistake that slowly withers the soul and kills the will to live. So, rise above this, step out of your mind and see what is out there. Expand your horizons, your chances for happiness.

The heart wants what it wants, just make sure it inspires you and frees you from any anxiety. Darling, life is about loud colors, and extraordinary tastes, and wonderful excitement, and all that which wakes the rebel in you.

Because it’s all about that beautiful rebel, the one who dares love again and again, the one who sees the chains and manipulations out there, the one who changes things instead of letting things change them.

And when you fall in love, make sure you stay there. And when you find someone that inspires you to love yourself, vanish all your fears and insecurities to make room for them. Love the new colors, enjoy the new tastes, and appreciate the excitement your heart feels.

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What is it then??

Is the passion still there…??

So, a little bit of honesty. Being and remaining in love goes beyond passion and desire. Sometimes people who have been together for years say that the passion is just not there anymore.

But true love is about transmutation really. It’s about transforming the flaws you see, the negativity you feel, the boredom in life, the frustration you feel regarding the other person and the relationship.

What’s the issue here…??

It’s a very intimate and unique process, which is why many people fail at it. When you fail at it, obviously your ego seeks someone to blame. To avoid the hurt, you blame the other person.

But it’s truly a self-awareness issue. The love you feel, or the lack of it. The happiness you feel, or the lack of it. It is all your doing, in your mind, which might be a harsh truth to you.

So, what to do…??

But to feel loved, to love somebody else, and to feel happiness; it is all a choice you can make daily if you keep the attention on you, regardless of the events and people around you. So, love is not the issue in your life, or in the world.

The capacity for self-awareness in the individual indeed is the issue. So, don’t try to fall in love or to find happiness; but, instead, seek to pay attention to yourself in an intimate way. Seek, and enhance, your self-awareness.

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The exploration

When there is true love

When there is true love, there is a way. Where there is true love, you transform your fears into great possibilities.

When there is true love, you seek no excuses for change. When there is true love, you open yourself to the mystery and to the new that lies ahead.

All about mindset

Love must be an exploration in you, something that gives you freedom from the chains of the past, from the chains of old habits and traditions, from the chains of self-victimization and prejudice.

You cannot change everything in your life. You cannot control everything around you. But you can choose to love, because love gives you a positive and optimistic mindset, because that is what you need to attract better things into your life.

What changes you

Everything has a ripple effect. Kindness and compassion, that feeling born from choosing to see the positive and the good side of things. This will change you.

This will change the way you see and experience your life. This will transform you into a magnet for better things. Through patience, faith and commitment all is accomplished.

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When it comes to love…

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When it comes to love

It can feel like walking on water or air, so free and inspiring. But how do people know real love?? Because it is not exciting, or passionate, or something that goes low and then high, or something that makes you go crazy.

All this is the fulfillment of a need in you. You were depressed before, felt lonely; and now you found attraction, someone you like, and you confuse this exciting and new event in your life with true love. Is it true love though?? How sure are you??

When it comes to self-awareness

Sadly, the average human being, or most of us, are needy and always seeking fulfilment outside of us. So, if I don’t find it outside me, then I cannot feel loved and happy. And, if I do find it outside me, then I feel so loved and so happy.

This is very narcissistic, selfish, truly short in self-awareness; but it doesn’t sound like this to you, I’m sure, because it is how most of the world live so it is the “normal” way. But, the truth being, that it is all about making use of self-awareness in this life. Self-awareness will tell you if it is true love, true happiness.

When it comes to all pleasure

Self-awareness is like calming, never-ending waters in a vast ocean. So, when you meet someone, or when you sleep with someone, or when you marry someone, seek within your mind this self-awareness, this calming water.

Seek beyond any excitement, passion, sexual or emotional fulfillment. For us to find the truth, self-awareness, the real answers, we must go beyond the fulfillment or pleasure we feel. Fulfillment and pleasure are fine, but they are just superficial events.

When it comes to really knowing life

It’s like the agitated waters in the ocean. This agitation is not the true state of the waters, too much motion and things going on to really experience the majesty of the waters. It might be exciting, but it has to end at some point.

So, always seek self-awareness, beyond the superficial things you think and feel. Seek the peace. If you’re patient enough, the peace, the calmness, will speak the truth to you about love, happiness, and about all the things you experience in life.

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What is a desire??

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So I desire you, but beyond desire.

This longing. This need. This urge. This impulse. This passion that burns in me. It can be blinding. It can distort my reality and make me selfish.

It is a burden on my day. A constant itch that makes me impatient. A thing in my mind which makes me attached to what is not mine.

So, I analyze the sweltering passion in this desire. So, I become the watcher of my longing. What is it?? The surface. The smoothness and ruggedness of the thought material.

The muse of my dreams and nightmares. And the muse is beautiful, like a perfect scented flower. And the muse is deceitful, like a controlling lover.

But beyond my desire’s surface I find its very material, its core, its love’s essence. Why do I love it?? Why do I want it so?? It speaks to me. But only when I discover it.

This essence I love, I cannot live without, is the ocean of my existence. And I am my existence, am I not?? I’ve discovered my own existence, which my mind chooses to call desire when it points to you.

So I desire you, but beyond desire.

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Meaning of ‘I love you’…

I love you…??

Just because I say ‘I love you’ does not mean it so. Sometimes it means ‘I admire you’. Sometimes it means ‘You intrigue me’. Sometimes it just means ‘I feel a connection to you and I want to explore it.’

Love, true and pure love, is extremely rare now-a-days; and it’s a long process that, through time and through patience, inspires me, and inspires you. I must get to know you well first. You must break down your walls and your pretentions with me.

But what is beyond it..??

And it is in the psychological and emotional safety we feel, because this must be total freedom from anxiety, freedom from fear to ever fail ourselves. Forget “falling in love”. Forget “trying to make it work”.

Mature love is such: ‘A sacred process of exploration of my Self through you, and through your openness with me.’ ‘A process of exploration of your Self through me, and through my openess with you.’ Nothing more. Nothing less.

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Dating & Relationships

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Let it flow naturally

Women and men. We are not so different. In the sense that we all seek to be acknowledged and accepted for who we are. That is how affection and all love grows in any relationship. We accept each other as we are, without judgment, without playing games.

When 2 people meet, the games should be let go. In order to grow we must be vulnerable. In order to truly be ourselves and connect we must let ourselves be ourselves, without trying to impress and pretend to be someone we are not.

Let yourself be authentic

I have been guilty of that in past relationships. I am not proud of it, but I sure have learned from making those mistakes. Sometimes it becomes this game of trying to sound smoother, more intelligent, super cool, and even more attractive, as we see it, for the other person. But this is actually hurting our chances. The other person is looking for authenticity, for someone real.

There are too many fake people out there, trying hard to be another person; so it’s very unique and refreshing to be really who you are, being mature enough to leave these childish games others play. This mature behavior not only makes us more attractive, but it also strengthens our character in all aspects of life.

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That special someone

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To love another

It’s about your mind, not people. To find, and to always keep, a person special for you, your mind has to let go of the painful memories you’ve lived, your mind must become free of judgment, your mind’s duty must be then to stop self-pity and self-doubt.

To love another, to care for another, to see the value in another, is easy if you lose all the fear and anxiety that comes from trying to control the way someone is or the way someone should be. Pay attention: We don’t truly love someone because we need. We love someone because we want.

And wanting to love someone is a decision, and a hearfelt desire, only your mind makes. Is not fate or destiny. Is not a thread connecting 2 hearts. Let’s leave romance aside. Because it’s about your mind, the freedom in it from judgment, and the capacity to silence its noise.

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