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Self-Analysis

A Little Tough Love

I guess it is easier and more convenient for many of us to complain, to victimize ourselves, to blame society for our troubles. But, to be straightforward, it is not the smart thing to do. You know me, guys. I don’t like to sugarcoat anything. I have suffered a lot in life, so I have learned much discipline for myself as a very happy consequence.

I am tough with myself, so I am the same way with my writing here. And this mental toughness led me to write uniquely my fantasy stories. (By the way, feel free to check out my books in this site, so you know what I’m talking about). And so, let’s see, we all have desires, passions, goals. Maybe we are decided. Maybe not so much. But the smart way is to start and never complain. To keep going.

There is no failure

How to keep going?? By getting out of your own head, by shaking yourself and changing your mental habits, and by blaming only yourself for your path in life. It might sound harsh, but it is required to be tough with ourselves to stop focusing on others and shift that focus onto ourselves. Anyone can do anything, with patience, with commitment, with love for what you want. This is an unwavering love that makes no excuses and that believes not in failure. Ever not in failure.

We don’t really fail, we learn and move on. So, remember that. It is all perspective. Loser believe in failure. Winners believe in lessons learned. We, winners, move on and keep creating, keep working, keep taking small steps towards our goals. It is about you, about commitment to yourself, about feeling good about you and your character. Self-victimization takes us nowhere. You want power?? Then keep going without complaining. It is what I do, so it is what I know works.

How You Become Stronger

If you are going to do it, do it with passion and perseverance. Make sure that is what you truly want. Envision obstacles and challenges first. Imagine yourself going through heartache and disappointment. Ready yourself for whatever the future may hold. For this, use your imagination and intuition.

In this way, you will become stronger and you will not give up easily. And so, you will go on because of you, because you are stronger of mind now; and you will also understand that the government, and all the people, and all the events around you do not matter in your unique story. Because only you matter.

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Self-care 101

Take Responsibility

A little tough love, because the truth might hurt your ego now; but only this brings true freedom, which is increased capacity for love and happiness. The world around you does not understand what love and happiness is. They do not understand where it originates either. But why should you remain one more amongst the sheep and ignorant??

So, the way we show ourselves care, love, empathy, and commitment to our own well-being is not just by desiring it. It’s by taking action and getting out of our comfort zones. You research for food that is healthy for you. You avoid buying foods that are unhealthy for you. You commit to exercise and you make it your priority.

Stop with The Excuses

You must put yourself first and dedicate time for these activities. Ignore commercials trying to sell you what is not healthy. Ignore what your family and friends eat. Ignore what the world shoves in front of you as bad influence, because your health and happiness is only something you create by personal/individual action.

You cannot blame, or put the responsibility on others when it comes to this. This might sound harsh to you, but as long as you keep seeking excuses, or even postponing it, you will not become truly self-aware. Self-awareness begins inside you and it is about getting rid of your stubbornness, comfort, and ignorance. Accept and live the truth.

Get rid of all your bad habits. All of them. Study your actions and see what you have to change. Do not dwell on it. Do not overthink it. Because, if you do, then excuses will take over and kill the light of intelligence dawning in your mind. And, think about it, it is not just about you; but it is about giving the best example to the ones you love. Are you still making excuses??

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The Only Constant

The Self That I Am

Who am I…?? I am not a man of many words really. I do like to write my thoughts and feelings, perceptions and discoveries; however, in person, I’m not really into chit-chatting or talking too much. Not even with my neighbors, friends, or even family. I like to be direct and blunt when I speak.

I like to observe and keep my personal, innermost discoveries or thoughts to myself, unless I feel a need to make myself heard by others, which it rarely happens because I don’t really concern myself with what others think or feel about my behavior or the way I am. And it is so because I value my mental freedom more than anything else in life.

What I Know For Certain

And I know that in society it is promoted and influenced in us to always be extremely friendly, and smile a lot, and to be very kind, and to be accepting of everything in terms of other people’s behaviors. But this is why most people, without knowing, fall into fakeness.

Not being yourself entirely, or adjusting yourself to your surroundings or to the feelings of others, is just very exhausting and damaging to your own mental wellbeing. This inevitably leads to physical illnesses and traumas, no matter your age or emotional strength. It is just not me, because it is not freedom.

The Heights of Self

What I am, what I seek, what I value the most above everything else is freedom. Freedom to tell it how it is. Freedom to control my failure and success. Freedom to control what I choose, what and how I feel, and what I want in my path and direction in life.

Not fitting into philosophies, and into groups, and into systems, and into romantic ideals. Because fitting into these, whether you understand it or not, means you are enslaved, which means you cannot be entirely yourself because somebody else controls you. Once you fully accept yourself, and put yourself above everything else, is simple really.

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Just a choice…

To me, love is not something in particular, or something that you need to chase related to money, relationships, social status, religion, or anything else like it. Love is a state of mind, a constant view in life, a daily choice you make without any influence from the outside world.

TO LOVE…

How do you love somebody..??

You don’t chain yourself to a dream.

You don’t chase the water’s reflection.

You don’t hold back the thrills of your heart.

So how do you love somebody…??

Like a bright candle lit out at night.

Like a happy kid who plays and plays.

Like colorful flowers beautifying the fields.

Because to love is first to live your life fully.

Because embracing life is the essence of love.

I love you because I live daily to discover life.

I love you because I find daily the beauty in life.

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Being in Love

So, why not ‘Being in Love’ instead of ‘Falling in Love’?? Falling in love there is a chance you may also fall out. Whatever you fear, makes you feel shy, or anxious in any way, has also the capacity to strengthen you, make you feel accomplished and joyful. It’s all in your mental approach.

Denial of the fear, trying to escape how you feel, distracting yourself while ignoring the signs. All this closes your mind, makes you stubborn, does not help you feel better, and so love becomes a distant thing you chase.

So, what do you do?? You become your own detective. You stay with yourself, observe yourself, what thoughts you have and how they come and go. You become aware of the self-pity you carry, the fear, the excitement, and all the anxiety (good or bad).

You don’t do anything about it. Just be present in the details. Soon, just by observing, you’ll find out how silly and ridiculous all your doubts and fears were. You’ll figure out that you have created this pessimistic world in your mind.

And when you become aware then, your mind expands; and you love more, and feel more capable, and see your true value. And now you are finally becoming awake for the 1st time. And, as you know yourself like this, you start understanding people, the world, and why things happen the way they happen.

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Energy & Choices

A thing needed

In life, in all aspect, nothing is needed more than patience. Most of the time, that is what is required to move on. To start anew, things need to evolve at their own pace; and all questions will be answered at the right moment.

We are capable of doing anything, but the mind must be disciplined through patience first. That is rising above your own psychological and emotional misery, which is attachment to pleasure and to pain from your past, and attachment to your desires and frustrations about what may or may not come.

A thing we choose

The path is whatever you choose, wherever your actions take you, and it involves the state of your mind first. What creates your life is your actions, but the source of that life is the energy you create. Positive energy will create positive actions. Negative energy will create negative actions.

That is how one creates one’s life. A good life, a life we want. A not so good life, a life we learn to despise. It all starts in Creation. Creation begins in the mind. The mind is its own content. The content is based on your positivity or negativity. That is why choice is each moment, and it begins in the mind.

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The One Bad Habit

So much of it

And why is it…? ? Over and over again. So much thinking, pondering, trying to resolve, demanding ourselves to know why it isn’t working. Most of our lives is spent like this. Most of the time we are not even aware of this damaging habit.

Damaging habit because it stresses us, it might make us create false scenarios in our heads. Then negative feelings, depression, doubt, self-victimization. These make our lives seem like a burden, like something that cannot be changed. I’ve been there. You’ve been there.

But it’s about listening

It is not really nature to fall for this trick, this programming of the mind, instead of listening to intuition, to the buried voices of nourishment, hope and positivity that we all have deep inside.

It’s easy to listen to intuition when everything goes as expected in your life though. It’s not that easy when events deviate from what we want, right?? So, this is the challenge we all face. Look at it as a marathon, not a race.

And it is always there

Don’t rush yourself. Take your time. Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. The key is to go back and remind ourselves to become aware, to stay aware. Each time, like this, we strengthen this muscle of the mind, like we can strengthen a muscle in the body by repetition.

And so, that is how intuition is strengthened, by slowly and patiently getting rid of the clutter in your mind, by weakening the programming/the habit of the mind of overthinking. The power is always there, just buried deep under intellectual layers that make us question our own capacities to feel accomplished and happy.

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Rising, becoming, being

What are your unique core values…??

Reflecting on your core values involves taking time to think about what is most important to you, for your growth. You can start by asking yourself questions such as: What do I value most in life?? What brings me true happiness and fulfillment without clinging to others/events/things??

What principles do I want to live by?? You can also think about times when you felt particularly challenged or fulfilled and what values were present in those situations. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can also be helpful in the reflection process.

Who are you…??

Just know that by doing this, with honesty, you are 90% ahead of the world, since most people do not realize their own internal power and thus cling to the events in society instead of really investing in self-knowledge.

And no one can really tell you who you are, what truly brings you everlasting happiness, and what is your purpose in existence in this society. These are matters that can only be discovered by you, by reflecting on them, without letting any infatuation and obsession for anything outside you influence you and your choices.

What is truly real…??

Growing up, maturing, experience your life is a challenge. Parents, friends, people and ads on TV, old philosophies, new philosophies, religions, scriptures–these will all try to steer you one way or the other, these will all try to mold your conscience however they think is best or better for you.

But, no matter your loyalty to them, all these still are outside influences of no real substance (because the only real substance is you). Nothing is real but you, which means nothing can manifest true love and happiness in your life unless you manifest it yourself, by knowing you and by letting go of all outside reflections/confusions.

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New Stories

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We tell stories each day

Life is personal storytelling. We tell stories in our minds, and to ourselves, every day, do we not?? I do not like this. I do like this. I do not trust this way. I trust this way. I am hurt by this. I do not care about this. This and that. Experiences, for positive or negative, we create for ourselves.

But the best storytelling comes from freedom from rules, from emotional openness, and from daily wrestling with new ideas without giving up. The stories you tell yourself in your mind. You must create new stories.

Freedom is key

Freedom from rules of how to think, feel, and live. Freedom from how you thought, felt, and lived in the past. Each day is a new day, and you must live accordingly in order to experience yourself anew.

Experiencing yourself anew means creating how you think and feel now, detached from your past, from what happened to you, from who you were, from who others were, from the dreams and desires you once had.

Cut the cord

Because what truly matters is the joy you get from the exploration, right now, without bias from past experiences, without you clinging to past events and desires. It’s about the Now and the Tomorrow. What you feel now creates your life Now.

What you feel now is creating your life for Tomorrow as well. So, you must be able to cut the cord to your past, and especially cut the cord to the mindset acquired from your past. That cord, precisely, is what holds you back from better thinking, feeling, and from better things in life.

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Letting go to free yourself

The road inwards

Each man’s life is really a road towards himself, and it is in dealing with himself that he discovers that every experience in the world emerges from himself. The way he chooses to think and feel about the breakups, about the loss of his house, about the poverty he experiences, and about everything else entirely is the key to his failure or success.

Because when we meet a person we love or hate, or when we think that we are valued or not valued, or when we feel that we can or cannot do this, or whatever it is, there lies our bias. The mindset we have. The attachment to that mindset. Because it’s all about the content of our minds and the perspective we choose to see and experience from something lived.

Observe yourself

It is these brains we have, they compartmentalize everything. So, if you attach yourself to anything, and it is then not what you expected, you start believing that it is not you but them. But if you become self-aware, you realize that you are indeed your best friend and also your worst enemy. You just didn’t know it before because you were too self-involved.

You are alone in the world, and yet you attach the way you think and feel to others. It is their brains, that confuse people who are not aware, which, sadly, it is most people in the world. So, in living life, do not remain attached to mindsets. Whatever these mindsets are, you can never know the truth of yourself and of life through them.

Let it go

Mindsets are like groups in society. They will enslave you without your knowledge. They will become bias to your thinking and feeling. They won’t allow you to remain open-minded to all there is to understand in life. They will put you in a box and limit the way you see that life. You can’t really expand your awareness like this.

Only in letting go from the attachment to your own mind you can discover happiness. Or you can be like most people, chase money and more knowledge, and more relationships and goals, and more beauty and popularity, and this and that, and then end up frustrated and confused because happiness escapes you. But whatever you choose to do, always remind yourself that it’s all you.