When we experience anything at all, our minds create thoughts regarding that experience; however, our task and challenge is to choose those thoughts with wisdom, thus lead ourselves to happy outcomes.
But, having said that, most of the population of the world are ignorant of this, even though they can be good people they let thoughts randomly guide them, thus create the outcomes in their lives; and this is so because the ego lives in the reaction of the ignorant.
In order to tame your own ego, control and choose your thoughts, so people, events, and the world do not control you, you must be fully conscious and aware of your reactions, you must not react but wait, give time to information to be analyzed, gather facts and involve the wisdom of your heart.
If you only react based on knowledge your ego gives you in the moment, you might just fall prey of your stubborn ignorance.
True intelligence to decide does not live in the mind, because in the mind you only find facts and data your physical senses gather; and precisely this most of the time may trick you.
True intelligence is absorbed by your heart through Infinite Intelligence; and there is where you find wisdom to make big decisions.
True intelligence is the one you must use daily, and true intelligence comes from the Infinite Mind, known as the subconscious mind. The subconscious works through the silencing of your mortal mind/your ego/the brute thoughts popping up all the time.
When your heart is pure, or without the influence of your ego and the beliefs and reactive thoughts it forces upon it, then you can listen to this Infinite Intelligence or subconscious; thus, patient and wise communion with your heart and its whispering give you that mighty insight you need into any decision you make.
Be patient, don’t react, wait for the heart, do not follow simply your impulsive ego.