If you want to keep the love flowing, alive, burning constantly, deep and mature, make every day an adventure–prioritize adventure. The human mind gets bored and lazy with routines in relationships and in life in general, so bring a challenge to your mind, behave consciously, assume your role as woman or man of deep emotional understanding. This has to become more important than routine, otherwise affection will wither in time. And by adventure I do not mean go bungee jumping or run a marathon together, and I know most of the time people do these things because they think it really creates a rising in love in them, an eternal bond which grows in them; however fine and creative these activities, I am talking about deeper understanding, activities more at the emotional level.
Emotions and getting to the root of emotions is the key to access that power and that unity in all relationships. See, thrills and physical adventures are fine but they speak to the intellectual level, the level of likes and dislikes, the level of the ego and its activities–which, like mentioned, are fine and enjoyable, specially in the beginning of a relationship where everything is new and exciting like the new toy, because we are getting to know and enjoy each other’s presence and attraction. But it is the intellect where love is really…?? Can you truly find love if you live and enjoy each other from the mind’s point of view only…?? So how do you love somebody if you access only your ego/your mind/your intellectual witty and charm all the time…?? What is adventure at the emotional level in relationships…?? What is helping each other discover a deeper bond, a deeper union which can withstand all fear and challenges rising in the mind…??
Emotions are indeed what drive us. You can have the highest IQ, be really intellectual, be a great philosopher, but emotions will drive you without a doubt; and that is why it is so important to be emotionally conscious, or emotionally connected to yourself. In relationships, what shall build mutual bonding and unions beyond the anomalies and challenges brought by time is an emotional understanding and connection which surpasses that union of the mind–an emotional connection will drive your love for each other ever stronger, and an intellectual connection will help but it won’t be enough because the mind gets scared, angry, stubborn, enslaved by likes and dislikes, by moods in time.
And emotional adventure is profound communication, feeling trusted, feeling appreciated for how you feel not for what you do or for what you say only. Emotional adventure is supporting one another and feeling as one team, and not as two people with different paths who happen to live together or share a mutual liking. Wherever we go we hold hands, we smile at each other and feel what the other one feels, we are in harmony/in sync, we vibe the same through aging/through time, etc. etc… Only emotional understanding, emotional adventure, can unite two persons for life…
Do you realize that eternity is here, now, with you, even though it might be extremely difficult to experience for you….?? Do you know what is it that shades or blocks eternity from human experience…??
Eternity is something absolutely free, a condition of existence without the tyranny of space and time; furthermore, eternity is egolessness and Oneness, a state where no duality exists and all boundaries are vanished. Humanity is bound and bullied by ego, by its nature of desire and prejudice; and so, ego is thought and thought gives birth to time and space, and time and space turns matter into decaying dust under the rule of that despot known as fear. But can you think of a moment where you have experienced eternity, egolessness and timelessness, even if you didn’t realize it at the time…??
The swift moment when you gaze into a loved one’s eyes without a thought of desire or any attachment in your mind. The very peak of lovemaking, called orgasm, when desire has left and there is only Oneness and a pure harmony throughout your existence. A deep meditative state, called by some superconsciousness, where thought is not ruling the mind and so this one is empty because no attention seeks ego… These are indeed some of the moments of the higher states of consciousness which allow us to experience eternity, because you are living purely in the moment here and you are not choosing a direction or a desire; but in these moments you are without ego and absolutely free from time and space.
As you go about your life and experience your mind faltering and your body decaying, know and understand that eternity is what you truly are under the layers of your ego and the time ruling your corroding body. When you are threatened by fear and confusion in any way overwhelming your mind, seek magical comfort in that you have already experienced eternity and it is the reality of all existence; and that when you leave your physical body, you shed these layers of ego and time, and so what is left is eternity itself.
“God exists in eternity. The only point where eternity meets time is in the present. The present is the only time there is. ~ Marianne Williamson; American spiritual teacher, author, and lecturer.