So, pain, suffering, challenges, any traumas we may carry, are important in the formation of our character. You forge steel by extreme heat, and the same is with our characters–we must explore our pain to rise up and forge ourselves to be steel, to learn and be stronger in life.
But, even so, many people get addictive to pain, to their own traumas, to their own chaos lived in the past; in a sense, they are unconsciously choosing their own fate, how they feel and how they will experience their lives based on their addiction to their own pain.
This is getting lost in your pain, and this is why people live in their nightmares and feel depressed, or feel worthless, or feel neglect, or feel a void deep inside. Be honest with yourself: Is it rational to make your pain, your hurt, your troubles, your whole life and the way you feel…??
To reach healing, to prosper in all aspects, to truly feel happy and with opportunities to create a better life for yourself you must not drown in your sorrows; but you must see that your pain is to be cherished and felt as a source of energy you can turn into strength to move on and create beauty from it.
What you seek in life is not found in your pain, but it is indeed found using your pain as energy to be positive and create better things for yourself. Drowning in your sorrows is an unconscious addiction and obsession which is not healthy in your life; so you must let it go.
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