But the problem in relationships can be too much thinking. Thinking why she has changed like this. Thinking about what to do to avoid being hurt. Thinking about how to be better. How to do this and do that.
Even starting to see how others behave in their relationships in comparison to mine. Because the sole thinking and thinking brings the burden and makes loving the other person an obstacle. When relationships become this intellectual and egotistical, the purity of love vanishes.
Exploring one another
Say, for example, judging or analyzing everything the other person does. Just because we are in a relationship doesn’t mean we have to be exactly the same and have the same likes and dislikes. So, there has to be respect and that open-mindedness to explore and learn from each other.
The desire and passion for one another lies in this process of exploration. The exploration takes you to understand new things, to expand your awareness, to rid your mind from the frustration of judging him/her. So you become free. And this freedom brings you peace of mind.
And this peace of mind is what true love is. So, you see, if your mind is burdened by anything in the relationship, then you bury true love beneath all this loud and irritating ego. And that’s when the big problems and the dumb excuses begin. It’s then wiser to avoid these.