Observe The Darkness.

When the mind is rushing, thoughts are churning, anger festering, or anxiety overpowering your thinking, or when your ego is annoyed in any way, a relaxation is required, a whole moment of patience must be taken.

Reacting to your sudden impulses is what makes you volatile, attached to immoral behaviors and thoughtless decisions; and, as long as you keep doing this, you will remain immature and deluding yourself in your life, no matter how young or old you are.

Having a sincere dialogue with yourself, a tranquil and unexcited communication in your mind with yourself, before you react with your sudden outbursts will give you clarity on your decisions and on your daily behaviors.

Ask yourself why you react this way, how to be less rash or impulsive in your thinking, what is the best way to react in a relationship.  The way you think and behave will design your character, your personality; so, if you behave thoughtfully, morally, consciously, then you will be that in your persona and you will illumine your decisions in all aspects in life.

WHEN YOU OBSERVE THE DARKNESS, YOUR WEAKNESSES, YOUR IMMORALITY, YOUR IRRATIONALITY, YOUR OWN SELFISH AND UNHEALTHY DESIRES, THEN YOU OBSERVE YOURSELF.  YOU FACE FEAR AND NEGLECTS; THAT PART OF YOURSELF THAT IS HIDDEN.  BY OBSERVING, BY THIS VERY FACT OF SEEING, YOU TRANSFORM YOUR DARKNESS INTO LIGHT.

This seems intellectually proper and easy to do, even obvious; however, people do not actually do this in their daily lives though, because they choose to remain unconscious and attached to their old psychological patterns.

They do this as a subconscious way to deny their own darkness, immorality, weaknesses, and what they do not like about themselves.  But the reality is that you cannot evolve into a better human being until you recognize this darkness in yourself and turn it into light.