Seeking Our Worth
Relationships are difficult. Life is difficult. But, as I see it, it doesn’t have to be. People hide things from each other. People fear being themselves. People judge others based on their past experiences–past hurt and otherwise. We all do this at some point in our lives. The worst we can do is try to make up excuses for it, or even deny it.
And, I have been there as well, where sometimes one feels unworthy, or depressed about how things are going in life, or somewhat afflicted by society and by the pressures of it. Maybe finances are down. Or something very personal affects us in a way that makes us feel negative in terms of who we are. And I think this comes due to seeking our worth in the exterior.
Falsity in Exterior Pursuits
How others are doing. The latest fashions being worn. The greatest techs. Examples from celebrities and what not. A sure way to lose our identity in the vast sea out there. But we are really meant to discover ourselves, which is the only purpose in life. Forming relationships, family, kids, our jobs, money, career, traveling, etc–it all comes second because these are just exterior pursuits.
And why are these exterior pursuits?? Because, as great, noble and pleasurable as these are, these cannot bring true happiness. They are tethered to the roller coaster of life. One day we can get all we want and be joyous. Another day everything brings us down because it doesn’t result as expected. The rate race, in a manner of speaking. Great experiences, but the wrong place to seek happiness.
The Truth About Happiness
Because happiness is something we are always in control, because we choose it. It is not chosen based on our relationship satisfaction level. It is not chosen based on how much money we make or the life we can afford. And it is definitely not based on the success we have in society–in any of its terms. Happiness is of our minds. Happiness really is a mindset. Your life can be in shambles.
People do not like you. You hate your job, your boss, your hours, your pay. Still, you choose to be happy and contented with your life currently. You try to excel at something you like. You pursue your passions with all your might. But you don’t complain and make excuses in your mind. Keep your mind negativity free.
Physical Health is First
Then you train your mind to always be happy. Now, I am not saying is easy. Obviously it is not. But, that’s what it takes to be truly happy. Self-discipline. Promise yourself that no matter what happens around you, or outside you, you will choose to be happy. There is no more than that really. Self-love. Of course, you must watch what you eat and be healthy.
If you feel sick, in physical pain in any way, then it’ll be almost impossible to keep that promise to yourself. When we are physically sick or in pain, then our minds become full of tension and anxiety. In this chaotic mind, we cannot choose positivity and happiness. So, be kind to yourself. To your body and mind. And no excuses–do that favor to yourself.
- Asa Rodriguez - 