Keeping things inside you in relationships, or being emotionally closed. Pretending, just to keep the peace and not argue. Being impulsive in conversations and letting your frustration take over. This all can lead to secrets, to lies, to misbehaving, to lose trust and connection. Communicating is all about being honest with each other. This means finding the right way to say something and sharing your opinion in a respectful way. This can be challenging when you don’t agree on something.
But not agreeing on something can be healthy, because it means you have the chance to learn a new perspective. Learning a new perspective can help you understand in a more profound way the other person. That is the key to successful relationships, to learn from each other, to grow as individuals and as a team. So, you acknowledge his/her point of view, leave your ego, leave your pride, and try to get closer to the way of thinking and feeling of the other person.
With respect, patiently, and without being impulsive or reactive then your relationship grows. Any relationship. This is the challenge for the one passionate enough to truly love another. And having passion, in a mature relationship, means to find the proper way to nurture that relationship for you and your partner; so you both can grow together, learn together, even if you have different opinions and points of view.
A little bit from “I ALWAYS LOVED YOU – Creatures of Eternal Love” – A book about true love and successful relationships.
“Love is not anger, and has nothing to do with anger. Love is not possessive or controlling, and it has nothing to do with that. Love is not envious or jealous, no matter what you tell yourself. Love seeks not to win arguments, because love knows no competition...
“Love is eternally truthful, because it has nothing to do with lies. Love is beyond romance, friendship and all other labels; for love is the energy which connects even the murderer to the saint. A love like this truly beautifies life...”
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