Deeper roots…

For most of humanity, sadly, relationship is a give and take relation based on dependency, attachment, sometimes obsession and even harmful addiction.  And many rush into these relationships because the man or woman looks physically attractive, or because there is great intellect, or a good economic stand, or good conversation; however, these traits, as alluring as they might be for you, are attached to time and space, which means flesh decay, the emotional roller coaster, and the various moods tied to different outer situations in life.

So, is this the essence of love or just something more superficial…??

Human love is a give and take–i.e., I love you if you care and love me back, I want a relationship if you look attractive enough and if you are intelligent enough, I will be with you if you are always nice to me and make me feel good, etc.  Humans have created concepts like friendship love, romantic love, sexual love, and the rest.  This human love has or comes with judging, jealousy, hatred, etc.   This human love, even though people call it love, is really attachment–i.e., a superficial form of “love” the ego creates out of fear of being alone, fear of not being like the rest, fear of not keeping tradition, etc. etc. 

But the essence of divine love is pure, does not ask for anything, it is a deeper connection–I love because I love, in the process of loving I find happiness, and I do not depend on anything or anybody to feel loved and happy.‘  This love essence is pure, ABSOLUTE freedom, not ties to moods, characters, ways of the flesh, emotional roller coasters, aging, economical issues, papers of marriage, and the rest of the petty human condition in relationships.

“For most of us, relationship with another is based on dependence, either economic or psychological.  This dependence creates fear, breeds in us possessiveness, results in friction, suspicion, frustration.”  ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti.