Heart of a relationship.

A deeper understanding and realization in order to find solutions which work for both parties, and also to mitigate misunderstandings and any psychological or even physical violence. Listening is the biggest part of a healthy communication, which is done only if your entire attention is on this process of listening.

If while communicating your attention is on your own thoughts and you are thinking on your reply to argue further, then you are losing the meaning of the communication, because you are disconnecting from this art form and you are distancing yourself from the other person or persons.  This ignorant act certainly creates a mind which is agitated, confused, violent, which lashes out at the ones around it; consequently, bringing its own suffering and walking away from one’s own heart.

Wholeness of attention is to delve deeply into it, it is to stop your rushing mind when someone else speaks and being there wholly, listening without judgement; and because you cannot know everything, the inward act of attention conveys a message of humility saying, “I care about someone else’s feelings and not just my own, so I take the time to respect the other person as I’d like to be respected.

“Whatever you focus your attention on will become important to you even if it’s unimportant.” ~ Sonya Parker; American relationship writer, vloger, coach, and activist.