“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”
~ Jiddu Krishnamurti
The key is in observing the pain, not running away from it.
We all struggle, we all carry our burdens; however, one must understand that they are there for a reason.
What is life without this understanding…??
Much more pain, struggle, unhappiness, frustration and anger.
I’ve had much pain growing up. I’ve suffered my own struggles, like I’m sure you’ve suffered yours. We are all still suffering in some aspect. Finances. Relationships. Illnesses. Psychological and emotional burdens. The past. The future. There is always some pain and tragedy in our lives, and quite often we bury these deeply within ourselves so we don’t show weaknesses. It is a subconscious choice to bury the pain and seek to escape it or ignore it through some other distraction or entertainment. Maybe through work. Perhaps through eating. Maybe through seeking relationships. Or through some kind of denial process. But this is really unhealthy. The key is to feel free, confident, powerful, by yourself, in yourself, to create a better life; but with all this pain it becomes impossible sometimes.
But have you ever asked yourself, seriously, why the pain, the hurt, the suffering happens…?? Why do we all go through so much?? What is the point?? Suffering comes out of our choices, even when we don’t know that they will bring suffering. But suffering is meant to teach you something, to awaken you into some aspect of life, to push you to become better. Of course, if we deny this, or if we remain angry and arrogant, then we won’t learn anything; because in order to actually learn from the suffering our minds must be free of any anxiety. If there is anxiety, anger and the rest, then we will pay attention to it while missing the lesson of that struggle or hurt.
I am talking about the choice we unconsciously make of attaching ourselves to our self-pity, to our mental drama, to our depression, to our past memories of pain, and to all those things that create a lot of overthinking in our minds. Overthinking makes the suffering worse. Overthinking does not help, because it brings more pointless questions and drama instead of helping us move on. And, in order to understand your life and your suffering, then you have to calm your mind, observe your own choice to attach your attention to mental drama. You must be aware of your own mind. Awareness is putting attention not on the event that happened, not on the memory; but it is putting attention on your own reactive feelings towards what happened to change them, and it is not choosing to suffer those events. Because in order to move on and be happy creating a better life, then you must leave attachment to the images and words of suffering in your mind. To be happy, you have to free your mind of struggle and pain. You must choose this all the time.
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