Something real

Question yourself

What really tell us that we are in love?? What makes us loyal, committed, passionate and decided to remain in our relationships even through the passage of time?? Ever thought about this…?? And maybe this will go against what is popular and has been taught to you. Because the reality is that love must be natural.

Love must be something that is born easily in you, not something forced or that you must chase. The same with others, because you really have no say in how they feel, in how loyal and committed they are. No, it is unique to the individual and it must feel awakening, inspiring, something that makes you happy to be alive.

Something that lasts

Physical attraction is very important, but only if it doesn’t make you feel obsessed, needy, and highly overwhelmed with passion; because these, the intensity of them, cloud your judgement and rob you of freedom, and because these, also when highly intense, do not last either.

Real connection, loyalty that lasts, is not like in the highly erotic movies, when they rip each other’s clothes off and become filled with animal lust. If you feel like this, then is not true love that’s going to last, especially when men feel like this. Loyalty is a choice, but the right mindset must be established first; a mindset of peace harmony in the mind–freedom from animal lust.

The right mindset

And there is no 100% safety. You can only understand and control the way you love. But you can look for the right signs in somebody else, in their actions. Look for a mind that is free from attachment, a mind that doesn’t have any obsessions; and, especially, look for a mind that does not worship you, that does not put you on a pedestal like some trophy, but that sees the true value in you.